Yanattheloom - Untitled

U ever notice that the trans archetypes the things that become big talking points and we have endless sludge discourse over forever are all always centered around trans women and what they do or don't do or what they like or don't like. have you ever seen anyone argue that a trans man binding or changing his posture & body language or getting gender affirming surgery is giving into sexist stereotypes? I haven't. Have you seen transmascs, their interests, their hobbies and their community, turned into prepackaged archetypes to crack unfunny jokes about like trans women are? I haven't. and i've certainly never seen people pound their fists loudly about how dangerous and fundamentally unsafe transmascs are, how they shouldn't be allowed in childcare or healthcare or working with women. I think literally every single creator or blogger i've followed who's been unpersoned in public consciousness overnight has been transfem It must be nice to simply be. It must be nice to not have to scrutinize yourself every second of every day, to not have the knowledge that everyone around you has such an easy way to turn you into a joke or a danger, and if they don't then they can invent one.

"TERFs don't actually hate men; they actually see trans women as women because they engage in transmisogyny against us!"

I'm sorry to burst your bubble, but I don't think that "ExterminatetheYchromosome.tumblr.com" thinks that we're women because we say we are...

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It also bothers me how aspecs have been conditioned to not take up space. If you do anything more serious than a vent joke, you're being dramatic and faking oppression. If you demand to be taken seriously in the conversation, you're being childish and annoying. If you speak up about the role that erasing aspec identities plays in the preservation of heteronormativity, you're an idiot. If you implore to be heard in talks about queer issues, you're wasting resources and being ridiculous. Our points of view are thrown aside, we're only tolerable if we're harmless and let others advocate for us, and god forbid we ask our supposed allies to deconstruct their biases, cuz then we're mean and know nothing about the world. It's exhausting.

btw assuming that every single "cishet looking man" you meet is a cishet man and can't possibly ever be transfeminine will never help anyone, ever. assuming that "cishet looking men" are men because they don't show any hint of femininity is participating in transfem erasure. to all the transfems who can't present femme, are scared to come out, boymode most or all of the time, can't afford to replace their wardrobe, like how they currently dress and/or "look like a cishet man," you do not deserve this instant invalidation of who you are.

assuming a stranger's identity is never the way to go. i don't care if you're "scared" of "cishet looking men," but you literally can't tell based off of how someone is dressed. it's exceptionally hard and dangerous to be out as a transfem person in public. you have to accept that a lot of transfems are stealth and boymoding and passing as "perfectly straight looking men" for safety and comfort reasons. it's not an attack on you- it's for their safety. stop assuming how people identify based off of how they present and act in public. you don't know who they are. you have no right to be "scared"

and they will cup your face in their warm palms, trace the tiredness sleeping on your cheeks with their thumbs, whispering everything that you ever needed to hear. you'll feel found. you'll feel seen. you'll feel loved.

Ive so many people tell me im a rapist for being a lesbian Ive been called a predator and a danger to both gay men and lesbians I have been called a pedo and an abuser for my kinks and fetishes Ive been told to kill myself because of my kinks and my identity all of these done by people who knew that I am not a trans woman not one of these people thought I was amab but yeah you're right those tme people don't understand what its like to be called out and ostracized and verbally abused for no reason they have no idea what that's like to be demonized for being trans they have no idea what its like to have people abuse them for having kinks other people don't like Youre so right the tmes can just do whatever they want no one is ever mean to them about sex and their sexual preferences you're so right

a long time ago i watched a tik tok from an older trans woman, in her 60’s or 70’s. someone had commented on another video of hers asking “why don’t we ever see trans men from your generation? why aren’t they involved in activism?” and her response was “because a lot of them died.” she told stories abt the trans men she knew who committed suicide rather than be married off and forced to live as a woman, or died from medical neglect or botched abortions. “they would be here if they could, but they can’t because the world failed them.”