Transphobia - Blog Posts
new post bc i really need folks to stop spreading tactics that are going to get missourians killed.
attorney general bailey has set up a website where you can report “concerns” about transgender care.
DO NOT SUBMIT PLAUSIBLE ENTRIES.
bailey will take those entries as real stories and use them as fuel to come down even harder on transgender care in missouri. instead, do what we usually don’t do and spam the absolute shit out of it. vary your submissions so they can’t just filter out certain keywords. but DO NOT submit stories that could sound real, because bailey will present them as real.
here is the link.
btw the term "women's health" to discuss uterine care/menstruation isnt just transphobic, it also keeps up this aggravating idea that the uterus & menstruation are obscene and impolite and need to be kept hidden under flowery vague terms as to not offend any cis men. like trans people demanding the end of gendered language around this stuff aren't just helping trans people, its also just good to normalize calling tampons and pads "menstrual supplies" because thats what they fucking are!!! we should say the words uterus vagina menstruation and we should do it in public and in stores instead of talking about ~women's needs~ and ~feminine care~. trans liberation is fundamental to women's liberation and anti-patriarchal action in general. listening to trans men & people isn't bad for women its good for literally everyone
cis women if you call yourself a trans ally but the concept of trans people with uteri disappears from your mind the second you start talking about reproductive autonomy your trans allyship is bullshit and so is your intersectionality. you have no fucking clue how terrifying it is to be trans with a uterus right now. you have no idea how many trans people suffer and die because of trans erasure in healthcare language. we see you talking about respecting pronouns while talking about "women's bodies" and "but if MEN could get pregnant–" either put the words "people who can get pregnant" and "reproductive transphobia" on your tongue or shut the fuck up.
te/rfs and transphobes on tik tok are currently losing their mind over an older trans man saying “hey the laws you wanna pass that would put trans women in the men’s bathroom would also put me in the women’s bathroom” and all their responses have basically been that he’s a predator and that if they saw him there they would physically assault him. so yeah i don’t ever wanna hear ppl say “oh these laws won’t affect trans men” or “trans men only have to deal with infantilization, not actual violence” bc there is at least one example out there of the above actually happening.
ppl pulling the 'just let people enjoy Wizard Game' are often met with 'JKR funds anti-trans groups!' and that's. entirely true. but doesn't actually go far enough.
like if you're on team Let People Enjoy Wizard Game hey. did you know. that in my city RIGHT NOW JKR is sole funder and key board member of an unregulated private agab-policed rape crisis shelter set up specifically to Own The Transes
and which now sits on several gendered violence prevention boards alongside representatives from the (publicly funded and accountable) existing Rape Crisis Centre, against the staff of which her friends and followers have been involved in a years-long harassment campaign purely and explicitly because they run trans-inclusive support services and bc their CEO is a trans woman of colour.
(my friend works there and the pure volume of transphobic harassment has caused several long standing members of staff to quit. which I'm really fucking angry about bc I would not be here today if the Edinburgh Rape Crisis Centre hadn't been there to help me)
and that on those boards they're known for supporting increased police harassment and approaches that disproportionately criminalise trans people, unhoused people and sex workers and provably don't positively impact the issue of gendered violence.
what I'm saying is that yes JKR funds anti-trans groups but she is also pretty directly involved in materials worsening conditions for vulnerable people at a local and personal level too!!!! she's running an unregulated crisis shelter out of spite and using that to legitimise her political lobbying!!!!!! fuck you!
terfs be like. i am going to tell you how to spot a trans woman. okay so if you think a woman is ugly you should harass them. this is beneficial to women
i think we need to put a moratorium on cis people using "AFAB" and "AMAB." they're getting a bit too comfortable with it.
if you're above the age of 12 and still infighting with other trans people i'm going to smack you upside the head multiple state governments are trying to fucking eradicate us. sock (they/it) is not your fucking enemy ron desantis, bill lee, mike parson, greg abott, and many, many others are.
It's kinda funny how when some people see a person with it/it's pronouns they said that it's pronouns are "dehumanizing" but it's dehumanizing to THEM, It's that other person's pronouns not yours, if it's comfortable of using it/it's pronouns they let it be who it are! It may be dehumanizing to YOU but not to IT.
I am so sick of the way others talk about and treat trans men. All of the time, people talk about how much they hate men and then say things like “only cis men though” or “ but not YOU because, you know…” . They think they’re protecting our feelings, but really they’re erasing the identities of trans men. Don’t separate trans men further from cis men, i am so sick of the constant comparison. Don’t tell me you hate men, but love trans men. That just makes me think you don’t think trans men are men. I’m just so tired of how hard trans men have to fight to be considered men instead of this quirky way of liking men without being around cis men. Some people are just too ashamed to admit that they like men. It’s okay to like men and masculinity. Liking men is amazing and so many people do. There is nothing wrong with having men in your life, so stop using Trans men as scapegoats and stop erasing our identities, we deserve better! Trans men deserve better!
So I've seen this circling in both TERF circles and in trans circles...
"Stop saying this is a genocide against trans people, that's disrespectful to Jewish people!"
First, it is perfectly accurate to call something a genocide when politicians are openly saying at rallies "transgenderism must be eliminated". That is calling for genocide!!
Second, there is more than one way to commit genocide; it doesn't just mean "forcing them to wear symbols, rounding them up and murdering them in camps". Genocide includes inflicting great harm to a group of people with the intent of erasing them from existence. Many different groups of people have had genocide committed against them, including the indigenous people of the Americas.
Denying trans people the right to transition, making it illegal to talk about trans people in school, forcibly detransitioning trans people, forcing them to live in the closet, forcing them to be sterilized in order to transition, labeling "living with a trans person" as child abuse so you can take away their children, and making it illegal to openly identify as trans, are all acts of genocide. They are all designed to destroy trans people.
i've realized that a lot of the things people who abide by the social expectations say are from their own perspectives and they cannot be accurately applied to my trans experience.
'don't transition, you're just insecure/mentally ill/traumatized(/whatever other reasons they have)' are all the failed attempts of a cis person empathizing in a way that ranges from inconvenient at best to transphobic at worst, depending on where they take their assumptions, and these perspectives don't take dysphoria (or euphoria, on the contrary) into consideration as a reason someone might want to transition, because cis people don't know the extent of our dysphoria, as well as the other experiences that we experience alongside it.
this attempt shouldn't be taken too seriously; it happens with many other people as well. 'you're just lazy' (against disabled people) 'you'll meet the right one someday' (against aspecs) 'just go outside, you'll feel better' (against mentally ill people and those facing worser issues besides mere depression) 'just go ahead and try it' (against neurodivergent people as well as those with physical disabilities), 'you'll be grateful when you get older' (against people who faced parental abuse), do these perspectives sound familiar? they all come from the people giving you advice in a way that worked for them, as a person abiding by the social expectations; many people aren't sure what empathy really means, and ao they empathize by giving eachother advice. those answers genuinely work for others like them; they won't for us. in worser scenarios, we're judged or hated because of their failed empathization. and because we're kept near the sidelines, and they manage to help eachother, anyone who doesn't empathize in the way they do is thrown out. people with low empathy and those expressing it in different ways also suffer from this. but even those who abide by the social standards aren't entirely accurate with their empathy, if they have it.
and i just wanted to share this, for anyone who's suffering from internalized transphobia (and perhaps other self views about other parts of your identity), in case it might help you distance yourself from it and worry less about whether they're right. they're not, because they're judging you from their viewpoint as a cis person. try not to take it to heart; you're fine the way you are, i promise.
Submitted May 27, 2023