Transmasc - Blog Posts

Terfs piss me off so much. I'm afab and even before I realized I was a trans man, I have never felt threatened by trans women. People need to grow up.

Bro can the military base near me stop testing bombs or whatever. This is not the time. It is nap hour

Tim to play an obscene amount of balatro before my class

I've just had a devastating realization about something that happened to me. Time to doomscroll on tumblr til my brain forgets

Dysphoria is crazy. I got into my dream university but instead of being excited im sitting here sad that I have boobs

How does one get into sexy cosplaying?

Asking for a friend

I'll have you know that my posts go through a rigorous vetting process (my girlfriend)

"Well don't u look stupid now."

I've always been stupid, this is not new information

My gf said my tumblr is just me thirsting over her and she's right

I need more transmasc friends. I'm going through it rn and it feels like no one gets it

I'm gonna get tested for strep tmr. Fuck this shit. I gave my gf so many smooches today. WHAT IF I INFECTED HER?? That's transphobic

Tboy bf teaches tgirl gf how to do her hair and she teaches him how to helicopter it

Geology/chemistry tboy and gamer/memelord tgirl dating

My gf told me to go take a shower and I wouldn't never go againt that GODDESS so I got my ass in the shower

Guys im sitting in a tgirl's bed what do I do????

Hey terfs! Pssst.....come here. Let me tell u something

*cocks gun*

t4t relationship where we had crushes on each other as kids, grew up, switched genders, and finally got together

I survived another obgyn appointment. Can I have a sticker or like a cool stamp on my hand pls

Tgirls are so hot it's unfair

For me, this is what being mtf feels like

Gromit by @junebug-jamboree

This is true for trans guys and trans girls too

Happy Trans Day of Visibility to you all! I know being out and proud is really hard in a LOT of places right now but know that I see you

Literally, I'm watching you right now 👁👁/j

Anyways have a repost of my boy Kevin since I'm not home to take pics of him right now and I'll probably forget later

Right, considering the current state of corporate politics on this site, and that it seems that only those affected seem to be actively speaking on the matter, it is up to I, the only fucking cishet on tumblr, to drag this out to a wider audience.

REBLOG IF YOUR ACCOUNT IS A TRANSFEM SAFE SPACE.

We need to show these higher ups how much we truly value them.

My dear lgbt+ kids, 

Trans women are women.

This post doesn’t fix anything. It doesn’t roll back harmful laws, it doesn’t offer you legal protection. It’s understandable if you currently feel more bitter than encouraged when you see statements like that on social media. What can a silly little slogan do against this wave of hate and danger we are currently experiencing?

And yet, I think it’s more important than ever to post those silly little slogans. Here’s some reasons why: 

Silence can look like agreement. Transphobes and fascists love to paint the picture that the „silent majority“ agrees with them, that they’re just saying out loud what everyone else is thinking. The „silly little slogans“ provide an accessible way to disprove that. They don’t fix everything but they offer an easy way to break that silence and show that transphobia actually isn’t as common or fashionable as fascists would like people to believe. 

Complying in advance is never a good idea. If you give up on posting stuff like this because it feels like the transphobes are winning anyway, well, then you’re giving them exactly what they want. You’re basically agreeing that they already won. Quiet surrender is awfully convenient to fascists. Don’t give them that power. 

Social media posts are also seen by trans people. Even if you feel like you’re not gonna change anyone’s mind: you can at least let trans people know you care. We need little rays of hope now more than ever, and social media posts definitely can be a way to make each other feel a little less alone. In fact, I think repeating a slogan can actually be ideal for that because they’re so easily recognizable. There’s comfort in that clarity. It takes off some of the mental load of trying to figure out if you’re a safe person or not. And that’s valuable in exhausting times like these. 

So no, this post doesn’t fix anything. But it doesn’t have to. It just has to be one small, firm act of resistance. A reminder that not everyone has given up. A reminder that trans people are real, loved and deserving of protection.

Trans women are women. Let’s say it again and again. Lets say it out loud. Lets say it until the hate feels small in comparison.

With all my love, 

Your Tumblr Dad 

Fr I need to have more confidence irl 😔

imma do some trans vent post here lol

the only transphobia I do is to myself 😎

The week after a period is a chaotic fucking time. Yes I figured out what I want to do for college and also a bit of how I can get my life together in general, but also I need to get dicked down ASAP or I will simply perish

Hormones, amirite?

DONT LIKE, REBLOG

so people who do this may see it.

The growing problem of "they" for trans people

Something I've noticed growing more common in my life recently has been people using exclusively "they" when referring to binary trans people who don't use "they"

Why is this a problem?

Using "they" when referring to someone when you don't know is seen as "better" in a lot of spaces now, which I can agree with as you don't know what their actual pronouns are. The problem I've noticed is that when meeting a trans person, a lot of people seem to default to "they" even after being told what pronouns they actually prefer. This can be for a lot of reasons, but the most common ones I hear are "I didn't want to assume" and "its not misgendering, they is neutral!"

Example situation

Person A meets person B, a trans woman. A doesn't know B's pronouns and so refers to B as "they." B corrects A, saying she prefers "she," but A continues to say "they" because its gender neutral. However, A does not do the same to cis women.

Do you see the problem now?

The use of exclusively "they" on trans people but not cis people, no matter your excuse, shows that you don't really see them as what they identify as and is quite transphobic since you're literally ignoring their identity and not seeing them as how they want to be seen.

"Okay, what should I do?"

Simple, just ask them their pronouns and then ACTUALLY USE THEM!! If he says he, DONT USE EXCLUSIVELY THEY! If she says she, DONT USE EXCLUSIVELY THEY! If they say they, well. yeah, use they, obviously. If xe say neopronouns and you don't know how to use those, just ask! If any part of someone's identity confuses you, just fucking ask them instead of assuming, for the love of god, and once they tell you, don't ignore what they said.

That's all. Just please stop calling people who don't use "they" by that.

Edit:

I got this comment and thought I should clarify and add on some MORE things you should avoid doing now that this post has aged a bit, and I've had more time to think!

Please do not attack this person, i dont think they meant it in any bad way

Clarification on the term 'misgendering'

While yes, 'gender' does not directly tell you someones pronouns or what terms they're comfortable with, but misgendering doesn't only mean calling a man a woman or a woman a man. Misgendering is usually thought to only mean using a trans person's assigned sexs' pronouns or deadnaming, but it's actually more than just that, it includes what terms you use for them, how you group them, and what societal expectations you put onto them based on their assigned sex, not just their gender.

Other things you should avoid

* Obviously, these won't apply to every situation. These are just general rules to follow UNTIL YOU KNOW THE PERSON. Once they tell you what they're comfortable with, then do what they ask, not what some random tumblr post says

Calling all gender non-conforming people 'it'

Deadnaming, obviously

Using gendered pronouns for a non-conforming person

Arguing with someone over the validity of their identity

Automatically introducing someone as trans

Assuming someone is out to other family or friends

Using incorrectly gendered terms, including when referring to a group

Exclusively using gender neutral terms/compliments

Edit 2:

TLDR: Don't say, "But some people use it/its!" and read the paragraph directly above the numbered list.

Stop telling me that some people use it/its, I already know this. I used it/its at one point, and many of my friends do. As i said in the paragraph litrrally directly before, these won't apply to every situation!! Please stop trying to correct me when I already said that it's not going to be universal and to follow the person's wishes once you know them. Its making me feel like a bad person despite the fact i started it with that clarification. It's literally in the paragraph directly above your complaint. I was referring to people who use it/its exclusively when referring to gender non-conforming people who don't use it/its, instead of the persons actual pronouns. Just read.

reposting for those that might be interested!

Now seeking trans men & transmascs for a study on chronic pelvic pain

I (they/them, nb) am NOW RECRUITING for a research study! - Transgender Men & Transmasculine Individuals (assigned female at birth, but identify as a gender identity other than "woman") who experience chronic pelvic pain. Must be 18 years or older, fluent in English, and live in the US. Your answers are anonymous.

Chronic pelvic pain is a pain that is present in the lower abdomen or pelvis that has been present for 6 or more weeks. Chronic pelvic pain may be experienced more frequently by transgender men, transmasculine, or non-cisgender women than cisgender women, yet it is understudied. Because it is understudied, clinicians may not know how to best treat chronic pelvic pain when the patient is transmasculine. The cause of this pain is also generally unknown, as are the factors that may make it better or worse for a patient. Therefore, this study hopes to better understand what chronic pelvic pain is like for transgender men and transmasculine people, and how they prefer their care is approached when they seek medical care for chronic pelvic pain.

Participation in this one-time study is expected to take about 30 minutes of your time. There is a link for a raffle.

For more information and/or to start the survey, click here: https://qualtrics.uvm.edu/jfe/form/SV_e2qiU6qSL6YYsd0

I know it's technically not entirely safe for me to come out as trans (due to political reasons) but I feel ready to come out. I feel like my dad would be supportive. I mean, he's giving signs of being bi, so why wouldn't I feel like he would be supportive? Sure, he's shown some transphobe traits, but it's was very little, and years ago. I know he's at least an ally. I'm going to come out next month or in june. I know it.