a way you can help some i/dd and cognitively disabled people is by clarifying what kind of response you want if you're not open to any kind of response
like, specifying that you want comfort or advice or solidarity or some other kind of acknowledgement, or if you want just an emoji or to change the subject, or if you want to close the conversation, like
just fucking communicate. give us feedback. tell us what you want
if you need clarification ask for it. if you need us to rephrase ask for it
we're communicating or verbalizing the only way we know how. and if you're not like this you can't even begin to scrape the fucking surface of understanding how hard it is