This was a discussion I had with my professor, he got really worked up over it (by he I mean we, cause we both did). Just one word answer don't answer the question and I don't want to have to ask more questions and then have you get annoyed so then I think you're mad at me and continue to ask more questions to make sure I have full permission and then get you more annoyed then be mad at me. Or worse I go silent so I don't make you more mad at me (even tho you might not have been mad at me) and now YOU think I'm mad at you, (like I swear I'm not- I just don't want you to be) and then maybe get mad that I mad (even though I'm not mad, but you think I'm mad so now you are mad). So please can no mean no I don't want you to do said thing, and yes mean yes you can do said thing? OR vice versa! But just like can we all have a meeting and agree on which means what so people don't get mad at me?
I hate that if you say "do you mind if I ___" people say no to mean like "yes I mind, don't do it but that should be yes?? And people say yes to mean "yes you can do it" but also yes to mean "yes I mind, don't do it". But people also say no to mean "no, go ahead" which should be the standard but I feel like any time someone says "do you mind" I get the answer wrong and I literally don't know what to say
Like people just use 1 word answers and then act condescending when I ask what they mean but I know what yes/no means I just didn't know which of all the yesses or nos you meant. And I can't tell from tone because nearly all the time people say it, it's usually just kinda apathetic? Or they try to be "yeah idk" about it but like I don't know what you mean???