Asexuality - Blog Posts

even after being on testosterone for almost a year, i’m just as asexual as i was when i was 11. 6 years and i’ve never “grown out of it”. so suck my dick bitch

My mother asked me a very interesting question:

“Why does your generation (Gen-Z) insist on adhering to lables and telling everyone what we identify as?”

She asked me this after she found out I am Asexual. (If we really want to get specific: Cis gender woman, who is a sex-repulsed Asexual, age 21.)

For context, my Mom is a Gen-X, Hispanic woman, raised catholic.

In my experience, labels help us know how to interact and identify eachother. What kinds of respect and social edicet must be used on a person to person basis and lets us know who might be safe to be around and out/open with.

Lets us know how to adress eachother. For example if my friend identifies as a nonbinary individual, due to this label, I know to use they/them pronouns. I’ve heard someone (IDK who) say,: “I may not respect you, but I will respect your pronouns.”

In a relationship context… (romantic specifically)

Labels allows us to inform any potential partners of what we might want or expect from a relationship. In my case the boundaries that must be set in place.

It is important to be upfont with potential partners about your identity whether it be gender or sexuality. For example, if you are polyamorous, any potential partners need clear communication as to what this relationship will entail. This opens the door for consent. (And consent is ✨Sexy✨!)

For me, I am very open about my Asexuality to all my partners. I want them to be aware of this side of me and what my needs are and they they are comfortable with dating me.

Also for someone who is aromatic, having this label takes the pressure off themselves from the outside world to seek a romantic relationship!

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Tldr: “Why Gen-z uses labels?”

1. Respect

2. Community (Happy Pride everyone!!! 🏳️‍🌈)

3. Boundaries

4. Communication

My 3 favorite things are trending on Tumblr Right now!

I dunno, sometimes it feels much better to have a neutral word to describe a neutral reality rather than being defaulted to "gay" at best and "frigid bitch" at worst

The funniest thing about being aroace is growing up in middle school and thinking to yourself “…you guys are too young to be dating. We’re kids right now.” And then as you get older and reach college you’re still like “…you guys are too young to get married, how do you even know you like them like that?”

Like no that’s just how allo people are.

I need to prove a point to my mom. Reblog if you can realize you’re asexual/aromantic in your teens.

Dusting this off just because

(SPOILERS FOR SEASON 2)

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Note: I’m not upset by the kiss or by the idea of there being physical aspects to the relationship. These characters’ relationships to sex can still be very different than that of most humans and be nuanced.

Tldr: yes they kissed, yes they absolutely can still be asexual

^^^^^^

Reblog if you think asexuality is a legitimate sexuality.

I'm trying to prove something.

This would be so much better with a poll... Like this one!

Love without Sex

I’m doing a Philosophy paper on Asexuality. Please reblog if you think Love without Sex is possible! I really need the data. Like if you think love has to have sex.

"are you okay?" NO IM NOT OKAY!!! IM A SEX-REPULSED ACE WHOS FAVE JUST SO HAPPENS TO BE A CHARACTER WHOS PORTRAYED ALMOST EXCLUSIVELY IN NSFW FAN CONTENT.

WHY WOULD I BE OKAY. I AM RIPPING MY HAIR OUT AS WE SPEAK. SCREAMING CRYING THROWING UP JUST LET ME FIND SOME FANFIC THAT ISNT NSFW I AM BEGGING

Me, consuming literally any form of media: you are all asexual now I've decided. If you do anything sensual in the media I shall cover my ears, close my eyes, and repeat "lalalalalala" while repeatedly and viciously tapping the screen until it goes away.

NewYorkNewYork

Okay Broadway Babies, Tumblr may have finished this trend, but Pedge and I are going strong! If RPF is for you, check out my most personal work yet, and first series. It's a fantastical journey through my professional time in NY, and what better way to celebrate than with Pedge at our side!

Triggers: Set in 2014, it might progress to some lite smut, but this first episode only includes a slightly tipsy trip and mild profanity. NYC is rough enough--save the drama for your llama...

New York, New York Series Moody Thespian Pedge Tweets Masterlist Moody Theater J's Jams

I did a very quick, sketchy comic because I was extremely inspired by this post. (Credit to @pinkdiamondprince for the original post.)

The entire analogy was just fantastic and so, so accurate, and I wanted to make a comic for it, even if it’s very sketchy because my attention span is nil.

“We chose the term “asexual” to describe ourselves because both “celibate” and “anti-sexual” have connotations we wished to avoid: the first implies that one has sacrificed sexuality for some higher good, the second that sexuality is degrading or somehow inherently bad. “Asexual”, as we use it, does not mean “without sex” but “relating sexually to no one”. This does not, of course, exclude masturbation but implies that if one has sexual feelings they do not require another person for their expression. Asexuality is, simply, self-contained sexuality.”

— The Asexual Manifesto, Lisa Orlando and Barbara Getz, 1972

Being aromantic, asexual, or aspec in any amount does not make you inhuman, sick, or in need of treatment. You are wonderful as you are

Context: [Link 1, Link 2]

this is something that’s been lost as common knowledge both since the drop off of anti-ace discourse and directly Because of it ever having been a thing in the first place, but in light of recent published bigotry pointed at aspecs (aces And aros) gaining attention I think this is something that bares emphasizing:

this reaction isn’t new, it’s something we’ve seen from conservatives for decades now.

a commonly accepted talking point is that conservative christians Must love aspec people, because they represent the theoretical ideal of abstinence. it’s something that I see even from spaces that Aren’t using it as a weapon against aspecs, and in a vacuum it makes sense as an Assumption.

but the thing it misses is that conservative christians do not think asexual and aromantic people Are Real. when they idolize abstinence it’s as a great sacrifice that one makes to defeat the Universal Demon Of Lust. and, more importantly, It’s Something That’s Supposed To End. you’re Supposed to get into a nice heterosexual christian marriage and have lots of little babies that you take to your nice heterosexual christian church, repeated ad infinitum.

and moreover, both christians and popular society In General see our ability for romantic love as The Thing That Makes Humans Human.

so you introduce the concept of people who Don’t experience either of those things and you get two reactions.

1: horror. the “this is a mental/physical illness that desperately needs to be fixed” approach. the idea is monstrous or pitiable but always revolting. they Believe that you live this way, but they don’t believe that it’s something that a “normal” human being could experience or that it’s something that someone could be Happy experiencing.

2: Suspicion. they don’t believe that asexuality or aromanticism Is Real, therefore it Must be a coverup for something even more revolting than is being lead on. it’s not unlike the idea that any feminine or non-threatening trait in a guy (Any guy) is Really just him trying to lure women into a false sense of security by Being seemingly non-threatening, and is therefore even More suspicious as a potential threat.

we’ve Always seen “well if he doesn’t want to fuck humans then I’ll Bet He Wants To Fuck Something Else” and pedophilia accusations/implications. they don’t see aspecs as Pure and Holy, they see them as a threat either to their understanding of what humans can be or as a wolf in sheep’s clothing trying to get away with something.

this is hardly even the first time that aspecs have been presented this way in published news articles or tv. the difference is that public awareness of asexuality and aromanticism has shifted, and with it the bigotry that was always there is being amplified.

that said, I think it’s important to emphasize that this isn’t new, considering the history of erasure ace and aro people have experienced when trying to talk about said bigotry.

I don’t necessarily think this post needs “evidence” (especially with the fox news article already linked above), but for the sake of illustration lets turn back the clock to 2015 for one of the examples I have saved [Link]

Happy Asexual Week of Visibility!

My dear lgbt+ kids,

Whenever you’re reading this, during Asexuality Awareness Week or not, it’s a good day to

- be proud of and comfortable in your identity as an asexual person

- question if you might be asexual (and no, you’re not too young, too old, too whatever!)

- support asexual people. Asexuality is real, there’s nothing wrong with it and asexual people belong in our community!

With all my love, Your Tumblr Dad

Reblog if you think asexuality is a legitimate sexuality.

I'm trying to prove something.

I love the fact that I'm ace sense nobody in my friend group ever expects me to make a sex joke so when I do they just stare at me with the biggest look of confusion.

I made a gif.

a tragedy in two parts

On this ace day I wanna give a shoutout to demisexuality and to the day I first heard of it where I went: "but doesn't everybody feel that way? Who would wanna sleep with someone they don't know well?"...Interesting I should say that

Happy pride month! 🖤🩶🤍💜

(Shout out to @carro-carrot for the idea of drawing Stone in ace colours!)

Asexual panromantic - moodboard

I am!

YOU are Asexual!

look at those

Reblog if you think asexuality is a legitimate sexuality.

I'm trying to prove something.

I've always had this headcanon for him. Glad I'm not alone in this!

I remember there was this moment in the show:

Wuya, flirtatious: Why, if I were 500 years younger... And had a body.

Chase, knowing full well Wuya was quite attractive in her human form: Ugh...

Then I imagined a small prompt from his past with Guan, something to do with a ritual sacrifice:

Guan, pointing a dagger toward himself: You need virgin blood, I'll do it! I'm a monk, it doesn't get more virgin than this!

Chase: Yes. It. Does. Now give me that!

Gotta love their friendship though 😂

A fun part of my headcanoning Chase Young as ace is picturing him just going about his business when he's a young mortal man assuming that people are Joking when they talk about that sort of thing or when he hears Dashi and Guan making dirty jokes and just shrugs it off as them being weird talking about stuff that no one actually feels like, and then its not til he's like 200+ years old when he's just suddenly like "wait are people Not joking do people actually feel like that???"

Asexual websites:

https://taaap.org/ The Aro Ace advocacy project. A US based advocacy project with events and info and so on.

https://azejournal.com/ Aze Journal is an aro, ace and agender journal with multiple mediums, but mostly writing (poetry, essays). People submit responses to a theme. Entirely free.

AVEN is an online asexuality forum.

Asexual Outreach is a canada-based organization that organizes ace week and is behind the organization aces and aros that runs local communities, especially in the US, but also elsewhere.

International asexuality day is a website dedicated to said day that has global connections.

asexual [dot] net is a website centred around ace dating and finding ace friends. they also have a blog that's about asexuality

acespace.love is a dating & friendship site targeted at alloaces.

what is asexuality is a website about asexuality

aces.nyc is an organization dedicated to asexuality based in new York city. It has more resources

asexuality archive is a website about asexuality

Alberta Asexuals and aromantics is an organization in Alberta.

this is the sounds fake but ok podcast's list of resources. Sounds fake but ok is a podcast about being aro and ace.

stop calling yourself sex positive if you don’t recognize asexuality and the complicated relationships a lot of ace people have with sex. you’re not sex positive if you don’t support the choice to not have sex. you’re not sex positive if you don’t support the choice to wait until a committed relationship. you’re not sex positive if you don’t support everyone’s right to make the choices they’re comfortable making related to sex, including asexual people, and especially including sex averse/repulsed asexual people.