Hiiii!
My initials: N
My rising: Taurus
My age: 23
In sidereal, my venus is within 10 degrees of aries.
My question: What should I do to become financially independent? If my question isn't phrased quite right, please just give me any advice surrounding this area of my life.
Thank you so muchđź’•đź’•
What should N do to become financially independent?
I see a strong desire for independence and an ability to want to take charge and control over your finances. You have a good starting place, but it's as if you're looking the other way, as if you feel the urge to do something else. Which doesn't quite align with your situation. You're not currently in a bad terrible place, I don't know why you're having this urge to look away. But I guess it's a case of "the grass is always greener on the other side". You want to do so much at once but you need to take a breath. It looks like cultural or family pressure is influencing your attitude right now. It affects you in such a way that you fail to discern opportunities and dare not follow your inner voice. That inner voice that is not anxiety, but a voice that makes you think "hmm, I wish I had done x thing if I had not been so hard on myself". You should free yourself from that external pressure, so you can connect better with yourself; only then you can take better advantage of the opportunities or advantages that come to you. Because in the meantime, you will not be able to take advantage of them in this state. It is not that you need to take a “how to be more independent” course, or listen to someone else’s advice (LMAO). You have the ability to do it yourself, N, which is the funniest thing! Your approach should stop being so pessimistic and ahead of the worst and be more clear minded. Don't be so self-critical. Take control of your anxieties, don't let them cultivate irrational fears about your financial independence. Try to be more flexible with yourself.
Hiii, I hope I make it in time! :)
Initials: A.F. Age: 18 Rising sign: Leo Aries placements on earliest degree: None! (Although I have Aries MC at 13°, no other Aries placements apart from that) My question: What personal flaws of mine are blocking any potential romance from taking place? 🥲
Thank you, have a nice day :)
What personal flaws of AF are blocking any potential romance from taking place?
Your cards were very direct, I like that. Or maybe I just liked your energy cuz is more inviting haha. Anyways: You are an overthinker! That’s it. Now getting more into it… For starters I realize that your biggest obstacle is that you have all this energy and encouragement to get started but, all of a sudden you stop. It's like you're stuck in the doldrums thinking in the least optimistic way about the possibility of something without even taking the necessary steps to get into it. You don't even get to explore it, and I got a card that talks about potential in reversed. What does it mean? It's a cup, and it speaks of emotions. Your heart probably has a hard time opening up at first. You end up blocking the natural flow of things yourself. I do believe you tend to intellectualize things so much. Maybe this is why I got so much sadness from a card and if you do that be careful! I know this is a defense mechanism from you. But it is not a healthy one. You prefer what you know and dislike uncertainty. Now this means that you don't know how to manage, let alone take the initiative on your emotional connections. You get stuck in doubt and fail to balance your emotions with your anxiety. You are likely to analyze everything and become impulsive about that anxiety, and therefore cut off certain connections before they start or don't even bother to enter into them because you notice a particular detail of something you didn't like. You get stuck in that inner struggle that you don't end up doing much, really. Things don't take the initiative. So to get out of this stagnation you need to look for some stability in yourself. Learn how to stop overthinking and intellectualizing everything. Just breathe. Know that not everything needs to be perfect and sometimes hurt happens even if we try our best to avoid it. It’s inevitable. Like the Little Prince said: “Of course I’ll hurt you. Of course you’ll hurt me. Of course we will hurt each other. But this is the very condition of existence. To become spring, means accepting the risk of winter. To become presence, means accepting the risk of absence.” You must learn to balance that stability with some action and initiative without letting those anxieties take over. Asking yourself a simple "Is it really that bad?" or "Is this my anxiety/fear or am I over analyzing it?" or even more simple “Am I living?” to yourself would serve you well. Letting your mind take over your heart is not letting it beat freely. And the heart saddens. Question that anxiety, challenge it to find out if it is really true what it makes you believe. It is good to discern and use logic, but in your case you need to learn to balance heart and mind. Because your mind doesn’t play for you, it plays against you. It puts locks in your heart. I can’t stop quoting books and authors but this will (not) be the last and it goes:
“So we shall let the reader answer this question for himself: who is the happier man, he who has braved the storm of life and lived or he who has stayed securely on shore and merely existed?”
Learn how to manage it to the point it is not your enemy anymore, but your best friend. Bell Hooks said the practice of love offers no place of safety. We risk loss, hurt, pain. We risk being acted upon by forces outside our control. So stop waiting and thinking about it too much and as nike says: just do it. Enjoy and feel. Don't waste your heart in fear.
Initials : SB
Age : 18 yrs, 10 months
Rising sign: Aquarius (according to vedic astrology)
Your question:
How can i improve my focus and love for studies? My cgpa is stuck at 7.5 out of 10, and i feel burnt out whenever i think about studies. My goal to be a rank holder with a cgpa above 9.5
What can SB do to improve their focus and love for studies?
I didn't even start to shuffle but after reading your context and as a tip, if you want to radically raise your score considering that your current score is 7.5 out of 10, you will end up shooting yourself in the foot. You should be more practical and rational about your current situation. Setting such a high bar for yourself without even being able to get out of 7.5 is not the best solution. You should focus on reaching a 7.8 and if you want to be ambitious, maybe an 8. It is not bad to dream big! At all. But you should take small goals, go step by step. When you get to 7.8, set a goal to get to 7.9 and so on. In other words, set realistic goals babe.Â
But that's not what you came for, let's see what the cards say: You have a spread that is mostly pentacle suits. They reinforce what I told you: be more practical. To be more specific, be more practical in your daily academic routines. One of them could be what I told you. Currently you feel that you lack more interest, you have apathy and you are dissatisfied with what you are achieving. But I see you mostly in a cycle. You may be comparing yourself to others (big mistake if that’s so). Although you are not quite deep in this cycle at all. The fact that you have sent an ask to get out of it confirms that there is a part of you that wants to get out of it and WILL get out of it. The obstacle you present is one of disappointment and sadness because you are not able to establish a solid foundation to improve your academic performance. You feel you don't have the stability you should and you refuse to see another point of view. But your best solution is to establish what I told you, a better routine. Start with a study schedule that suits you. If you can't stand 40 minutes in a row with 25 minutes of rest, make it fit you: 10 minutes of study followed by 8 minutes of rest. Are you a visual learner? Draw your notes in a notebook. You struggle with organizing? Create a study plan beforehand. What are your strengths? Are you good at retaining information at longer periods? Then instead of 40 minutes try 55 minutes of studying. Stop focusing on comparing your achievements with others, it should be comparisons with your own self. No more looking at how much your classmate scored versus you. Look at how much you scored versus last time, is there an improvement, what things did you feel helped you and what things did you notice that didn't? If you feel that feeling of wanting to compare yourself imagine a yellow bubble around you and every time you want to compare yourself to others you repeat to yourself in your head: "This progress is mine, no one else's. I'm working on me, and what I'm doing is mine. I am working on me, and on what I can achieve, I am not going to compare myself". You repeat it as many times as necessary while you imagine yourself expanding that bubble until you feel a sense of tranquility. The more you say it with more trust in your words, the more easily the bubble will expand. And then focus on what you can control in that moment. If you’re not that spiritual, try the CBT technique: challenge your thoughts. Thoughts create emotions -> emotions influence behavior and behavior influences thoughts. It is a cycle. There’s a free Harvard course for this! Be mindful with yourself and learn how to improve that resilience against burnout. And by all means, create smaller goals that will help you build your confidence little by little. A simple “Let’s finish this homework first” and then going to your teacher and asked them what you could have done better makes a huge impact. That’s how the burnout can stop too. Do not go thinking that by the next semester you are going to have a 10. You must go little by little but consistently. Do not give up. Nurture this slowly. Because that's the only way you're gonna make it.