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pilot day
I always wanted to be productive (it’s a lie). I always wanted to be ______ enough as I should understand that wow, that girl is doing so much, she is my role model.
Now I’m participating in some kind of the marathon which aim is to make us understand how we should act in order to make everything we want done. And one of my first thought was “hmm, I need to make my own marathon, I should understand what works better for me”
So, everyone loves round numbers and round dates and I wanted to have like 100 days before new year but you know, it’s not 100 days left
Its 5th of October and it’s 88 days to the new year (really round number, you know) so I think it would be a great idea just to try smth, even if it wouldn’t work. But what if it will.
I can’t actually say all the things I want to achieve, but I’ll try
· Study. I need to do all the homework right in the week it was given (not the actual week, but in the 7 days after it). And I need definitely to start it right in the day it was given, no excuses.
· Sport. I’m not really into it but I find it quite good to keep fit since it helps my braun work better and also there are plenty things that I want to change in me. Actually, there are a problem. I can’t do it in my room and I can’t see any variants there how to do it. wellllll
· Read. I’m in love with reading and I have a truly huge list to read, so my plan max is to read 1 book per week and min is to read at least 1 page per day.
· English. I decided to have a diary about that journey in English to increase my English skills. And also I can post it there where nobody knows me, amazing.
· Editing. Recently I discovered that I like recording and editing, so I want work in that field of my life too
· Youtube. I want to see every video in watch later, so I suppose it’s a good goal too. Now I have 194 videos to see. Also it’s great to try all the things I hear there about
There are my life and I want to make it better in 88 days. Therefore, I will have a daily plan and maybe a small topic about it since I find it a great opportunity not only to write in English but to see how I set and achieve my goals.
Example of the report:
· Homework. Write what you did today.
· Sport. How many steps you walked today? Meditation? Yoga? Breathing technics?
· Books. How many pages and what you read?
· Video. Did you record anything today? Maybe you did a small video? Send to somebody and ask about their opinion
· Yt. ?/194
I’ll also try to plan my day in the evning before, will find
Reset Sunday guide :
disconnect : Starting by turning off your notifications, this is YOUR time you need to focus on you and only you. You could also delete social media at least for the day, works even better. Don’t answer any message unless it is something urgent, people need to respect your time.
Set the mood : Get comfortable and set a calm and relaxing mood by lighting some candles, putting on a comfortable outfit which makes you feel pretty, turning on some music, anything that puts you in the right mood for taking care of yourself.
Self care: Now you can start taking care of yourself. Start the longest skin care ever (don’t forget the neck), hydrate your whole body (damage from winter cold is no joke), take vitamins, put on a hair mask, paint your nails, massage your face while the mask is on, don’t forget to drink a lot of water.
Clean your space : While your masks and creams are on, you can start tidying up your place. Your mind is clearer when your working space is clean. Don’t forget to spray some perfume in your room for the final touch.
Prepare things for tomorrow : if you have work or classes tomorrow you can pick out your clothes the night before and organize your bag, that way you won’t be in a rush when you’re leaving the next day.
Relax : Now that everything is settled it is time to relax. Go watch Netflix under a warm blanket while drinking hot chocolate, listen to a podcast while doing yoga, go for a walk… Find something that makes you feel calm and relaxed and enjoy that moment !
My routine for weekdays + how I will hold myself accountable to enforce it 🧘🏼♀️✨
As you may know from my other post I have 5 goals I would like to achieve for this new year, so of course there are small habits that will help me achieve these goals!
MORNING (7-8:35)
Get out bed at 7 AM (non negotiable)
Say my positive affirmations.
Skincare, Hygiene and put on makeup.
Do a 10 minute workout of my choice.
Breakfast ✨
Get dressed and do my hair 🫡
AFTERNOON (3:45-9:30)
Come home, take stuff out of backpack and change into my home clothing while putting away my school clothes.
Have food 🤍
Relax for an hour, watch a movie, go on my phone, whatever.
STUDY/ do assignment for the next two hours!
Have a (homemade!!) snack
Send in some job applications (apply to at least two jobs)
Free time until 9:00!
Journal about my day and if I accomplished everything that I wanted to do!
Clean up my room and bathroom.
Then I will shower, skincare,hygiene and go to bed.
HOW WILL I KEEP MYSELF ACCOUNTABLE?
idea cr: @memen2-mori 💘
So.. there are 6 habits I want to do every weekday:
workout for 10 minutes
do assignments for 2 hours
send in 2 job applications
tidy my room
make a homemade snack
say a positive affermation
Then when I journal I will simply ask myself “Did I complete todays tasks?”
If the answer is no, I will ask myself two more follow up questions- “Which tasks did i not complete? Why not?” as well as “What can I do to be better prepared tomorrow ?”
things to start and stop doing to be the best you
things to start doing:
put yourself first - live for yourself and up to your own standards and stop pushing aside your needs for other people.
set healthy boundaries for yourself and others
always find new skills and hobbies to learn and pick up
have a routine that works for you
never settle for less. if it's not what you want, keep looking forward.
be bold - not letting fear stop you from being great
improve your self talk. compliment yourself more. tell yourself things will be okay.
enjoy the silence more
more self reflection!
learn how to enjoy your own company
socialize more
take yourself out on solo dates
walk with your head high, shoulders back
listening to your intuition when you first brush it off. you can find out the reason later.
start being active. move your body. go on walks, go to the gym, sign up for yoga, dance classes, pilates, etc.
continue talking when someone cuts you off.
put people in their place. if your boundaries have been crossed or you see something that isn't right, don't be afraid to speak your mind whenever you see necessary.
read more books. set a goal for each month.
seek for all sides of the story. never come to a set conclusion at first glance or none at all.
take your own advice.
be assertive. don’t allow yourself to be pushed around. do what's good for you no matter what anyone says, be clear about what you want in life and go for it.
ask questions. don't be afraid to. this applies to everything.
explore different styles that pique your interest. clothes, majors, hobbies, jobs, literally everything.
journaling your thoughts and ideas.
things to stop doing:
seek validation from others
living for others when you should be living for yourself.
passively consume content on social media
having FOMO. who cares if you missed out on the latest celebrity gossip, what person cheated on who, the food pictures people are posting on their stories. does it benefit you for a lifetime? no? okay then.
saying "i'm going to do this" and not do it.
isolating yourself for a long period of time
spending more time on your phone than you are living your life. there's life outside a glowing screen. stop wasting what you have and make the best of it even if it seems "impossible". you can always make something out of nothing.
comparing yourself to others
idolizing everyone. celebrities, public figures, influencers....
letting people's limiting beliefs have a hold over you
choosing to keep the victim mentality.
putting your responsibilities and happiness aside to laze around or for other people.
sticking with your circle when you've outgrown them. i don't care how long you've known them for and how good the bond was. if they're not good for you anymore, leave.
letting people step all over you - say no and don't give in to pleases.
pushing your trauma/problems aside. your problems are no less than others. you are important too. tend to yourself.
guilt trip yourself for resting when you want/need to.
abandon your needs.
insulting yourself for failures and mistakes. it's normal, you're okay.
believing everything you see and hear whether it be online or in real life.
don't take criticism from people you wouldn't take advice from. or anyone for that matter unless it's out of the goodness of their heart (constructive)
~becoming happier~
hey loves! i want to share this post to give some of my tips on becoming a happier person. obviously this won’t help treat mental illnesses- for mental illnesses please get the proper care and treatment you need :) these tips are just for building a more positive mindset and feeling more content in life :)
healthy habits:
meditate daily (even if its only for 5 minutes or so)
get enough rests- take naps if needed
eat healthy foods, stay hydrated
have a support system of people you can trust
practice self care
say positive affirmations daily
keep a journal to vent, track your thoughts, and oberve your emotions
cut off negative people
sparking joy:
find hobbies that bring you happiness
make gratitude lists/ lists of all the things that make you happy (even the little things)- list about 5 things everyday
get fresh air daily (even if it’s just from an open window)
make plans with friends/family
make plans by yourself
find music you like
keep comfort items
How to touch some grass
A guide for chronically online girlies who spend every second of their life scrolling through Tumblr. (no front, I love you <3)
Go on a walk. Fresh air, baby!
Lay in the sun. Or in the rain, since it's autumn.
Read a book. Only if you are able to with your goldfish TikTok attention span, lol. <3
Draw Something. I challenge you to draw a cat. send it to me on Twitter @ malusokay and I'll draw a better one. try me.
Try learning a new language. A date with the Duolingo bird.
Go to the theatre alone. Sit in one of those couple seats and stare at the cringy couples while eating popcorn; ignore the movie lmao.
Clean your room. Or reorganize it!
Climb a tree. At your own risk.
Make yourself some tea. Maybe host a tea party!
Try a new hairstyle. I've been trying those low space buns jk?
Bake a cake. Like a fancy and cool one!
Throw your phone into a lake and try to find it. :)
Workout or do yoga. Pilates can be fun too.
Try making friends in irl. This is a tough one, I'm sorry. <3
Paint your nails. Mine are black rn!
Start planning your birthday. Or write your Christmas wishlist.
Go get a coffee. Make your way to your local cafe and try something new! <3
Try learning how to crochet. I've been crocheting makeup bags, lmao.
Do your skincare routine. Do a face mask, and take time for yourself. <3
Make a smoothie. I'll give you a recipe... Banana, raspberries, strawberries, yoghurt for protein, your milk of choice and some coconut flakes as a topping!
Do your homework. So you can be lazy without feeling guilty.
Water your plants. They did nothing wrong... come on.. :(
Go to Ikea. Who doesn't love IKEA?? (not sponsored, lol)
Don't judge me, I wrote this at 3am, and I have the flu. It was fun tho haha.
✩‧₊*:・love ya ･:*₊‧✩
simple minimalist habits that will improve your life
focus on the essentials of your day.
start organizing your days.
write a diary to organize your ideas and thoughts, discard those that no longer benefit you.
focus on the things that are in your control.
practice detachment (things, people, situations)
make a list of your priorities, what you need at this moment (can be objects and situations too)
get rid of everything you no longer use.
purchase/consume items that will be useful in your daily life.
tidy up your room or the place where you spend most of your time, create a serene and inspiring space.
create a capsule closet
digital and mental detox
spend less time on social media or watching tv, instead read more or spend time outdoors.
leave out of your life everything that is consuming you or doing you any kind of harm (people, social networks, habits).
be grateful every day.
live in the present moment.
practice meditation and mindfulness.
3 Week Femme Fatale Challenge
Introduction
This is a weekly challenge - so you should do these everyday for the three weeks. Do not skip any of these because honestly, they’re not that hard (unless you can’t do any physical exercise due to a medical condition - then skip it). You need that push to be better - comfort does not always grow a person. I want you to tell yourself that you are going to do this religiously.
You are not going to change overnight.
But if you do all these things, you will grow so much that people will actually see a difference in you.
I know that routines are especially hard to follow if your friends have a different lifestyle. If you have friends who party a lot, stay up all night, have hectic days - you’re inclined to be influenced by them because you don’t want to be left out.
That’s why, I want to invite you to our discord chat. Here, you’ll receive articles, educational materials, tips and interaction from similar female counterparts.
https://discord.gg/dgPCMBTfw6
Things you will need
* Journal
* Yoga mat / towel for a workout
* Water bottle - a MUST
Challenge for the next 3 weeks
A) Wake up early
about 2.5 hours before you need to leave for work/ school.
B) Hydration
Follow that with a glass of warm water and lemon / green tea / matcha. I don’t recommend having a cold drink on an empty stomach.
C) Journal
Start everyday by journaling. These are your three prompts for this week:
- What is one habit that immediately comes to mind that you want to change? It doesn’t matter how “silly” it sounds. This is for YOUR eyes.
- What is your biggest insecurity?
- What is the best part about yourself?
D) Working out
Work out for a minimum of 10 minutes. Whether it’s yoga or Pilates from YouTube, or a 10 minute run outside, get your body moving.
Some favourite workouts on YT:
https://youtu.be/f9UbVRqd9YY
https://youtu.be/aE4j3KR5m54
https://youtu.be/uMAh_Ws7yNs
https://youtu.be/5PdBZqlvhEk
E) Skin care and hair care
After your workout, go take a shower. Clean yourself properly - especially your lady parts. There’s a misconception that your vagina does not need to be washed. Yes, you mustn’t wash the INSIDE of your vagina, not the OUTSIDE. Here’s an article about that: https://www.healthline.com/health/womens-health/vulva-vagina-products#a-quick-look
- Clean your private parts
- Shave
- Body scrub, if you want
- Moisturise with body lotion
If you have blemished facial skin, try my skin routine before make up:
- face wash
- Toner
- Vitamin C
- Sunscreen
- Moisturiser (I skip this because my sunscreen is moisturising)
F) Education
- It is imperative that you know what’s going on the world. Read the news, only the headlines if you’re feel overwhelmed by reading whole articles.
- Do something productive for your brain. Play a crossword - there’s many free apps and free crosswords online- or Sudoku. I play a mental math phone game which I found for free (it’s literally called Mental Math). Keep your brain healthy.
G) Review at night
- Review your day today. How was it? Hectic, peaceful, stressful, organised? Why was it that way?
- Read 5 pages (minimum) of a book of your choice. You can find free books at www.z-lib.org
- End your day with a 5 minute meditation. https://youtu.be/2K4T9HmEhWE
do you have any podcast recs?
the wellness cafe
80/20
guide me glow podcast
morning rae
busy, yet pretty
hot girl energy podcast
the rebeca leigh podcast
grow with zo
the goop podcast
the "that girl" guide
not your typical with katelynn nolan
my monday mood
ethereal girl
made me for fitness
confession by anastazia
The 7 Day #IChooseMe Challenge
The next seven days, choose YOU.
Choose yourself.
Prioritise yourself.
Take care of yourself.
If you’ve been feeling lost lately, or life has been off track - this challenge is great to bring you back on track.
It helps you have some structure in your life, while allowing you to have fun and plenty of spare time.
I am not a therapist or a doctor. Take this advice as you would from a friend.
With this challenge, you’ll feel a little more fulfilled, happier, and you’ll have a set routine.
You only have to accomplish 6 small goals a day for 7 days to finish this challenge.
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The Night Before Day 1
- Get in bed by 11:30 pm, even if you’re not tired.
- Try to finish all your work.
- Set your phone away from you.
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Day 1
- wake up at 7 am or 2.5 hours before work/ school.
- Make a to-do list for the day. Groceries, laundry, assignments due, appointments - make it a habit to note it down around 20 minutes after you wake up.
- Start your day with a 10 minute stretch. Do this before you eat.
- Read 2 news articles.
- Write down 3 things you’re grateful for today.
- Eat at least 1 fruit of your choice.
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Day 2
- wake up at 7 am or 2.5 hours before work/ school.
- Make a to-do list for the day. Groceries, laundry, assignments due, appointments - make it a habit to note it down around 20 minutes after you wake up.
- Start your day with a 6 minute, deep breathing meditation. Sit cross legged as you face south east, close your eyes and focus on breathing deeply.
- choose a healthy option for lunch. Salads, soups, healthy wraps, a light rice bowl - eat something with lots of nutrients.
- Compliment someone at work/ school today!
- Clean your room.
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Day 3
- wake up at 7 am or 2.5 hours before work/ school.
- Make a to-do list for the day. Groceries, laundry, assignments due, appointments - make it a habit to note it down around 20 minutes after you wake up.
- Start your day by telling yourself any 3 affirmations. Look at yourself in the mirror and speak out loud. This could be something like …”Today is going to be a good day. I’m capable of accomplishing and handling everything sent my way. I am a positive, healthy person and I genuinely love the person I am, or I am becoming.”
- Drink 2 litres of water today. Add a piece of lemon or mint if that helps!
- Read 5 pages of any book of your choice. If you don’t like reading, then listen to this podcast (start at 1 minute to skip the intro)
- write down a list of qualities you think you need to work on. It could be things like being on time, working on your anger, etc.
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Day 4
- wake up at 7 am or 2.5 hours before work/ school.
- Make a to-do list for the day. Groceries, laundry, assignments due, appointments - make it a habit to note it down around 20 minutes after you wake up.
- Start your day with a lymphatic drainage massage! This is a 10 minute video.
- Write down 3 things you’re grateful for today.
- Do a 20 minute workout.
- Change your bedsheets and covers. If you have some lavender mist lying around, spray it under your pillow for a good night’s rest.
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Day 5
- wake up at 7 am or 2.5 hours before work/ school.
- Make a to-do list for the day. Groceries, laundry, assignments due, appointments - make it a habit to note it down around 20 minutes after you wake up.
- Start your day with a 6 minute, deep breathing meditation. Sit cross legged as you face south east, close your eyes and focus on breathing deeply.
- Eat a fruit of your choice.
- Read 2 news articles.
- Drink 2 litres of water today. Add a piece of lemon or mint if that helps!
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Day 6
- wake up at 7 am or 2.5 hours before work/ school.
- Make a to-do list for the day. Groceries, laundry, assignments due, appointments - make it a habit to note it down around 20 minutes after you wake up.
- Start your day with a 10 minute stretch. Do this before you eat.
- Write down 3 things you’re grateful for.
- Tell yourself any 3 affirmations. Look at yourself in the mirror and speak out loud. This could be something like …”today is going to be a good day. I’m capable of accomplishing and handling everything sent my way. I am a positive, healthy person and I genuinely love the person I am, or I am becoming.”
- Call up your mum, family member, friends and have a chat with them. Find out how they’re doing.
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Day 7
- Sleep in till 9 am today if you like! But if you have work or school, get up at 7 am / 2.5 hours before you have to go.
- Make a to-do list for the day. Groceries, laundry, assignments due, appointments - make it a habit to note it down around 20 minutes after you wake up.
- Put on a face mask of your choice.
- Eat a healthy, filling breakfast. If you can’t eat in the mornings, then have a glass or two of water.
- If you can step outside, go for a 30 minute walk. If you’re unable to, then do some stretching at home.
- Write down how you felt this whole week. Did you feel better? Was there some structure in your life?
it girl winters
hydrating skincare routine for those dry-skin days
surrounding yourself with only positive + engaging people
cozy sweaters / sweatshirts
a workout routine that works to meet your goals
a go-to puffer jacket to throw on over everything
soft bound moleskines + black muji gel pens
ugg boots are a must
40oz hydroflask with straw for hot cocoa or ice water
fenty gloss bomb lip luminizers
glossier ultra rich moisturizer
baby long sleeves
cute matching workout sets
slick back ponytails or simple blowouts
shiny, healthy hair and nails
journaling, meditating, stretching
a favorite pair of staple mid-rise straight jeans
new books to devour, one per week
whole foods; eg solid, protein packed meals + produce
bluelight glasses > headaches + eye pain
either eight hours of sleep or two per night (no in-between)
phone screen time less than 1hr 30mins
glossier you solid or sol de janeiro '62 all day every day
body care forever... scrubs, washes, oils, u name it
signature simple jewelry
lash serum or extensions for an effortless glam
hot girl treadmill walks when you're too tired to run
studying and revising daily
homemade matcha or starbucks rewards
saving money for meaningful purchases
loving yourself & finding joy in everyday
BECOMING THE BEST VERSION OF YOU !! xx
please enjoy and feel free to send asks with more prompts/q's !! 🧘♀️
easy tips to be your best version before 2023
this is my little gift to you! if you needed a guide or ideas on how to get started here it is! it is very simple and it will help you to create routines and get improvements in your life 🤍
things to do before the end of the year
incorporate small healthy habits into your routine
replace bad foods with healthier ones
go to sleep an hour earlier than you usually do and wake up an hour earlier
start the day with gratitude, meditate and be thankful for what you have
exercise 3 times a week
focus on what you like about yourself and what is within your power to change right now
create a skincare routine (day and night)
put on a face mask once a week
start taking care of your hair
take time for yourself before going to sleep, relax, forgetting the worries of the day
listen to podcasts that motivate you to be the best version of you
install an application on your phone to help you organize your day
keep track of your days and always get organized before the next day
be more aware of who you are and your surroundings
change your internal dialogue for a more positive one
stay focused on your goals
tidy up your room
drink plenty of water a day, and carry a bottle of water with you at all times
get rid of things that no longer benefit you or are bad for you
organize your cell phone
spend less time on social media and when you do, watch motivational content (e.g. my blog)
feel pretty
start acting the way you want to be
treat others the way you want to be treated (e.g. kindness and respect).
set new goals for 2023 and continue with all of this in your life.