eu caí andando de bicicleta algumas vezes, e por isso não quis mais andar, não foi a primeira queda, e eu sei que não vai ser a última, mas meu último tombo foi feio, eu não quis mais... eu não consegui mais. eu preferi ir caminhando, eu preferi nem ir, aqui em casa é mais seguro, o caminho não é tão perto pra ir a pé, e eu não quero cair de novo, eu não quero me machucar outra vez, sabe? eu tô mancando até hoje. e tava bom assim, eu me acostumei a pegar uber, andar de ônibus, a pé, eu ia de qualquer jeito (não muito longe), mas nada é igual a bicicleta, a sensação de pedalar, de fazer um esforço pra chegar aonde tanto quero, de sentir o vento no caminho, de ver tudo mais de perto e mais colorido... eu sinto falta de andar de bicicleta. MAS NÃO, EU NÃO CONSIGO. toda vez que penso em subir, o medo me apavora, eu saio correndo, e ela fica ali pegando poeira, ela deve sentir minha falta também, eu andava de bicicleta como ninguém, e eu já fui tão longe com ela antes de cair (tinha as melhores paisagens). já faz um tempo que tento me aproximar dela, dei uma limpada, ela fica ali me encarando, com um cara de quem diz "eai, não vai subir?" eu vou, calma aí! mas será que eu tenho força pra pedalar? eu ainda tô mancando :/, e ela me diz que eu consigo se eu tiver cuidando dos ferimentos da última queda, e eu tô (diga-se de passagem, tem alguém me ajudando com eles). mas, eu ainda sei me equilibrar? e ela me diz pra eu começar de vagar, como se fosse a primeira vez, eu não preciso ter pressa, pode ser que coloque as rodinhas de volta, e ta tudo bem, vamos aos poucos (pode ser que alguém me segure por um tempo).
eu não sei quando vou conseguir pedalar tão confiante de novo, nem me equilibrar tão bem, mas agora eu tô quebrando as pequenas barreiras, meu machucada não dói mais como antes, acho que já tô andando bem. fiz as pazes com a bicicleta, ela parece me entender, e respeitar meu tempo, ela sabe que daqui a pouco eu vou pedalar... é que alguém me chamou pra um passeio, eu disse que iríamos, só que ela também caiu de bicicleta :/ mas ela disse que tudo bem, a gente vai assim mesmo, empurrando as bicicletas por enquanto, conversando sobre as quedas, e cuidando dos machucados, e quando estivermos prontas, a gente vai pedalar até aonde a nossa estrada nos levar.
I got some kind of threat by someone who was trying to mimic me. Honestly Tumbler is shit by these people. I'm so done with online shit.
Block and Report
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My country blocked all social media e.g tiktok , insta , youtube .....etc until the 11 november💀😱. How im i gonna survive?!😫. I just managed to not spend all my time reading guess i gotta go back now. Suggest some fics to read please.
sometimes i realize just how great the block button really is, and trust me i know it’s not magic, and for some situations it’s useless but
spam or bot accounts? report and block
people with views that you don’t like? block
someone who won’t stop bothering you? block
people who you just wanna block for whatever reason? block!!!
then you can breathe for just a moment, and hope the people you’ve blocked don’t try to do anything further
I don't like the term 'Writer's Block' - not because it isn't real, but because the term is so vague that it's useless. Hundreds of issues all get lumped together under this one umbrella, making writer's block seem like this all-powerful boogeyman that's impossible to beat. Worse yet, it leaves people giving and receiving advice that is completely ineffective because people often don't realize they're talking about entirely different issues.
In my experience, the key to beating writer's block is figuring out what the block even is, so I put together a list of Actual Reasons why you may be struggling to write:
(note that any case of writer's block is usually a mix of two or more)
What it looks like:
You write one sentence and spend the next hour googling "synonyms for ___"
Write. Erase. Write. Rewrite. Erase.
Should I even start writing this scene when I haven't figured out this one specific detail yet?
I hate everything I write
Cringing while writing
My first draft must be perfect, or else I'm a terrible writer
Things that can help:
Give yourself permission to suck
Keep in mind that nothing you write is going to be perfect, especially your first draft
Think of writing your first/early drafts not as writing, but sketching out a loose foundation to build upon later
People write multiple drafts for a reason: write now, edit later
Stop googling synonyms and save that for editing
Write with a pen to reduce temptation to erase
Embrace leaving blank spaces in your writing when you can't think of the right word, name, or detail
It's okay if your writing sucks. We all suck at some point. Embrace the growth mindset, and focus on getting words on a page
What it looks like:
Head empty, no ideas
What do I even write about???
I don't have a plot, I just have an image
Want to write but no story to write
Things that can help:
Google writing prompts
If writing prompts aren't your thing, instead try thinking about what kind of tropes/genres/story elements you would like to try out
Instead of thinking about the story you would like to write, think about the story you would like to read, and write that
It's okay if you don't have a fully fleshed out story idea. Even if it's just an image or a line of dialogue, it's okay to write that. A story may or may not come out of it, but at least you got the creative juices flowing
Stop writing. Step away from your desk and let yourself naturally get inspired. Go for a walk, read a book, travel, play video games, research history, etc. Don't force ideas, but do open up your mind to them
If you're like me, world-building may come more naturally than plotting. Design the world first and let the story come later
What it looks like:
I know I should be writing but uugggghhhh I just can'tttttt
Writing words feels like pulling teeth
I started writing, but then I got bored/distracted
I enjoy the idea of writing, but the actual process makes me want to throw my laptop out the window
Things that can help:
Introduce stimulation: snacks, beverages, gum, music such as lo-fi, blankets, decorate your writing space, get a clickity-clackity keyboard, etc.
Add variety: write in a new location, try a new idea/different story for a day or so, switch up how you write (pen and paper vs. computer) or try voice recording or text-to-speech
Gamify writing: create an arbitrary challenge, such as trying to see how many words you can write in a set time and try to beat your high score
Find a writing buddy or join a writer's group
Give yourself a reward for every writing milestone, even if it's just writing a paragraph
Ask yourself whether this project you're working on is something you really want to be doing, and be honest with your answer
What it looks like:
I was feeling really motivated to write, but then I opened my laptop
I don't even know where to start
I love writing, but I can never seem to get started
I'll write tomorrow. I mean next week. Next month? Next month, I swear (doesn't write next month)
Can't find the time or energy
Unreasonable expectations (I should be able to write 10,000 words a day, right????)
Feeling discouraged and wondering why I'm even trying
Things that can help:
Follow the 2 min rule (or the 1 paragraph rule, which works better for me): whenever you sit down to write, tell yourself that you are only going to write for 2 minutes. If you feel like continuing once the 2 mins are up, go for it! Otherwise, stop. Force yourself to start but DO NOT force yourself to continue unless you feel like it. The more often you do this, the easier it will be to get started
Make getting started as easy as possible (i.e. minimize barriers: if getting up to get a notebook is stopping you from getting started, then write in the notes app of your phone)
Commit to a routine that will work for you. Baby steps are important here. Go with something that feels reasonable: every day, every other day, once a week, twice a week, and use cues to help you remember to start. If you chose a set time to write, just make sure that it's a time that feels natural to you- i.e. don't force yourself to writing at 9am every morning if you're not a morning person
Find a friend or a writing buddy you can trust and talk it out or share a piece of work you're proud of. Sometimes we just get a bit bogged down by criticism- either internal or external- and need a few words of encouragement
What it looks like:
I have no problems writing other scenes, it's just this scene
I started writing, but now I have no idea where I'm going
I don't think I'm doing this right
What's an outline?
Drowning in documents
This. Doesn't. Make. Sense. How do I get from this plot point to this one?!?!?! (this ColeyDoesThings quote lives in my head rent free cause BOY have I been there)
Things That Can Help:
Go back to the drawing board. Really try to get at the root of why a scene or story isn't working
A part of growing as a writer is learning when to kill your darlings. Sometimes you're trying to force an idea or scene that just doesn't work and you need to let it go
If you don't have an outline, write one
If you have an outline and it isn't working, rewrite it, or look up different ways to structure it
You may be trying to write as a pantser when you're really a plotter or vice versa. Experiment with different writing processes and see what feels most natural
Study story structures, starting with the three act structure. Even if you don't use them, you should know them
Check out Ellen Brock on YouTube. She's a professional novel editor who has a lot of advice on writing strategies for different types of writers
Also check out Savage Books on YouTube (another professional story editor) for advice on story structure and dialogue. Seriously, I cannot recommend this guy enough
What it looks like:
Everything in boredom/understimulation
Everything in intimidation/procrastination
You have been diagnosed with and/or have symptoms of ADHD/Autism
Things that can help:
If you haven't already, seek a diagnosis or professional treatment
Hire an ADHD coach or other specialist that can help you work with your brain (I use Shimmer; feel free to DM me for a referral)
Seek out neurodiverse and neurodiverse writing communities for advice and support
Try body doubling! There's lot's of free online body doubling websites out there for you to try. If social anxiety is a barrier, start out with writing streams such as katecavanaughwrites on Twitch
Be aware of any sensory barriers that may be getting in the way of you writing (such as an uncomfortable desk chair, harsh lighting, bad sounds)
What it looks like:
You have symptoms of burnout or depression
Struggling with all things, not just writing
It's more than a lack of motivation- the spark is just dead
Things that can help:
Forget writing for now. Focus on healing first.
Seek professional help
If you feel like it, use writing as a way to explore your feelings. It can take the form of journaling, poetry, an abstract reflection of your thoughts, narrative essays, or exploring what you're feeling through your fictional characters. The last two helped me rediscover my love of writing after I thought years of depression had killed it for good. Just don't force yourself to do so, and stop if it takes you to a darker place instead of feeling cathartic