Saturn In The 5th House - Blog Posts

My bf and i have these placements :>

The isolated Lovers : Saturn in the 5th & 11th

(Billie Eilish - Bitches Broken Hearts)

I think Saturn in the 5th and Saturn in the 11th people are the hardest to get to know. Saturn in the 5th can take intimacy as a whole extremely serious which makes it harder for potential love interest to decipher whether or not your actions make a difference with them. Saturn in the 11th housers take their futures and long term goals seriously so it can seem as if they have a countinuous high growing wall of separation to those who are trying to become their friends or invite them into a social circle and or group. Saturn in the 5th housers can seem more stoic and somber than a Capricorn sun. And Saturn In the 11th housers can seem more detached and impersonal than Aquarius moons.

To get close to these individuals takes TIME! Instant gratification types won’t work well with these people as they need time to get comfortable with the idea of YOU. They don’t jump into any type of commitment no matter what or how good it seems on the onset. Both of these types of people think about long term and wether or not what the person is offering them will stand the test of time.

Saturn in the 5th: “I want love that wakes up with me even when the dirt lays utop my bones”

Winning them over is difficult but a good starting point is being consistent! Be open about your feelings for them as well as even if they do know how you feel, depending on what point in their life you catch them they might’ve been through quite a bit that’s made them very mature so reading in between the lines is childish to them! They prefer direct people who are straight up about what they want and how they feel! So do not be afraid to be straight up and tell them.

Part two: they don’t start relationships off the bat and it may be quite sometimes(and on their time at that) until they decide to start or make the relationship start. This is because they LOVEE stability and foundation and they want to build something that’s stable and will last! So they will test your level of maturity, your reliability, your commitment and honesty and will likely REALLY observe how invested you are in your feelings! Many feel as though feelings change and because of this they refuse to trust any display of “I like you” and so on. They need action to really solidify things. So it may sound boring but stick with it! Be patient! Be sturdy and most importantly be your bubbly and or serious self! Don’t alter your personality for them! Trust! They enjoy you being yourself! They mainly just observe your dedication and depth as to wether or not they want to take your offer seriously. These are some of the most INTIMATE and caring lovers you can ever have! They would sacrifice and move worlds for you! It’s up to you if you’re willing to stick around the training wheels phase.

Part three: the training wheels phase can last awhile! Unlike Saturn in the 11th though you won’t be waiting for your whole life. It could simply be months or a year depending on who you are and who the person is. That being said! If they give you their time, isolate themselves, get a tad bit more serious and dry or even let you know things about their personal life that causes them to take things slow then they have feelings for you and you’ve likely tugged their heart strings in a way! Good for you :). So just stay confident and positive and they’ll soon open up even more but this time on a deeper emotional level! These natives are very romantic and traditional in their approach but man oh man will they give you everything they have! They tend to make their love interest their world so they often times take quite a bit of time to make sure they are healthy emotionally to handle such a deep commitment.

Saturn in the 11th house: “I want to be seen…really seen, seen for what I am, not what they want me to be”

These people are naturally detached and have a streak of impersonal approaches to people and society as a whole. To some people this impersonal attitude can seem like a magnet or attraction as they have no problem at attracting admirers, friends and lovers alike. That being said these people tend to be Hard as hell to get close too, dare I say even more so then Saturn in the 5th. They don’t like intimacy mainly because they’d have to be vulnerable and show their soft parts, the parts they work so hard to hide. Friendships tend to be an area of seriousness for them because they’ve been so used and taken advantage of by others as they grew up. These natives learn early on not to trust the situations that seem so easy and fun, they aren’t the types to hold tight to people for long and have no problem letting people go or moving on as if it were absolutely nothing. It may seem harsh but these people simply just don’t need you and won’t pretend like they do, they are far beyond that. If you intend to get close to them you have to understand Saturn isn’t uncomfortable in the house of Aquarius! Saturn co rules Aquarius after all. These natives value authenticity and stability. They are tremendously goofy and spacious individuals who are actually pretty dark and ingenious! They crave being able to express their true selves around people who understand and somewhat relate to their crazy out there personalities. Because of this they tend to have high standards for long term friendships and tend to take a few years before really considering someone even a “friend”

Part one: these people don’t consider people best friends and hardly throw the word around unless they’ve known the person near damn their whole life. These people can become very detached the more someone tries to become more intimate or get closer to them on a friendship level. They tend to loathe a lack of a connection and of they ever feel as though they have to pretend or wear a face to be around you they won’t readily consider you as a friend and dare I say they might never. To get close to them you have to understand that they want to be accepted for who they are and not who you want them to be! They instinctually people please so getting to know them is not triggering this response out of them! Be as goofy and “yourself” as you possibly can! Much like Saturn in the 5th these people want to see someone’s most authentic self and someone who is faking it or wearing mask and playing mental gymnastics won’t really fit because the 11th house Saturn native will reply by simply being fake and superficial in response.

Part two: they can be incredibly intimate and VERY PROTECTIVE AND LOVING friends who accept their lovers and friends for all that they are flaws and all! But the one issue here is that they can lack the ability to fake it or be artificial for too long. They like real and can have a very serious and mature view about what real community looks like, what real friendship and acceptance looks like! So if they ever get the vibe that your specific social group lacks foundation and proper knowledge they might write it off, if your offer for friendship seems forged in “I’m lonely and you’re available” they’ll be kind and sweet but they’ll never let you in emotionally. If you want them for their bodies or what they give to you on an emotional level as a lover, you’ll never really have them or know them on any level deeper than a kiss. They are people who crave a long term group or friendships that they can truly

Love and enjoy but most times they don’t get this and remarkably they attract a lot of older or Capricorn like friends who adore their company! They can seem sooooo tasty to the world because of their bubbly and lovely personality, their ability to read through people and their acceptance of others of all walks of life. That being said they don’t know how to pretend.. they can’t

Part three : to be close to these natives is more simple than you think. It’s about being yourself and knowing yourself. These natives have very good self awareness and from an early age they are able to self reflect and understand who they are. Because of this quality they look for self assured and stable friends who have a far out and rather open and free spirited nature. If you’re insecure then these might not be the friends for you. If you’re possessive and untrusting these might not be the people for you. If you’re shallow and vain then these won’t be the people for you. They adore people who are comfy with themselves and who are mature with a fun little mixture of unique and individualistic! Many love loner types and are ones themselves! If you have your eye on one platonically or romantically understand that the friendship won’t start over night! There will be withdrawal periods and times where they seem rather serious and detached and maybe even disappear of the grid multiple times but as the years pass you’ll notice they become more responsive, reliable and deeply caring and understanding. They are loyal as hell and will ride for their friends but it takes time to get there and it’s a ride you’ll have to stick through.

I’ve noticed that people with these Saturn placements tend to be drawn to one another and or they tend to have a very strong connection. Saturn in the 5th housers understand the need to be seen in Saturn in the 11th housers, the need to be accepted and understood, but they also understand the need for something real and Honest. Saturn in the 11th housers understand the 5th house Saturn natives need for privacy, integrity and stability. They understand their need for real intimacy and real deep compassion and depth. This is one of my favorite natal connections between two people! Almost second to someone with Pluto in the 6th falling for someone with Pluto in the 2nd. That being said, I sometimes believe that Saturn in the 11th housers do prefer to be alone as opposed to being with another person. It’s not out of being promiscuous or unable to settle down, rather it’s the inner revelation that no body will ever really “see” them.

This is is just a preview of the upcoming Saturn in the houses post. I will be redoing these two house placements in the post as well but I wanted to give them a private separate write up. The movie end of the f***ing world is a heavily saturnain movie and I do believe both of them had these two placements. Which is why they were so deeply magnetized to one another. But maybe why in the end he was the one running off and she the one caught(safely). And his status left rather ambiguous towards the very end.