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going to just say that... i hate being told things unless it's from @the-adhd-sorcerer ... and sometimes i don't like it from her either, i heavily prefer the ability to choose to do it (which i can still do when told, but there could be consequences... which i also kinda hate), if it's a request odds are i'll do it for her (still a higher chance i won't for anyone else) unless it crosses some form of boundary i have.

although i'm still interested in getting clicker trained (not as a command thing more so either an attention grabber or a "stim toy" for her to "stimulate" me with).

Do you hate being told things?

“But of course, interesting manure” Is the greatest way of saying “cool shit”.

So I forgor… but anyway here’s my experience thus far: as far as when the time I realized… it was when I met my girlfriend ( @the-adhd-sorcerer ), at that point I was still in a toxic relationship and realized that I didn’t want to be in it anymore, and within a week of talking to her and leaving the toxic relationship I became obsessed with two words… two words that hold so much power over my mood that I couldn’t deny doing anything that would get them used on me as a reward... “good girl”, that led to me becoming obsessed with physical affection like belly rubs and headpats, and later wanting to have a collar and leash to be taken on walks with.

How it’s been for me is it really is the best change in my life since coming out as trans in 2019… the euphoria I get from being called a good girl or given those forms of physical affection is well worth the very few downsides (which to me are I’m legitimately unable to function if my gf doesn’t talk to me for more than 12 hours… sometimes less, and the fact I have to wear my collar in order to have any self confidence).

Also as a side note if any puppygirls are near me (I live near Niagara Falls Ontario… but hopefully moving to Finland with my gf at some point), I’m Always down for some platonic cuddles :3 .

I also have this pair of questions that wasn’t on your number = question post: when did you realize puppygirl life was for you? And how has it been for you?. I’ll give my personal experience in your reply post :3

Ooo good questions!!! My boyfriends close friend is a puppygirl and I met her about a year ago, so that's when the idea was started i think. I didn't really embrace it until I made this account though!! That's why I'm not very good at it woooff but yea!!

Also! It's been really good :3 I love meeting other pups and I hope i can play with some someday!! I can't wait till the account gets a little bigger and I get a lot of people to talk to :33 (I love my current mutuals too ofc @samoyed-pup heart youuu and thank you for being so active Rosie :333)

I hate when anyone says me wanting to just be a housewife promotes gender roles and I should stop… I’m sorry I want to live my life the way I want to, and I’m sorry that it’s such a big deal to you, like yeah I’m following A gender role… doesn’t mean I’m intentionally doing it to spite you (although at this point I might as well). Also it’s not just an “I want this” anymore, when I was younger and more oblivious to my transness it was just a want, but now I’m a 20+ year old highschool dropout with no coping skills for my mental issues or any meaningful skills that would help me find a job, like yeah I could try, but it would cost more to work than I would earn, not just because of the therapy I would probably have to go to weekly just to be somewhat stable during the time I have a job, but also due to the mental health issues it would cause after I eventually have a breakdown and quit. And you could say “just get coping skills”, but for me it’s not that easy, I need to be in a good mental state to practice coping skills otherwise it’s just going to lead me into a breakdown… or if it’s breathing techniques a trauma induced panic attack, it’s never going to be worth it for me to work… especially if I can’t find a job that caters to my special interests, because if it doesn’t cater to them I will end up hating every moment of it and it will stress me out.

To those who have the privilege of not being a complete and utter failure mentally and in many cases physically, you can live your life however you want, but sadly even if this wasn’t something I wanted I couldn’t help it.

And remember live life for Yourself and Nobody else.

@the-adhd-sorcerer >:3

A lotta people wanna [TOUCHING] the puppygirl 👐

So… I was talking to some friends online because I couldn’t sleep, and mid sentence I felt something pop in my neck and now I can’t speak… so now I’ve gone 20 hours without sleep and I can’t talk on my own… What the fuck… why does the world hate me? Like this could be a blessing in disguise but at the same time right now it’s feeling like a horrible curse.

You know what’s better (in my opinion) than both back scratches and headpats? Belly rubs… especially when high, even the thought of them while high is enough to make me melt.

Scratch that tgirl’s back and head and watch her body instantly collapse onto you as she moans in content.

I was never quiet and reserved… but I am a burnt out trans girl who melts at any praise or affirmation… especially when it’s from @the-adhd-sorcerer :3

Who else?

This is something I’m kinda hoping to get at some point with my girlfriend when I visit her for the first time… you saying it makes me happy, so I can only imagine how it would feel to get this from her. And if you’re wondering, @the-adhd-sorcerer is my girlfriend… and hopefully future wife as there’s nothing I want more in life than to be with her… forever ^w^

Hey little pet!! Come here!! I heard you were feeling a little down today, don’t worry that’s okay! I’ve gotcha now. Shhhh there, there. It’s okay, you’re safe in my arms. You’re just a good little pet, you know that? So sweet and perfect, absolutely worthy of love and praise. This is all you needed, huh? Just someone to hold you close to their chest, and tell you how proud they are of you? Well good news, I’m so so proud of you, honey. Just relax here and listen to my breathing, mmmkay? Feel the steady beat of my heart. Let yourself relax fully, you’re safe here. I love you, okay? I’m going to keep you safe forever~~

Ngl… I would prefer if people didn’t Have to be human… because as a person who doesn’t like the vileness that tags along with the label “human”… I’d rather be an actual puppy or maybe a cheetah (might as well be a puppy cat), than human.

Something I found on Twitter that really puts things in perspective as a creator.

So, you know that feeling of when you’re in bed and you’re comfy and all of a sudden you feel something hard and sharp poking you, I just had that happen to me with a stick of ddr1 256mb 266mhz ram… what in the actual Fuck, the fact that there is ram this old On My Bed is concerning.

And if you’re wanting photo proof, here (the cable is my switch charger that I use primarily for my phone because my switch is actively dying)

The fact anyone has to explain any of this is disappointing, why can’t we just let people take care of themselves and not worry about the people who have literally done nothing wrong by wearing clothes that makes them happy. And no matter how you frame violence, it’s still violence and therefore bad, I shouldn’t have to worry about getting charged for defending myself (thanks Canada for stupid laws) because someone else doesn’t like that I wear my collar in public… to me it’s not sexual, it’s a comfort thing, as someone who experiences really bad anxiety having said collar reduces my anxiety, and if someone I trust Is holding my leash it’s even more comforting. But you know… totally a bad thing to wear a collar.

"You wearing a collar in public is bad cuz I didn't consent" you wearing a bracelet in public is bad cuz I didn't consent to it.

Yall don't really have a right to consent to other peoples clothes.

Wait… @the-adhd-sorcerer is your dad homophobic??? If so I may need to… well I can’t say “straighten” him out because if he is homophobic he is toxically straight… and I can’t say “deal with him” because that sounds like I’m going to murder him (if he ever threatened your life I would tho, not even up to debate)… and I certainly can’t say that I’ll convert him because conversion therapy is BAD… I guess the best way to say it would be “work it out”… but if they hate gay people I’m probably not going to be very peaceful with my negotiations… either way the only way anyone can separate me from you is by forcefully changing my expiration date

ominous

the struggle of wanting to stuff myself to the brim with E the second I turn 18 but having a crush on a straight girl 😔😔😔

In honour of Lesbian Visibility Week I'd like to make a few small requests to anyone who isn't H@MOPHOBIC 🩷

1. A million gazillion robux

2. A billion followers

3. My wife being nice to me

I think you'll see that my requests are completely reasonable and I will be expecting them to be fulfilled by the end of the week, thank you and goodnight🩷💕

some of my favorite replies to this tweet. happy lesbian visibility week!

made me think of some of you <3

Serious question and just to know :

Is there a country where arocace people can feel safe, are not discriminated against and are protected ?? Especially a law that protects us or etc ?

I know that anglophone aroace people talk about Denmark because there are apparently a lot of people on the aro and ace spectrums.

Just asking cause I'm fck tired of allo society every day since many years now and also tired of all arophobia et acephobia on social media in the first place. 💀

And in my sh*tty country it's always "lgbT", hOMo, bI and transgender. WHAT ABOUT THE D*MN + ??????? ALWAYS ABOUT ALLOS PP FCK DAMMIT. 💀

(Of course : generality =/= globality !!!! Cause I don't hate all allos pp obviously. Some are decents, respectfull , share same values as mine and infinity open mind.)

•°•°•°•°•°•

My mood :

Second gif is for allos bigots, allo society and all their fck pathetic and disgusting sh*ts.

I hate you infinitely.

I had the reflection not long ago of why I was uncomfortable at school (regardless of grade level) apart from stress because of the oral to pass and being an introverted person :

Being aroace and have to stay stuck a whole damn day surrounded by allos pp horny asf and who will not understand me, who tell me about their s€x life (at what point do you think it’s fckin normal to talk about it as if it was a banal and interesting subject ?? Wtf ???💀) without taking into account whether it made me uncomfortable or not (I think they didn’t give a shit because it didn’t come to their mind, those dumbass...).

Being surrounded by queer pp but none of them had defended me when I had received acephobia from a straight guy one day and only watched the scene without saying anything. The fact that most of them with whom I hung out invisibilized or even forgot my aromantism by remembering only my asexuality (bitches I'm aroace dammit. I’m both. Not one or the other !) and couldn't remember or didn't know the definition of being aro or ace.

But the worst I would say is that by dint of receiving arophobia and acephobia in about twenty years in the face, as an angry person by nature and who doesn't appreciate disrespectful pp etc, I became allophobe...

But let’s be clear : I don’t hate all allos pp ! Even if I speak in general, be aware that : generality =/= globality !

I know that some of them are decent, respectful and open-minded and these are the pp I appreciate ! Unfortunately, I have never met someone like that before. Maybe one day...

So to return to the subject :

Am I the only aroace person to be uncomfortable at school ??

It's a bit rough sorry and sorty again if my english is bad, it's not my native language but I hope you will understand the essential !

Once I saw a comment on a instagram post about the ace, aro spectrums that said approximately :

"For me, all characters in any fictional universe are aroace until they show romantic and/or sexual attraction and I headcanon them as aroace/are part of both spectrums."

AND I AGREE WITH THIS PERSON IT'S SO OBVIOUS !

Being in a queer relationship is making a list of future cat names instead of baby names

Guys, i think we just won? Was that… a win? For the queer community? Guys… guys we just won.

fuck yeah !!!!!!!!!

DONT LIKE, REBLOG

so people who do this may see it.

The growing problem of "they" for trans people

Something I've noticed growing more common in my life recently has been people using exclusively "they" when referring to binary trans people who don't use "they"

Why is this a problem?

Using "they" when referring to someone when you don't know is seen as "better" in a lot of spaces now, which I can agree with as you don't know what their actual pronouns are. The problem I've noticed is that when meeting a trans person, a lot of people seem to default to "they" even after being told what pronouns they actually prefer. This can be for a lot of reasons, but the most common ones I hear are "I didn't want to assume" and "its not misgendering, they is neutral!"

Example situation

Person A meets person B, a trans woman. A doesn't know B's pronouns and so refers to B as "they." B corrects A, saying she prefers "she," but A continues to say "they" because its gender neutral. However, A does not do the same to cis women.

Do you see the problem now?

The use of exclusively "they" on trans people but not cis people, no matter your excuse, shows that you don't really see them as what they identify as and is quite transphobic since you're literally ignoring their identity and not seeing them as how they want to be seen.

"Okay, what should I do?"

Simple, just ask them their pronouns and then ACTUALLY USE THEM!! If he says he, DONT USE EXCLUSIVELY THEY! If she says she, DONT USE EXCLUSIVELY THEY! If they say they, well. yeah, use they, obviously. If xe say neopronouns and you don't know how to use those, just ask! If any part of someone's identity confuses you, just fucking ask them instead of assuming, for the love of god, and once they tell you, don't ignore what they said.

That's all. Just please stop calling people who don't use "they" by that.

Edit:

I got this comment and thought I should clarify and add on some MORE things you should avoid doing now that this post has aged a bit, and I've had more time to think!

Please do not attack this person, i dont think they meant it in any bad way

Clarification on the term 'misgendering'

While yes, 'gender' does not directly tell you someones pronouns or what terms they're comfortable with, but misgendering doesn't only mean calling a man a woman or a woman a man. Misgendering is usually thought to only mean using a trans person's assigned sexs' pronouns or deadnaming, but it's actually more than just that, it includes what terms you use for them, how you group them, and what societal expectations you put onto them based on their assigned sex, not just their gender.

Other things you should avoid

* Obviously, these won't apply to every situation. These are just general rules to follow UNTIL YOU KNOW THE PERSON. Once they tell you what they're comfortable with, then do what they ask, not what some random tumblr post says

Calling all gender non-conforming people 'it'

Deadnaming, obviously

Using gendered pronouns for a non-conforming person

Arguing with someone over the validity of their identity

Automatically introducing someone as trans

Assuming someone is out to other family or friends

Using incorrectly gendered terms, including when referring to a group

Exclusively using gender neutral terms/compliments

Edit 2:

TLDR: Don't say, "But some people use it/its!" and read the paragraph directly above the numbered list.

Stop telling me that some people use it/its, I already know this. I used it/its at one point, and many of my friends do. As i said in the paragraph litrrally directly before, these won't apply to every situation!! Please stop trying to correct me when I already said that it's not going to be universal and to follow the person's wishes once you know them. Its making me feel like a bad person despite the fact i started it with that clarification. It's literally in the paragraph directly above your complaint. I was referring to people who use it/its exclusively when referring to gender non-conforming people who don't use it/its, instead of the persons actual pronouns. Just read.

In regards of the Trump government scraping all trans inclusion in its queer information portion of its websites I have made this thing. Spread the word. Don't let them pretend we never existed.

P.S: Don't like! Reblog! <3

the way I relate to this soooo much <3

Gender is so weird guys

I'm one of the girls, I'm a girl's girl and I'll cry if you say I'm not, but I'm not a girl's girl.

I'm also Just Some Guy, y'know? I'm a little weirdo, a freak, a little girl with dirt on his knees and fire in his eyes.

I'm her husband but I'm also her girlfriend.

I'm neither a man nor a woman but a weird recluse writer who lives on the edge of a cliff where its always stormy.

I dress like an alt older brother from an early 2000's movie but also like a 90's lesbian (sometimes it's the same outfit).

In conclusion, labels are weird. I'm a boyfriend and a girlfriend, a husband but not a wife, a girl but not a woman, a guy, a man, a friend.

All that being said, he/him and they/them are still very much my pronouns (never she/her).

Peace and love!!

I wouldn't be surprised if that was an actual angel because I've heard stories of alleged angel encounters just like this

nothing has been more important to my being queer than when i went to my first pride parade, got seperated from my group, had a panic attack about it and was sitting on the side of the road holding a tiny genderfluid flag and freaking out. then this six foot five drag queen in four inch heels appeared from literally nowhere and sat down next to me. i, this scared-shitless trans bi kid at pride for the first time, very nervously told her she looked pretty and i told her my name and that i got lost and didn't feel like i should be at pride and she held my hand and said "oh, honey, everybody deserves to be here, especially you. pride is for everybody who's ever gotten lost, who's been scared of who they are or where they are. you think we never been scared before? pride's for you, honey, because you're scared. you don't have to be proud right now, but you're gonna be one day, honey, i'm sure of it."

i found my group soon after that and i never saw that queen again but to this day i am convinced i met an angel.

so yeah. pride is for you. pride is for all of us.

With @staff 's recent post saying 1/4 of this site is LGBTQ going around, I'd like to see what the actual demographic is

So!

Please reblog for bigger sample size!

transmasc aroace sukuna

Transmasc aroace Sukuna who doesn't need to be taught about love.

He knows what love is; it just doesn't serve him to to him, "Love is meaningless."

also I think that this can be doubled down with my headcanon that before he was a curse; he literally wasn't loved by anyone.

born in a world that wasn't ready to accept him and wouldn't love him anyways because he killed his mother with his birth

Transmasc Sukuna who gave himself the perfect body which coincidentally is the pinnacle of Jujutsu sorcery, he doesn't have to think about himself from before he was turned into a curse because now he's The Strongest Sorcerer (in History)

Transmasc Sukuna who decorates his body with thick black tattoos that many people find scary and taboo but he sees it as more of a 'fuck you' to tradition*

*(the people who killed him/the higher ups/the conservative fossils who couldn't find it in their hearts to even TRY to love him even if it would still be meaningless to him)

Transmasc aroace Sukuna who has kept one person with him throughout all the thousand years he's been a cursed object: Uraume

I believe since it hasn't, and it's not going to be explained in the manga/anime:

Uraume is his non-binary, aroace follower.

He keeps them around for a few reasons

1. Cooking: his favorite hobby is eating. It's good to have a personal chef on your side.

2. To do the tedious menial tasks that come with causing chaos everywhere. Not sure what they are specifically but I know they're there.

3. Uraume helps keep pests at bay. Telling them to fuck off and out of Sukuna's personal space when he feels the itch to get rid of an annoying eyesore.

4. Back-up fighter: self-explanatory

*":*":*":*":*":*":*":*":*":*":*":*":*":*":*":*":*":*":*"

Let me cook (get me outta the Malevolent kitchen please)

aroace sukuna aroace sukuna aroace sukuna aroace sukuna aroace sukuna aroace sukuna aroace sukuna aroace sukuna Guys this is the culmination of a bunch of headcanons running amuck in my brain and also the character analysis' from @thepersonperson

So now, here are my hc's for AroAce!Sukuna:

Legitimately prefers to not be touched and appreciates respect for personal space (round of applause for Uraume*)

Hobbies,:

1. Fighting - self explanatory: he hates being bored, he also uses fighting as a way to bond and learn about others

2. Eating - confirmed in the official fanbook(iirc): it doesn't matter if it's people or Oreos, he enjoys food

3. Analysing literature/opponents fighting habits - It's explained better and in more detail by @thepersonperson, but the main take-away is that Sukuna is like a shark; using exploratory 'bites' in order to gain knowledge about things- his opponents. He uses used dismantle to take apart, to dissect his opponents, to learn how they'll react and if they can match his freak, so to speak.

3.5. Going back to the literature point - seeing as in history, the Heian era is considered the peak of the Japanese imperial court, it's noted for it's refinement in art, poetry and literature.

He gets annoyed, disgusted, bored, and all of the above when someone hits on him, seeks him out romantically or tries to use/touch him physically.

See: Yorozu when she's withing a 1 mile radius of Sukuna, Mahito after touching his soul, Kenjaku's weird obsession with him that led to him jumping his twins bones for some reason

Again, as dutifully (<3) explained by the aforementioned Tumblr User, Sukuna expressed affection through violence. This is the only way he is able to connect with anyone he seems worth his time to fight.

Being a curse that is legitimately perfect when it comes to CE and CTs, he reaches out from the top to grasp some sort of worthy interaction:

an entire half year of prep to fight Gojo,

'playing' with Jogo and making an effort to fight with him on his terms,

finding interest and potential in Megumi,

a yap fest of unwarranted appraisal to Maki

and he was basically all grins and smiles when he fought each of these sorcerers.

*Star next to Uraume because I hc that they're Ace-spec as well.

Cuz who else is better at telling people you don't want to be bothered, touched or talked to other than you fanatic worshipper who understands your boundaries clear and concisely?

Tirade over, I'm going to sleep.

aroace sukuna aroace sukuna aroace sukuna aroace sukuna aroace sukuna aroace sukuna aroace sukuna aroace sukuna Guys this is the culmination of a bunch of headcanons running amuck in my brain and also the character analysis' from @thepersonperson (give them some love for their big, juicy, brain <333)

So now, here are my hc's for AroAce!Sukuna:

Legitimately prefers to not be touched and appreciates respect for personal space (round of applause for Uraume*)

Hobbies,:

1. Fighting - self explanatory: he hates being bored, he also uses fighting as a way to bond and learn about others

2. Eating - confirmed in the official fanbook(iirc): it doesn't matter if it's people or Oreos, he enjoys food

3. Analysing literature/opponents fighting habits - It's explained better and in more detail by @thepersonperson, but the main take-away is that Sukuna is like a shark; using exploratory 'bites' in order to gain knowledge about things- his opponents. He uses used dismantle to take apart, to dissect his opponents, to learn how they'll react and if they can match his freak, so to speak.

3.5. Going back to the literature point - seeing as in history, the Heian era is considered the peak of the Japanese imperial court, it's noted for it's refinement in art, poetry and literature.

He gets annoyed, disgusted, bored, and all of the above when someone hits on him, seeks him out romantically or tries to use/touch him physically.

See: Yorozu when she's withing a 1 mile radius of Sukuna, Mahito after touching his soul, Kenjaku's weird obsession with him that led to him jumping his twins bones for some reason

Again, as dutifully (<3) explained by the aforementioned Tumblr User, Sukuna expressed affection through violence. This is the only way he is able to connect with anyone he seems worth his time to fight.

Being a curse that is legitimately perfect when it comes to CE and CTs, he reaches out from the top to grasp some sort of worthy interaction:

an entire half year of prep to fight Gojo,

'playing' with Jogo and making an effort to fight with him on his terms,

finding interest and potential in Megumi,

a yap fest of unwarranted appraisal to Maki

and he was basically all grins and smiles when he fought each of these sorcerers.

*Star next to Uraume because I hc that they're Ace-spec as well.

Cuz who else is better at telling people you don't want to be bothered, touched or talked to other than you fanatic worshipper who understands your boundaries clear and concisely?

Tirade over, I'm going to sleep.