I had to break this to a close friend of mine recently but I worry that this sort of information needs to be more widespread, especially since we’re still coming off the popularity of “Don’t ever trauma dump on me! If you say anything about what you’re going through ever it’s trauma dumping!!!” And it’s equal and opposite reaction of “actually you must be there for your friends no matter what or you’re a bad friend and trauma cannot ever be weaponized that never happens you’re lying.”
You are not your friend’s therapist. You can be there for them, provide support, be a shoulder to cry on, but you are not and should not attempt to be a friend’s sole source of healing their mental health issues. Bad advice often does more harm than good, and you are not a licensed professional who is equipped with the knowledge of how to help.
I’m not saying abandon your friends, I’m speaking from the position of someone whose bad, damaging, habits were enabled by a friend who thought that watching psych101 videos meant they were qualified to heal me.