If I say “no” to someone and they get angry, this does not mean I should have said “yes.”
Saying “no” does not make me selfish.
Although I want to please the people I care about, I do not have to please them all the time.
It is okay to want or need something from someone else.
My wants and needs are just as important as those of anyone else.
I have the right to assert myself, even if I may inconvenience others.
finally i’m doing something good. finally it’s me over everyone else. for so long, it was easy to be anyone else in the world, to say yes to everyone else but myself. it was so easy it was subconsciously done. i didn’t even realise just how much i was hiding, how much shame i didn’t want to show. worse, it was loud. the shame was so loud i couldn’t even swallow it whole. and finally i could recognise it in myself. finally i stop trying to swallow it down. finally i’m not scared to choose me.
— i’m not going to apologise for saying no. if anything, i bravely say yes. i’m saying yes to myself, to who i am, to a life without shame and fear. my dear, you’re good enough, you’re doing enough. you can choose yourself and still have the whole world in the palms of your hands.
marina grace