Trans Solidarity - Blog Posts
Getting eaten out silly by a transfemme housewife was NOT on my 2025 bingo card but fuck, it’s nice
RIP to the tights I’m wearing under my jeans for the sleepover with my transfem butch girlfriend, your sacrifice is highly respected
Sometimes, you post on tumblr.com saying that women’s evils are not “better” evils just bc they’re women, thinking that most people will agree because obviously, if a person does a Bad Thing, it is a Bad Thing, regardless of gender. You go along with the assumption that most people have the critical thinking to know that “yes, gender does not negate horrible things people do” and you think maybe these people will scroll along or leave a little heart and go about their merry ways.
Unfortunately, you did not expect to accidentally summon every terf in a 50 mile radius who can’t decide if you’re a typical icky man or self-hating woman, and they all proceed to say “nuh uh all the cool girls are committing property damage and assaulting people” (deadass a thing I was told).
So for all those terfs who were in my reposts and anyone else who might be here, let me clarify:
The phrase “I’m just a girl” is infantilizing. It plays into the idea that women are helpless and have no agency to their choices. It opens the doors for passive misogyny and perpetuates the idea of a “weak woman”
And I stand by what I originally said, if you’re a grown ass woman who assaults someone, damages property, steals, blackmails, abuses, or dare I say murders someone, YOU!! DID!! A BAD!!! THING!!!
THE BAD THINGS YOU DO ARE NOT LESS BAD BECAUSE YOU ARE A WOMAN!!!!
And PS, I am an icky icky man >;P
No because let’s talk about the fact the TERFs don’t want you to heal. Because if you heal then you won’t be the perfect little victim for them to leverage against trans women and the ~dangerous dangerous men~
Let’s talk ab the fact that TERFs only see AMAB on AFAB SA as real SA and when you try to change that dynamic at all (COCSA, Queer SA, etc.) all their arguments go out the window
Let’s talk about the fact that they don’t even care about the general wellbeing of women and only focus on keeping women hurt and scared for what? What do they get at the end of this fear mongering? It’s like cartoon villains who want to “destroy the world” and don’t have a plan for what to do after
TERFs want you misrebile, they want you hurt, they want to use you and your trauma as chess pieces to a “greater end” that doesn’t even exist
Most effective way to combat them is to have joy and heal. To live a good life. To not get sucked in the fear and misery because in the end it leads to nothing. Stay Trans, Stay Happy, Stay Safe
Being a trans man with trans women friends is so fun bc you’ll help them clean out their closet and they’ll be like “here take this $300 suit that gives me disphoria” and you walk out of that encounter with the nicest item of clothing you’ve ever owned
So this is great and all, but gatekeeping allyship with transfems? More people should read theory, great thesis. Posting at a broad swath of "fake" allies about how it's fucked up to say good things without being fully informed? Not really helping. We can in fact get TME allies to understand without calling them bullshit. Fuck anyone telling transfems to talk less about this or be quieter, I know how that goes, and I refuse to let that be the critique here. But there are so many better ways to advocate for our rights and needs. If you feel like most of the people posting nice things directed at transfems are a threat or somehow impeding progress, consider how helpful this rhetoric is. Alienation is how we get our solidarity fucked, not everyone that should or wants to will read theory, consider whether you knew that when you talk about this, if a large chunk of your target audience *will not* do it, are you not just giving yourself an excuse to paint them as the villain? I'm begging: redirect your energy, you can write posts that demand genuine understanding, that make the case for how transmisogyny is killing us, and what people on this site can do to help, but it's so much more effective to provide the education yourself. Yes that's work, but so is this. Stop biting people coming to try and understand, this theory is uncomfortable enough on its own. We can and should be pushing people to understand us, but do it effectively, for fucks sake. Be loud, demand understanding, accept empathy when it arrives.
hey, TME people: cut the bullshit. you’re only allowed to post shit like “we love & support trans women on this blog” if you’re willing to actually do some transfeminist reading. general kindness & good vibes isn’t enough any more — you have to pay attention to our political struggles, you have to follow up that general kindness with actual honest to god theory. start with Whipping Girl by Julia Serano, which is the origin of the word “transmisogyny”
just had the most transgender experience ever i think
the only true trans masc + trans fem solidarity is monster trucks
(for context i am above average monster truck fan age i think she just thought id appreciate it, they were right)