Inner Child Healing - Blog Posts
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I went to the plant nursery today 😼
I GOT LUCARIO YESTERDAY HES MY #1 FAVORITE POKEMON :3
NO LITERALLY THIS HAS ALWAYS CREEPED ME OUT (´°̥̥̥̥̥̥̥̥ω°̥̥̥̥̥̥̥̥｀)
i think someone has to say it that it's odd to make age regression headcanons about real people. celebrities are real people. you would not make headcanons about john down the street
I’ve had this switch since mid 2017 and i love her a lot. Shes a little busted but she still works perfectly and she has a lot of memories of me being God in Minecraft /j.
Should I turn this into a scrapbook…..
It’s a need babe
Dawg do you ever just wish who you are on the inside would just jump out of you and manifest itself in your style and bedroom and just general energy, but it’s like stuck inside and it doesn’t wanna come out?
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There are times when I want to apologize to my body.
Times when I choose to eat sweet and dry foods knowing they aren't good for my digestive system.
Times when I add another spoonful of sugar in my tea because it just doesn't taste sweet enough.
The times when I react and don't take the time to tune into my body and feel if I really want to eat something rather than eating just because everyone around me is eating.
There are times when I want to apologize to my body.
The times when I postpone my exercise because I don't feel like it even though it feels great when I move my body.
The times when I skip my daily walk even though I enjoy the smell of pine trees I pass along the way.
The times when I choose to listen to an additional podcast episode fully knowing in that moment my body just wants silence and stillness.
The times when I entertain the negative thoughts when there are ten other positive things I could focus on.
The times when I can choose to sit outside and listen to the birds rather than doomscroll on the socials.
There are times when I want to apologize to my body but I don't because what's the point of an apology without changed behaviour.
I am tired of wanting to apologize to my body because now I want to show my body it can trust me the way I've always trusted it.
I am tired of wanting to apologize to my body because now I am deciding to not be that person anymore.
I want to show my body I can be a good steward of this beautiful vessel.
Part 2 of lessons I've learnt in the past year.
Last lesson: Opening my heart and forgiving others.
I had been revisiting my intentions on who I want to be. One of those intentions was to be a more loving person, not just to my family and friends but to people who have wronged me as well.
And so I am choosing to be a more loving through by opening my heart and forgiving others. An example of how I approached this was as follows:
So I had not been getting along with this particular person and so in every situation and interaction with them, I would just decide to be closed of in order to "protect myself".
Since I had decide to be more loving, I chose to forgive them. I chose to approach them different. So in each interaction with them, I decided to be more open and understanding towards them. I would go into these interactions with no assumptions, expectations or feelings of resentment but with the heart to listen and fully understand that person.
And doing so has done wonders for me. This person was also willing to be understanding towards me . Of course, we're not the best of friends but there is now a lightness to our interactions and I think that's beautiful. Sometimes you just have to be the first person to forgive and you never know how that transforms your relationships.
It's been a minute. So last week was my 24th birthday and I was doing some reflecting and I thought to share three lessons I've come to learn during the past year:
Lesson 1: Having a someone to talk to.
I have come to realise how it is so important to have someone to communicate with especially when you are going through a difficult time. This could be a friend, relative, mentor. Like just someone you can trust. Yes they may be able to offer you a listening ear which may lighten your burden but they can also help you shift your perspective on how you might be viewing a particular situation. Together you might be able to come up with different solutions to dealing with the situation in a way that doesn't feel overwhelming.
Doing this not only helps you through the tough times but it also helps deepen the relationship you have with that person.
Sometimes people do want to help and you might not know how they feel but you deciding to tell them also means you trust them. And there is no better feeling that being trusted by someone.
Lesson 2: Letting people go with honesty
There are times in your friendships where things are just stagnant and you're only keeping in touch because you once attended the same school or university together. Or maybe one of you moved to a different area and you no longer meet as frequently and as time goes on the communication and connection fizzles out. You know you were really great friends but things just aren't the same and in some way you are outgrowing each other.
I've come to realise that in such situations it is better to let that person go. Of course, this is not about ghosting them and hoping they get the message but by also being truthful with them and telling them how you really feel. For me the honest truth was letting them know that friendship has reached it's end, the journey was beautiful and I'll forever cherish the beautiful memories we shared together but stagnancy isn't helping anyone.
This might feel very uncomfortable but it's necessary not only for you but for the other person too. By letting each other go, you are making space for more aligned friendships to come through.
So yesterday I was watching this video whereby this content creator was speaking about how we should stop bringing the energy of decisions into making choices. She spoke about how people can't even make a simple choice because they are so focused the importance of it because their mind focuses on whether they are making the right or wrong decision. ❌✅
She gave an example of how you can make a choice to attend an event but after experiencing it you then make the decision to leave cause maybe it was boring.
So in order to decide, first make a choice, have the experience and make a decision.
So google says when making a choice we are given the freedom to explore alternatives and choose what will make us happy whereas when making a decision, we are presented with options whose outcomes have been predetermined. Choice connects us to our desired intentions, values and beliefs whereas decisions are connected to places of behaviour, performances and consequences.
I remember when I was still in primary, during athletics season - we had all these different activities that we could try. So we had a choice in choosing what activities to try but at the end of the day you had to make a decision as to which one you would join.
Obviously you make that decision after having experienced all the activities. So by making the decision, you now already know the predetermined outcome which is you coming to practice high jump or sprints for as long as you're part of the team.👟🎽
So with choices it's more experimental and with decisions it gets serious. So the point is stop bring that serious energy into something that's supposed to be a fun experience. Think of making a choice as tasting and making a decision as eating. 🍽️😋🍔
Ever wore an item of clothing that was just too small for you? Like a small jacket or jeans that were just too tight? With every move you make, you can sense that tightness, that feeling of discomfort. And no one likes being uncomfortable. And in order to be comfortable again, we need to remove that small jacket and put on a more comfy one.🧥👖
Physical discomfort is one thing but emotional discomfort is some totally different. It's not like we can just remove that uncomfortable emotion and replace it with a more comfy emotion. Since we can't do that, most of us end numbing that emotion in order to get comfortable again. Sadly that doesn't remove the discomfort but rather just covers it up until it shows up again. And when it does come up again, we numb it with emotional eating, drinking, shopping and doomscrolling on the socials. 😮💨🍺
But the thing with emotions is that they need to be felt. At first it may be hard because feeling that emotion pain is just too uncomfortable. But the deeper you feel into it, the less uncomfortable it becomes. You might have to do it multiple times but eventually it subsides and sometimes even disappear.
So think of a child coming to you crying and telling you that they feel sad or upset about something. We don't tell the child to go shopping, to scroll on social media, to drink or smoke so that the pain goes away. We allow the child to cry, we give them a hug and we tell them it's gonna get better and they are going to be okay. 🌸🌸
So what normally helps me during those times of emotional discomfort is sitting with myself and acknowledging what I feel. Then I communicate with myself - telling myself that I feel sad, angry or in pain but I know it's temporary. I ask my body what's trying to tell me. Other times I go on a walk and just talk to the part of me that is in pain.
And the more I do that - the less uncomfortable that emotion becomes. 💨
It's about having that uncomfortable conversation with yourself. Sometimes we don't know why we feel the way we feel but we just have to feel the emotion. We owe it to our inner child to sit through that emotional discomfort with them and free ourselves. How do you normally deal with your emotional discomfort?
Self love letter
Dear Self
I often wondered what self love looked like or felt like and I think I am beginning to understand it.
To me, self love means having your own back, not just when everyone else has turned on you but at all times. It looks like trying one more time when it feels like you might even fail. Self love looks like showing up for that morning or evening exercise because you are grateful for what this beautiful body has done for you so you want to keep it healthy.
Self love looks like holding space for yourself when your emotions are all over the place. Allowing yourself to feel what you need to feel without judgement.
Self love means listening to when your body needs to slow down before you burn out. Taking the needed rest for it to come back stronger.
Self love looks like rewarding yourself for all the hardwork you've put in & for the days you chose to remain consistent even when it was so hard.
Self love looks like listening to music the whole day because that's what your soul needs at that moment.
Self love means saying no to things that don't bring you peace.
Self love means making sure that your cup is full - that way you have enough to be of help to others.
Self love means carving out time for being creative because your soul needs an outlet.
Self love means being aware of the things that make you tick and why it is so. It means giving yourself a pat on the back when you survived a situation you thought you wouldn't have.
Self love means pouring in yourself because you are the only person who's gonna live with you for the rest of your life. It means knowing yourself in a way that only you can.
Self love means loving on you because no one can ever love you the way you can. ❣️❣️
Today I gained a new perspective on people- pleasing behaviour. I learnt how the reason we people please is to avoid pain, and that may be through confrontation. So in order to avoid that pain or the pain of disappointing the other person, we people- please. To keep the peace. But at what cost?😑
So one way to deal with this is to accept the discomfort that comes with that confrontation or disappointment.🙁🥺
Become when you engage in people pleasing behaviour. You are not benefit anyone. Not even the other person/people. By choosing to "protect" them from the pain, you are hindering their growth as a person. You are getting in the way of their own healing. And as a result you are also not hindering your own growth by holding onto other people's baggage when you have your own to focus on. 🦋🌸
So rather than being afraid to disappoint them. Be with them through that process of pain. Cause that's the only thing that can help them better than trying to please them.🤍🌱
just your daily reminder that the gear you use does not have to align with your little age!
if you're a kiddo regressor but you like to use pacis and wear onesies thats cool and awesome. if you're a baby regressor but you like to wear pretty dresses and makeup thats also cool and awesome. dont be afraid to use gear that "doesnt make sense for your age"!! the only requirement to use gear is that it makes you happy and helps you regress.
