Unpopular opinion:
Kids just don't need to go everywhere, alright? A 4-month-old baby should not be on a boat in Arizona heat, toddlers should not be at a concert, and elementary schoolers shouldn't be in a bar.
If you can't change your lifestyle to accommodate the fact that you have kids now, maybe you shouldn't have kids.
I understand wanting to do adult things with other adults, that's completely valid and entirely expectable, you can do that, but leave your kids with a sitter or something.
Not everyone thinks your kids are the greatest, and not everyone wants to be in an ADULT setting with kids present.