Asexuality - Blog Posts
ACE PRIDE
Reblog if you genuinely support asexuals
It terrifies me that there’s so much raging passion in the lgbt+ community that insist on marginalizing asexuals and implying that asexuals don’t deserve to have safe spaces. There’s still so much acephobia so I just wanna know which blogs are genuinely supportive and a safe space for asexuals
Today (April 6th) is Asexuality Day so to celebrate myself and other people on the asexual spectrum I drew Barbie from the Barbie movie! She’s such an icon :D
Happy ace day!
So yeah, this is how I found out that my sexuality had its own day. AND I MISSED IT D:
Happy (very) belated Ace Day!
It’s been quite a while since I made this for a March issue of a zine, it feels like ages ago! Anyway I thought I should post it. Here’s to the Spongebob Musical, a surprisingly great show!
So I heard spongebob said ace rights 🌈
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Imagination ✨🖤🤍💜
Happy ace day everyone :3
🖤🩶🤍💜
I’m really glad we exist
HOW DID I NOT KNOW THAT INTERNATIONAL ASEXUALITY DAY WAS TODAY?!?
Drew this last year. Here you go. This was supposed to be a profile pic for one of my accounts. I’ll try to draw something better to add to this, but this was all I had right now.
finding a term that you’ve never heard before but it resonating with you so deeply is a really cool experience
and that is why research on queer identities, whether gender, sexuality, or romance, is so needed!
from Ace Voices by Eris Young
REblog if you are Asexual, support Asexuals, or spend most of your time actually thinking about Superheroes.
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I drew @baderpfulu's adorable ACNH Reigen for IAD! Based on this image:
Happy (late) International Asexuality Day! 🖤🩶🤍💜
happy international asexuality day to:
[PT: happy international asexuality day to:]
asexual men, y’all are so underrepresented
asexual women, you’re not “prudes”
genderqueer / non-binary asexuals, you exist
asexual trans men, you don’t deserve infantilization
asexual trans women, you’re not “just a f3tish”
asexual cis men, your existence isn’t “sad”
asexual cis women, you do NOT just exist to have babies (but if you want to have children, that’s just as valid)
asexuals who don’t experience any sexual attraction, you’re not a “stereotype”
asexuals who experience any amount sexual attraction, you’re not “faking it”
demisexuals
gray-asexuals
asexuals with a high libido
asexuals who don’t label themselves
asexuals who use many labels
asexuals who use microlabels
asexuals who are shy, you’re not a stereotype
asexuals who are outgoing, you’re not pretending
christian asexuals, you’re not “just celibate”
jewish asexuals, your existence is NOT inherently sexual
muslim asexuals, Allah loves you just as much as anyone else
hindu asexuals, your deities respect you
asexual buddhists, kindness will protect you
asexual pagans, (me!!) remember to cherish every moment
asexuals who are in the closet
out and proud asexuals
alloromantic asexuals
aromantic asexuals
aplatonic asexuals
acespecs who don’t identify with the term asexual
every asexual! y’all are so epic!!
Happy International Asexuality Day!! Here's Ace icon Reigen Arataka celebrating in acnh!
Happy ace day all my fellow aces!! :^) 🖤🤍💜
Why yes, Happy International Asexuality Day, my fellow Aros, Aces, Aro-Aces, and everyone else on the Ace Spec!
Thought I'd let y'all know I am planning on drawing something for IAD but it's currently late and I'm exhausted from having spent the evening shopping with my family, (it was fun and I got some new shirts that make me look like a cool fun uncle heheh) and am still struggling with artist fatigue, but I'll try to post tomorrow! And yes, it will be mp100 related ofc! Because I mean, how can it not include Internet Sex Symbol and Ace Icon, Reigen Arataka?
aces don't need to compensate for our lack of sexual attraction by being super kinky, making dirty jokes, writing the best smut, handing out water bottles at the orgy etc. i'm tired of seeing these jokes about "the ace friend" who does all of these things because it feels like just another way to say "oh look! aces aren't that broken actually! aces can participate in all these sexy things and be normal!"
we don't need to compensate. we just exist, whatever that looks like, in whichever way we relate to sex and sexual things.
My friends are genuinely shocked when I come up with the dirtiest, most hysterical sex joke ever known to a man. Like, just because I'm asexual doesn't mean I don't know anything about sex. Shoutout to my smut I read at 3am.
My first pride month (sorry, there's a lot text here)
Last October, I started questioning my sexuality. I was (and still am, really) an insecure person. So when I started questioning that particular aspect of my personality, accompanying thoughts began to creep in: "Seriously? You are already 20! You never questioned yourself before, but right now decided to? Why? Got bored because of the large amount of free time? Have you forgotten, that you study at the university?! You must focus your thought on this, not that! Why don't you get back to the box, where you exist as a standard girl, who is confident at least in some parts of her identity? Where everything is more simple."
Summarize of my personal experience:
I got interested in R-rated content only because I thought that I was lagging behind the others: "Okay, my classmates got interested into all of this stuff 2 years ago. I guess I should too. That's what teens usually do, right?"
I had crushes (on fictional characters, celebrities and a few classmates), but it was more like an admiration, appreciation of their aesthetic beauty (like a sculpture or a painting) or love for their personality. And I never wanted to "bone" them. Seeing an image of a favourite character on a dakimakura was feeling like: "Oh, okay. I can see the creator's train of thoughts. I appreciate the quality of work. I don't mind other people wanting to buy something like that. But it's not something I would like to have. Seeing a character half-naked seems like I'm violating their personal space. Too intimate. I would rather have a pin or a poster." I am more into fluff. Also like the idea of being buddies with the favourite character and being happy for their happiness with someone else.
When I became an adult, I understood, that I never want to act flirty around guys, or anyone really. For me it feels out of character. And never want my body to be sexualized. Icky.
My view on relationship was either a "hopeless romantic" one, or a "trying to logically or mathematically figure out how relationship work" one. It took me time to believe that two people can barely know one another to "jump right to action" and/or to start dating. I saw that in movies, read about that in book, heard about that in real life, but couldn't believe it or accept it. Because I always thought that choosing a partner takes time and "the thing" is one of the ways to show them your love for them. Like a catharsis, a quintessence of love. Something special for someone special (I'm and idiot, I know).
However, I always saw these things as a prove that I just have a childish outlook on life. That I'm just a dumb kid, who tries to understand the world of adults. I wanted to understand, why I felt that my experience differed from the people who surrounded me; but I couldn't identify myself as ace because back then I knew only about demi and grey. I didn't know that this spectrum has more labels.
I've finally found the answer to my question. It feels releaving and scary at the same time. And yet I feel happy.
P.S. I want to say "thank you" to two of my friends in real life, who supported me, after I came out to them.
I found this on Pinterest and I shared it because I support ace and aro folks.
l am Demisexual and Demiromantic but l hope it still proves your point :)
I need to prove a point to my mom. Reblog if you can realize you’re asexual/aromantic in your teens.
what about sex-repulsed aro-ace people who like making lewd jokes and innuendos for the sake of irony? (me)
Reblog this if you support sex-averse and sex-repulsed aces, including:
Aces who never want to have sex
Aces who had sex in the past but don't desire it anymore
Aces with sexual trauma who feel like their trauma ties into their asexuality
Aces with sexual trauma who don't feel like their trauma caused their asexuality
Aces who don't want to talk to you about sex
Aces who don't want to hear about sex
Yes even aces who do not want to engage with any sexual content and don't want it in their own personal spaces
Yes even aces who express the desire to have more spaces for queer adults where their boundaries are met (on top of the queer spaces that exist, we do not want to sanitize your existing spaces ffs)
If you cannot be normal about these people existing, if you believe they're a threat to our community and to how we're viewed by people who aren't aspec and the rest of the LGBTQ+ community, you are not an asexual ally. Yes, even if you're aspec yourself. Especially if you're aspec yourself.
Because it's been pride month for 4 days and I'm already seeing people trying to throw us under the bus or pretend we don't exist because that makes the ace community more palatable to exclusionists and people who swallowed too much "aces are puritans" propaganda.
This, just this.
"Amatonormativity permeates more than TV shows and books. It is woven into our legal rights, creating forms of discrimination that become more and more apparent as people age. Romantic love within marriage confers privileges that other forms of devotion cannot, including over 1,100 laws that benefit married couples at the federal level. Spouses can share each other’s health insurance, as well as military, social security, and disability benefits. They can make medical decisions for each other. Companies grant bereavement leave for spouses, no questions asked, but there will be more hesitation if leave is requested for a mere friend. It is possible to marry a stranger and give them your health insurance but not possible to give health insurance to a parent...
Criteria based on sex made sense when the main purpose of marriage was to merge fortunes and produce children, but today...marriage is more about a match of devotion than a match of trade. In many cases, the point is no longer to create an heir and a spare. Plenty of married couples don’t have children (or sex, for that matter), and bad marriages with little caring are common...
Offering legal and social benefits only to the romantically attached suggests that the mere presence of romantic feeling elevates the care and deserves special protections, even though friendship and other forms of care, which can come with less obligation, can include more love, more freely given. Therefore, the legal and social privileges of marriage should be extended to all mutually consenting adults who wish for them...
'In terms of policy, marriage law really reaches into all areas of law, like tax and immigration and property,' ... 'It doesn’t matter if it’s different-sex only or same-sex marriage, so long as we restrict marriage to romantic and sexual partners we will ensure amatonormativity.' Reforming marriage law by abolishing it altogether or extending marriage-like rights to friends (to small groups or networks) is one way to eradicate discrimination."
Angela Chen, Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex
Please remember that there are aro/aces who enjoy concept of romance only in fiction and like shipping characters or writing smut fanfics but still they wouldn't do that things in real life 🤍🖤💜
have been completely turned off from drawing lately but here’s a doodle for pride
happy pride y’all 🖤
let’s play a game
how to win: try to guess if i’m a lesbian or not...
how to play: too bad i don’t discuss my sexuality at work, i’m your manager and it’s inappropriate but solid effort with your attempt at discreet questions
My being asexual doesn't cause me distress nor does it negatively affect my daily life. It is other people that cause me distress. I don't notice what I don't have. It's constantly having people point out that they think something is wrong with me.
After some weeks of being uncomfortable I finally bit the bullet and had a coworker verbally warned about his sexual misconduct towards me. Standing very close just behind my shoulder, saying I'm beautiful, staring. I've asked him to stop but he and a few others thought I was joking; his comments towards me aren't bad they make me highly uncomfortable. I hate the idea that I should be flattered. Fuck that. I don't like that, I don't want that. I don't care if you don't mean it that you're just joking. It adds stress to an already stressful job. I told you to stop, end of story.