Where Are The Trans Men?

it truly is the most privileged men who come on here acting like their experiences are universal

i’m glad that the white man kevin who lives in a blue state in the USA got to go on testosterone when he was 16 and the only misogyny he ever experienced was being told ‘you throw like a girl’ but that does not apply to all of us

why do the kevins of tumblr feel the need to downplay our oppression. i am glad that kevin never got raped or beat up or had medical care withheld from him for being a trans man but some of us don’t get to have it that easily

I used to push against the idea and I still do to an extent but the anti-transmasculine crowd has gotten to the point where I really do feel like it's beginning to get on par with how prevelant and awful the aphobic crowd was back in the mid-late 2010s

Trans men who complain about “invisibility” show that they have never wielded it in defense before. White men among you, have you never used your race as distraction to police while friends of color absconded? Able-bodied men among you, have you never highlighted your perceived competence in a public space to gain a boon for a disabled peer? In the same cloth, trans men’s identification of “invisible” is an in within hostile territory, a tool with which to fool those who categorize us as one of them and allow our trans sisters escape.

This stands in all situations. We must don the positionality of man like a beloved cloth and stand up for trans women in every schism, combating all the coalescing ways their identities and lives are constantly under assault. This means protecting them in the streets just as much as it does in social contexts. This means shaking off the sad, sick, kicked dog look we seem to drag alongside us, collapsing and wailing whenever a transfem dares to express some form of discomfort or distress concerning our behavior.

Did you not think stepping into the class and role of man came with responsibility? Baggage? We’re stepping into a legion of death and destruction, guys. Dudes suck, to put it lightly. People sharing this thought are not new nor misinformed. As fun as it can be to revel in positive spins on masculinity, you have to look at the bigger picture. You are one. Welcome. It takes hard work to be a decent one. Having "trans-" on the front of it doesn't change this fact.

Does anybody remember the old joke “trans guys can have a little misogyny, as a treat”? Hilarious, isn’t it? I reckon the lot of us took this really, really seriously and, instead of using this lifelong opportunity we’ve granted ourselves to refashion manhood into a practice of prioritizing and uplifting trans women, we've chosen to become to very guys we hid from in high school.

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This post by catgirlforeskin has nearly 1500 notes as of the moment, so as a trans woman and transfeminist myself, I'm going to provide some context on where this is coming from.

Firstly, it's obviously a deliberate lie because T4T just plain never meant transbians exclusively. That's just objectively not true and no one has ever once produced any evidence to the contrary.

We can tell it's disingenuous he constant whining about completely inane shit and bang out such comically over the top maudlin trash over how "personally upsetting" it is inevitably always comes from people like the OP, which is to say, absolutely holy fuck massive transphobes.

As an aside, TRFs seem incapable of realizing that gay disabled trans men of color exist. I'm sure that doesn't play a part in their conceptualizing all trans men as being essentially cishet White men.

Then, of course, to further sell this, they'll continue to make excuses for why it's okay when they're transphobic, such as when OP answered this question about the term th**fab:

Again, there's the immediate issue that this is a lie, other trans people are generally not any crueler to us than we are to them, I cannot emphasize enough that the idea behind the justification for th**fab is just completely fucking made up, but the bigger picture here is how these two things are framed.

Other trans people are cruel to trans women. Trans women are partaking in a "half-hearted way of hitting back."

The self-infantilization in the name of denying one is capable of harm is gross, but what else is new. Trans women are innocent fragile babies with paper skin and glass bones who can't do anything because they're just too pitifully weak. Poor dolls. Boohoo, the poor dolls.

TRFs might, occasionally, say they don't necessarily approve of trans women using it in this way, but understand the frustration that leads to it. Which is not really the gentle, nuanced take you'd expect of someone who randomly called all non-binary people in general that word in the process of asserting that they're too unfuckable to have problems like trans women do.

Which, as a side-note, is also the cause of the false claim about the term femboy. Supposedly everyone else is just acting out their fantasies of trans women but just don't want to say they're trans women. It can't be that some people simply like boys who crossdress.

Can someone tell me what OP, self-admittedly not a "woman who's completely in the grip of the sorta bitterness and despair that leads to that way of acting sometimes," was calling out as transmisogynistic in that screencap? Anyone? Can someone work that puzzle out? It's funny these folks seem determined to rewrite history on that one but are just totally a-okay with saying c***tboys should commit suicide.

The point of the post is this: Do not listen to these people. Never let them tell you trans men weren't there from the beginning playing just as much a part in shaping trans culture as anyone. Do not let yourself be guilted. Do not let their constant unbearable affected angst affect you or your choices. And especially do not let it affect how you see yourself, or your position in the community. Anyone saying otherwise will always be coming from a place of bigotry.

There are no sincere concerns, real wounds, or genuinely upset feelings about catboys supposedly being a rip off of catgirls, which, by the way, would not be transfem-originated anyway just like forcefem isn't. Resist the urge to allow people to tell you to give up pieces of yourself or things that make you happy on baseless accusations of appropriation.

Any trans women who cares about you, which is by far the vast majority of us, will tell you this in a heartbeat.

hot take apparently, maybe let's not make a word to demean a group of people. like, ever. when has that ever gone well. let's stop now please, no more words. we're done now

the English language is over