Unpopular book opinion, but I think almost every single man in the Acotar books is problematic in one way or another. Like almost all of them are shitty, and I wouldn't let my friends date them. With the exception of the Winter lord Kallias and Lucien. I wouldn't let my friend date Lucien either though, because I think he needs therapy more than a relationship.
Just because you have suffered abuse/trauma does not justify you hurting and abusing someone else. Cough, cough—Rhysand,cough,cough—Cassian.