Trans Men - Blog Posts
My friend tell me about her classmate saw me in the video and was like: «Holy shit, what a cute boy, can you give me his number?»
It was like a month ago, but still makes me a bit happier
Me: "Mom, theoretically, would you love me if I were a guy?"
Mom: "No."
Try to walk straight because it is good for my health - ❌❌❌
Trying to walk straight because it helps with my gender dysphoria - ✅✅✅
Absolutely love that my blogs name is stupid little queer, because every time I get a notification that my mutuals (whom I love so dearly) post, Tumblr always roasts me
"Hey Stupid Little Queer, your mutal just posted again"
"Your gonna love this one you dumb little stupid queer"
"Hey Faggot-"
It makes me smile every time, thank you Tumblr
I love bring able to see tras people grown up, I love seeing adult trans people, I love knowing we've been here forever, and we're still here
I love knowing there's a place for me in the world, that I'm not going to grow out of this, that you didn't and neither will I.
I love this, I love you
The evolution of (trans) man.
(Well, this one, anyway.)
Age 9: "Tomboy"
Age 15: Strictly enforced femininity
Age 30: Hitting the mental limits of being closeted all his life and about to crash HARD
Age 47: Fifteen years now since starting transition. Far more good days than bad, no regrets.
The world may be full of uncertainty and danger, but I resolve to continue to find joy in who I am. Be joyful to be kind to yourself and be joyful to spite the bastards who would tear us apart.
Got an ask recently that called this pfp a "transmasc Emily" and I have not stopped thinking about it all day
Me Before HRT:
Me after HRT:
Trans Tips #10!
List off parts of yourself that you DO like!
I always see "oh I don't like this or that, I don't pass for this reason or another" ect ect ect (Also I'm totally a hypocrit for this) BUT
MAKE A LIST OF THINGS YOU DO LIKE!!!
In the process of making my Pfp, I had to think about what my face and stuff looks like, that makes it look most like me out of all of these options
MAKE LISTS OF THINGS YOU LIKE ABOUT YOURSELF
I have a mutual, I can't remember who, but somebody said they also did voice training, and (as a singer) they could no longer reach higher pitch notes
ID BE SO EUPHORIC OF THAT FACT!!! THATS FUCKING AWESOME!!!
I can change a tire! I aired my tires and had to change one recently!!! IM STILL LIVING OFF OF THE EUPHORIA OF THAT!
This post is derailing rapidly, so I'll move on to the example part of my post!
My lovely PFP in question! I used a stardew valley pfp creator to make it. I've only played a tiny bit of stardew valley, but @wizzom showed it to me months ago, and now I'm using it for my profile!
I had to select different characteristics that matched my face, and it made me think objectively about myself,
As an artist, I had to pull myself apart by my tiny details instead of looking at the big picture. Overall, I don't pass, my features work together to look at little more fem, but each characteristic made me feel better about myself
My hair is blue! Not really a masculine or feminine thing, it just is (it's also very grown own, so you can see my very long dark roots, but whatever)
My hair is wavy, very similar to my Dad's, which already makes me feel good
My hair is very long! I have been cutting/shaving my hair for the better part of 4 years, all through high school, and I'm finally letting it grow out. I feel like there's a nice punk element to it, but also, if my femininity was highlighted with short hair, may my masculinity be defined by my long, luxurious, wavy hair
I have sun kisses on my cheeks, bridge of my nose, and shoulders from repeatedly burning and peeling. Now they're very faint freckles
I am white, but I'm not super pale. I tan very good and will be outside more when summer hits. This is the closest I could get to my skin tone
I have very thick, bushy eyebrows. My fiancé jokes about them being patchy and fucked up near the ends, and that they're just very bold and wildly thick
I have a big forehead, also like my dad!
I have more of a rounded nose (Fiance calls it a snub/snoobie nose) which i get more from my mom
I have very, very dark brown eyes to the point that in the shade, people often can't tell my pupil from my iris. It's only clear in direct sunlight
I have some eye bags, I work and overnight/revolving shift at work, and just naturally have a droopy, depressed, tired resting face
I don't have a beard (YET), but in my dream post, this is very similar to the beard I had. In my dream, my beard was my natural brown, but this pfp creator wouldn't let me change the facial hair color. (Low key love the look tho)
I do have a giant brown leather jacket that I wear constantly, he's scuffed and fucked up, I got him from a thrift store, but he has personality and I love him
I wear alot of horror t-shirts, mostly black with red accents, which is why the shirt is that color
Also, all of my shirts either have a wide neck or I've stretched the neck. I have ADHD and sensory issues and can not handle shit touching my throat. I WILL throw up (same with tags, I rip them off of everything I own/wear. I just can't)
The character creator wouldn't let me add piercings, but I have 3 facial piercings. My right eyebrow, septum, and tongue ring
I have a wider/boxier/chubbier face shape, with a soft jawline. I have convinced myself that that + my big forehead makes me look more masc
I like to joke that I have those soft masculine looks that girls are jealous of (male long lashes, boys soft kissable lips, guys with big butts, ect) just to help re-frame how I think about that stuff
I have a very broad back, I'm working out more to try and build muscle, but I'm happy for my wide back
I can go on but you get the point. Everything i try and reframe into being masculine. It can be difficult with dysphoria, but I continue to try!
Anyway, please message me! Put shit in my ask box! Comment! Add your own traits that you love! Please please please please please interact I WANNA SEE HOW YOU SEE YOURSELF
Is that a transmasc Emily pfp I see (so incredibly based)
1: I BARELY know what your talking about (Stardew Valley)
2: This is INCREDIBLY funny to me
Answer: No! Very sadly! I completely forgot she also had blue hair. I, too, have blue hair and Pronouns!
I used a stardew valley pfp creator and made myself! There's a post somewhere on this blog going over the reasons I chose certain design elements but that's just (mostly) how I look, lol!
Trans Tips #11!
Try to get some sort of Gender Affriming Gear if it's safe for you to!
I've always wanted things like binders and boxers, but but I was gender fluid and making entirely too many excuses for why I "didn't need it"
GET IT
I have been out for about 3 months now as a full trans guy, but I've presented masculinely for the last few years
As of this year (2025) my fiance has been gifting me more trans affirming items. They got me FNAF boxers that just feel great, and a packer (boxers with a bulge) and we are looking into safe binders together to pick out the best ones for me
The point is that I LOVE all of this! I love my packer, I love sitting/standing in ways that show it off, and I love the weight and feel of it! Sure I felt silly at first because it's a little silly looking but I've gotten so much more confident with it! Even if you can't wear a packer, boxers were my first step and they also felt amazing! Something about them is just so gender affirming!
Right now I just wear sports bras but it still works to somewhat flatten my chest. And I love that!
The point is to stop making excuses, obviously if your living in an unsafe environment is understand if you can't but if you can! Then it's just a game changer!
You don't need to be "more masc" or more fucking anything to wear what makes you more comfortable!
I love my packer, I love my sports bra, I love my boxers, I love my cargo pants, I love my body and my skin and what I'm willing to do to feel comfortable in it day-to-day is spend a couple dollars here and there to get gender affirming gear!
What are you willing to do to feel comfortable in your skin today?
*starts timer*
*checks #transmen tag*
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"Hmm, no..."
*Checks #transmasc tag*
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"Hmmmm, not here either"
*goes to liked posts*
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"FOUND IT!!!"
*checks timer*
Timer: 47 min, 2 seconds
That is how long it took me to find this FUCKING POST
JUST TO SAY
THIS POST HAS GIVEN ME A GENDER EUPHORIC HIGH I HAVNT FELT IN SO LONG
"But Li, you repost so many trans positiviy posts, why is this one so euphoric"
First of all, your beautiful, SECOND of all:
Specifically for one of the characters represented in it that i can relate to SO hard
And that is HIM
As a pre-top surgery trans guy, this shit makes me feel so EUPHORIC
Whether he can't get top surgery or doesn't want it doesn't fucking matter, what matters is that he doesn't have it, and he's still chest out and fucking proud about it
I don't know how to describe it properly but seeing somebody whose body is so much like my own, sitting there so casually, the representation has me on fucking Cloud Nine
And the whole image is beautifully created, an amazing representation of the diversity of trans men is just breath taking- the colors, the poses, the controposo, the contrasts
It's just, it's just a perfect and uplifting image all together, but still seeing someone with a body like mine represented is so beautiful and wonderful
This post has effected the way I carry myself
I used to think the peak of my masculinity right now was walking around the house in a sports bra because I don't have a proper binder rn- I was still covering mirrors to shower. Lights off, don't look down, just wash and go, close my eyes to get dressed
BUT FUCK after I saw this, I went to change and I looked in the mirror, and I saw myself in this image
I was able to look at my chest more objectively
And I just thought-like
"Yeah, that is a male body, that's what my male body is *supposed* to look like"
And just
Yeah
happy pride !! i love u my trans masc siblings 🫶 ⚧️ 🫶
this is also a redraw of a piece from june 2019 ⬇️
Trans Tips #10!
List off parts of yourself that you DO like!
I always see "oh I don't like this or that, I don't pass for this reason or another" ect ect ect (Also I'm totally a hypocrit for this) BUT
MAKE A LIST OF THINGS YOU DO LIKE!!!
In the process of making my Pfp, I had to think about what my face and stuff looks like, that makes it look most like me out of all of these options
MAKE LISTS OF THINGS YOU LIKE ABOUT YOURSELF
I have a mutual, I can't remember who, but somebody said they also did voice training, and (as a singer) they could no longer reach higher pitch notes
ID BE SO EUPHORIC OF THAT FACT!!! THATS FUCKING AWESOME!!!
I can change a tire! I aired my tires and had to change one recently!!! IM STILL LIVING OFF OF THE EUPHORIA OF THAT!
This post is derailing rapidly, so I'll move on to the example part of my post!
My lovely PFP in question! I used a stardew valley pfp creator to make it. I've only played a tiny bit of stardew valley, but @wizzom showed it to me months ago, and now I'm using it for my profile!
I had to select different characteristics that matched my face, and it made me think objectively about myself,
As an artist, I had to pull myself apart by my tiny details instead of looking at the big picture. Overall, I don't pass, my features work together to look at little more fem, but each characteristic made me feel better about myself
My hair is blue! Not really a masculine or feminine thing, it just is (it's also very grown own, so you can see my very long dark roots, but whatever)
My hair is wavy, very similar to my Dad's, which already makes me feel good
My hair is very long! I have been cutting/shaving my hair for the better part of 4 years, all through high school, and I'm finally letting it grow out. I feel like there's a nice punk element to it, but also, if my femininity was highlighted with short hair, may my masculinity be defined by my long, luxurious, wavy hair
I have sun kisses on my cheeks, bridge of my nose, and shoulders from repeatedly burning and peeling. Now they're very faint freckles
I am white, but I'm not super pale. I tan very good and will be outside more when summer hits. This is the closest I could get to my skin tone
I have very thick, bushy eyebrows. My fiancé jokes about them being patchy and fucked up near the ends, and that they're just very bold and wildly thick
I have a big forehead, also like my dad!
I have more of a rounded nose (Fiance calls it a snub/snoobie nose) which i get more from my mom
I have very, very dark brown eyes to the point that in the shade, people often can't tell my pupil from my iris. It's only clear in direct sunlight
I have some eye bags, I work and overnight/revolving shift at work, and just naturally have a droopy, depressed, tired resting face
I don't have a beard (YET), but in my dream post, this is very similar to the beard I had. In my dream, my beard was my natural brown, but this pfp creator wouldn't let me change the facial hair color. (Low key love the look tho)
I do have a giant brown leather jacket that I wear constantly, he's scuffed and fucked up, I got him from a thrift store, but he has personality and I love him
I wear alot of horror t-shirts, mostly black with red accents, which is why the shirt is that color
Also, all of my shirts either have a wide neck or I've stretched the neck. I have ADHD and sensory issues and can not handle shit touching my throat. I WILL throw up (same with tags, I rip them off of everything I own/wear. I just can't)
The character creator wouldn't let me add piercings, but I have 3 facial piercings. My right eyebrow, septum, and tongue ring
I have a wider/boxier/chubbier face shape, with a soft jawline. I have convinced myself that that + my big forehead makes me look more masc
I like to joke that I have those soft masculine looks that girls are jealous of (male long lashes, boys soft kissable lips, guys with big butts, ect) just to help re-frame how I think about that stuff
I have a very broad back, I'm working out more to try and build muscle, but I'm happy for my wide back
I can go on but you get the point. Everything i try and reframe into being masculine. It can be difficult with dysphoria, but I continue to try!
Anyway, please message me! Put shit in my ask box! Comment! Add your own traits that you love! Please please please please please interact I WANNA SEE HOW YOU SEE YOURSELF
Trans tips #6
YOU DO NOT NEED TO INFANTISE YOURSELF TO BE MORE PALETABLE TO OTHERS
you don't need to infantile yourself
You don't need to be palatable
You don't need to conform to others views and opinions
You don't need to infantise yourself to be more palatable
You don't need to infantise yourself for others
You don't need to be palatable for others
This one is kind of a rant so whatever BUT
I SEE THIS SO OFTEN IT MAKES ME WANT TO GO FERAL
There was this great trans influencer on tiktok, he went by Mars, had all the surgeries, talked about his experiences, had a clothing brand, interacted with fans, allllll the good shit an influencer can do...right? RIGHT!!
I loved his, he's one of the first influencers that made me question my gender identity, made me do my own research and ask myself questions and start to realize that I, too, might be Trans
Fuckin love that guy! He's great!
But you know what's one thing that made me cringe away from him! HE INFANTISED HIMSELF SO MUCH
This goes for trans women and men, you don't need to make yourself look like a meek lil defenseless thing to be palatable to others! PLEASE
He called himself a boy ALL. THE. TIME even though he's a full ass man with a beard and body hair and age and wisdom he call himself a little boy!
He got the testosterone jelly but he called it his "boy goo" STOP IT
He stood slouched and pitched his voice up for the camera and tried to make himself sound and appear as meek and whimpy and vulnerable as he could! Just in the way he carried himself in his videos!! And it INFURIATES ME BEYOND BELIEF!!!!!!!
DONT INFANTISE YOURSELF
It's testosterone jelly, not "boy goo" even "man goo" or "man slime" if you still wanted a stupid lil name for it just ANYTHING BUT BOY GOO also that just sounds weird to begin with!!!
Your a MAN not a BOY unless you are the AGE of a BOY you are a MANNNN
Same with trans women!!!! You are not a GIRL you are a WOMAN unless you are the AGE of a GIRL you are a WOMANNNNNN
And I get it, you don't wanna be that big intimidating trans person coming in public restrooms like what the media says is evil and blah blah blah
But your fucking NOT
INFANTISING YOURSELF IS TRANS ERASURE
We are not meant to hide in the shadows or be in the back of the classroom or anything like that! Be proud about who you are! Square your shoulders! Chin up! Pick up your feet! Walk with confidence! PLEASE
End of rant but I just needed to get that out of my system
Also i have a rant about trans people sexualizing themselves but that's a different rant for another day!
PLEASE DON’T SCROLL AND REPOST!!
Our trans community, queer community, and the women in our community need help.
In rural areas of the United States are closing down their Planned Parenthood’s. This puts many women and trans people is danger. My sister gets her HRT through Planned Parenthood and I don’t want her to lose that.
We need to stand together as a society and ensure that our healthcare is protected.
So, everyone, please share this petition to keep this one open so these people can get what they need.
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https://chng.it/qnT8QBrm9n
Tip for trans men or really anyone AFAB buying male boxers.
You need to get them a size bigger. Female body shapes are different then men, meaning you will carry more fat or muscle in the thighs, which also means that they will probs roll up and it's uncomfortable. You can try your normal size if they're too big, but if they are rolling up, getting a bigger size is okay and it's nothing to do with your weight, it's just the difference in body shapes (which doesn't make you less of a man.)
this is your reminder that just because intersex people, trans men, and people outside of the gender binary are not mentioned in bigoted policies about trans women does not mean that we won't be affected.
attacking the rights of trans women attacks the rights of all people with marginalised gender experiences.
(this statement does not take away from the very real danger these laws pose to trans women, it just highlights another issue that also needs attention. two problems can exist at once.)
Trans women are made in factories, woven like silk
Trans men are carved out of a block of pine wood and then given the nice shiny varnish with the good texture
”trans men are the weakest links of the trans community” my trans male friends and I have lived a lifetime of having our bodily autonomy stripped away to the point of sexual harassment. people talk about our bodies like everyone except us owns them because no one can handle the idea of precious female bodies being “mutilated” by gender affirming care. we are treated like traitors by women and as confused, silly girls by men. we have no spaces in which we belong because even the queer community tries to control our bodies. if we pass as men then we get ousted from queer-friendly spaces, and if we don’t pass as men we’re treated like cringe, theyfab trenders. everything we love is considered annoying. we’re called ugly and sad and “what a shame you guys are men haha”. We have to watch as society uses us as an excuse to ban gender affirming care for young people because our bodies belong to the government, because our bodies belong to our mothers, and because our anatomy is the only thing they see us as. And then we have to sit back as the trans community blames us for these bans. “All of these fake transtrenders are the reason they all hate us” when we’re busy having the women in our lives scrutinise our bodies to make sure we’re not being “infected” by the trans contagion. There’s no space we can belong in. No space that tries to make us feel welcome because either they treat us like women or they treat us like dangerous, cis men.
Every trans man I know has been sexually assaulted. Every trans man I know has been brought to suicide attempts, either due to their families or due to people online bullying them to death. Our struggles are constantly diminished and yet behind the scenes we’re fucking exhausted from fighting attacks from every single goddamn side. How fucking dare you call us weak. We’re going through fucking hell like every other goddamn trans person out there and our bodies are being abused and controlled and scrutinised every day of our fucking lives. Have you seen how TERFs talk about our bodies? How they lament us “mutilating” our breasts, our fertility, our anatomy, all in the name of feminism. That’s sexual fucking harassment, and it’s disgusting. But that’s all they fucking see us as. We’re not human, we’re just defected specimens. Cis women give themselves free passes to harass our bodies because they see us as “one of them”. One of them, but wrong. One of them, but need to be fixed. My mother regularly checks my chest to make sure I’m not trying to flatten it, and she can get away with it because “that’s what mothers do to their daughters.” Even when I’m not her daughter. Even when I’m screaming at the top of my lungs wanting to die because my body doesn’t belong to me. My body stopped belonging to me as soon as I came out as trans, because female empowerment doesn’t apply to me anymore. Female empowerment is now about “correcting” me, to restore my body back to its former glory, because only then was I worth something.
We are not weak. We are strong as fuck for dealing with the shit we have to deal with. And the worst part is, so much of the bullying comes from other trans men. We’ve been taught to hate ourselves so much that the only way to get ahead is to put down our own brothers and treat them in the way we’ve been treated.
There is no weak link of the community because we’re all dealing with absolute shit from all sides, but don’t you ever suggest that trans men are somehow the whiny babies who have nothing to complain about when we’re constantly holding back from screaming our guts out because there’s nothing else we can do.
Eu criei esse site para ajudar, está bem simples mas espero q seja útil 👍
quanto-transmascs-gastam.my.canva.site
Valid:
Men!!
Trans men!!!
Nonbianary men!!!
Any other person not on the binary specturm, is biologically male, and still acknowledges that they are a man!!
Not Valid:
Cis women!!!
Trans women!!! (Especially you)
Nonbinary women!!!
Any other person not on the binary specturm, was born as a woman, and still acknowledges that they are a woman!!
Woman are scum xoxo! :D
Valid:
Women!!!
Trans women!!!
Nonbinary women!!!
Any other person who is not on the binary spectrum, was born as a woman, and still acknowledges that they are a woman!!!
Not Valid:
Cis men!!!
Trans men!!! (especially you)
Nonbinary men!!!
Any other person not on the binary spectrum, is biologically male, and still identifies as a biological male.
Men are scum xoxo ! :D
*doom music starts to play* I actually kindof like scheduling these kinds of appointments now...
but seriously Fellas, don't forget to schedule a pap smear every couple of years just in case. If you still have a cervix you can still get cervical cancer. ilu
this has been a psa