Trans Man - Blog Posts
Happy Trans Day of Visibility to you all! I know being out and proud is really hard in a LOT of places right now but know that I see you
Literally, I'm watching you right now 👁👁/j
Anyways have a repost of my boy Kevin since I'm not home to take pics of him right now and I'll probably forget later
As a trans man and as a Ukrainian Jew, I cannot stress how important it is for us to know our history.
LGBTQ representation in Slavic countries is almost nonexistent. The ubiquity of gender norms is so often baked into our culture and societies. The looming threat of violence if we don't comply is so omnipresent that it prevents us from forming a strong community. Our stories are shared privately, hushed, with bated breath from friend to friend.
Far too much, i've witnessed the loneliness and alienation of people like me, the paralysing fear in parents' eyes for the fates of their children. I still cannot share my transness with my closest friends or relatives. People I have known since I was a child, whom I've shared my whole life with.
Imagine how many of us are living in the exact same circumstances. But we can never appease them enough, no matter how much we bend and mold ourselves for a semblance of normalcy that never existed.
It does not have to stay this way. Through making our history known, we must stay alive and stand united now more than ever.
We have always existed, and we aren't going anywhere.
Queer Jews Project Day 8 - Berel-Beyle
We only know about Berel-Beyle through Yeshaye Katovski’s letter to the Forward in 1936 about “the girl who became a man.” To summarize: Berel-Beyle was AFAB, grew up in Krivozer, Ukraine, left home for Odessa, transitioned to a man, went back to his hometown, was accepted by his community, and married an old girlfriend, Black Rachel.
To quote the letter, “In our shtetl, Berel-Beyle always had a good name as a fine, upstanding Jew.”
I wish we knew more about this trans ancestor, but I’m glad we know about him.
Learn more about Berel-Beyle here.
Queer Jews Project
"Trans people may rip ourselves apart or drive ourselves mad trying to communicate our existence in some well-reasoned and responsible way, but cis people have no such compunctions. Cis people never stop talking about trans people, because they never have to; cis people can just make shit up, and someone will pay to publish it, pretty much every time. That’s what unconditional privilege in patriarchy looks like. It is the freedom to define someone else’s reality on your own terms."
- Eraserhead, Jude Doyle
! COMMISSIONS, PRINTS, RAISING FUNDS FOR HRT !
Depending on where you're from you might've heard about the difficult situation with trans healthcare in my country. Some recent events ended up in me seeking care abroad, which comes with its own positives and negatives, one of the worst being the cost of appointments and medication. I'm opening some emergency commissions and other ways to support my art to get some of the financial stress under control
Love you, take care, and if you're in a similar situation and looking for information about getting hrt through Austria instead, feel free to reach out!
(The same goes for anyone who finds using ko-fi inconvenient)
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DONT LIKE, REBLOG
so people who do this may see it.
The growing problem of "they" for trans people
Something I've noticed growing more common in my life recently has been people using exclusively "they" when referring to binary trans people who don't use "they"
Why is this a problem?
Using "they" when referring to someone when you don't know is seen as "better" in a lot of spaces now, which I can agree with as you don't know what their actual pronouns are. The problem I've noticed is that when meeting a trans person, a lot of people seem to default to "they" even after being told what pronouns they actually prefer. This can be for a lot of reasons, but the most common ones I hear are "I didn't want to assume" and "its not misgendering, they is neutral!"
Example situation
Person A meets person B, a trans woman. A doesn't know B's pronouns and so refers to B as "they." B corrects A, saying she prefers "she," but A continues to say "they" because its gender neutral. However, A does not do the same to cis women.
Do you see the problem now?
The use of exclusively "they" on trans people but not cis people, no matter your excuse, shows that you don't really see them as what they identify as and is quite transphobic since you're literally ignoring their identity and not seeing them as how they want to be seen.
"Okay, what should I do?"
Simple, just ask them their pronouns and then ACTUALLY USE THEM!! If he says he, DONT USE EXCLUSIVELY THEY! If she says she, DONT USE EXCLUSIVELY THEY! If they say they, well. yeah, use they, obviously. If xe say neopronouns and you don't know how to use those, just ask! If any part of someone's identity confuses you, just fucking ask them instead of assuming, for the love of god, and once they tell you, don't ignore what they said.
That's all. Just please stop calling people who don't use "they" by that.
Edit:
I got this comment and thought I should clarify and add on some MORE things you should avoid doing now that this post has aged a bit, and I've had more time to think!
Please do not attack this person, i dont think they meant it in any bad way
Clarification on the term 'misgendering'
While yes, 'gender' does not directly tell you someones pronouns or what terms they're comfortable with, but misgendering doesn't only mean calling a man a woman or a woman a man. Misgendering is usually thought to only mean using a trans person's assigned sexs' pronouns or deadnaming, but it's actually more than just that, it includes what terms you use for them, how you group them, and what societal expectations you put onto them based on their assigned sex, not just their gender.
Other things you should avoid
* Obviously, these won't apply to every situation. These are just general rules to follow UNTIL YOU KNOW THE PERSON. Once they tell you what they're comfortable with, then do what they ask, not what some random tumblr post says
Calling all gender non-conforming people 'it'
Deadnaming, obviously
Using gendered pronouns for a non-conforming person
Arguing with someone over the validity of their identity
Automatically introducing someone as trans
Assuming someone is out to other family or friends
Using incorrectly gendered terms, including when referring to a group
Exclusively using gender neutral terms/compliments
Edit 2:
TLDR: Don't say, "But some people use it/its!" and read the paragraph directly above the numbered list.
Stop telling me that some people use it/its, I already know this. I used it/its at one point, and many of my friends do. As i said in the paragraph litrrally directly before, these won't apply to every situation!! Please stop trying to correct me when I already said that it's not going to be universal and to follow the person's wishes once you know them. Its making me feel like a bad person despite the fact i started it with that clarification. It's literally in the paragraph directly above your complaint. I was referring to people who use it/its exclusively when referring to gender non-conforming people who don't use it/its, instead of the persons actual pronouns. Just read.
i think i want a glass packer, it would give me an edge and add a lot of danger to my mundane life
wheezing
Hellppp some transphobe found my posts about getting surgery and is yelling in my asks about how I mutilated my ‘perfect feminine body’ . I got my wisdom teeth removed.
the effects are just daft punk lmao
⚠️ warning: side effects of testosterone ⚠️
✅ harder
✅ better
✅ faster
✅ stronger
gotta say i don't like how many "how to pass ftm" guides are straight up just like. be monotone and uninterested and don't engage in your "feminine" hobbies and don't wear bright colors and don't be polite and don't smile at people and don't show emotion ever. like how precisely is this a healthy thing to be teaching people (especially the young people these are often targeted at)??? i am a bubbly boy. a cheerful chap. a merry man. a good-humored guy. a glowing gent. a veritable ray of fucking sunshine and i am NOT toning that down!!!! fuck you!!!!!!!
other queer people love to tell me i 'look like a conservative man' because i like body building, sports, cargo pants and fishing. just tell me you stereotype masculine men to being the worstest people ever, and disregard peoples actual values to prioritize aesthetics.
ppl will literally be like “making a value judgement based on someone’s appearance is wrong!!!!!!! anyway i’m going to make value judgements based on this fat and/or masculine person’s appearance.”
All the different versions I was playing around with shading too but he’s a selkie. Selkey? I dont know the things that have a seal skin that they can wear
i love the art! (i commented more in the tags :>)
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i like to imagine akari got to wear the uniform he wanted after the end of the manga. (who is this? pokemon history under the cut!)
for those of you who don't know, this is akari from the manga 'how i became a pokemon card (1999)'! (bulbapedia link)
he is a trans boy, and to my knowledge is the only canon trans boy in all of the pokemon franchise among the small handful of canon trans characters.
this manga never got an official localization, so how some chose to translate the matter of akari using different pronouns differs from translation to translation. the sentiment stays the same though - akari is a boy, though he was born a girl.
this and the tension it causes with his mother is the main focus of this chapter of the manga. i would even say the subject of dysphoria is communicated pretty decently for how old the manga is, though usually through the metaphor of pokemon!
though the ending for the chapter is kind of ambiguous, so i wouldn't call it a perfect representation, its still pretty cool to see a canon trans character in a manga thats almost as old as i am. thank you if you read this far, and please give this manga a read!
