Victim Blaming - Blog Posts
When I was in highschool, the “weird kid” was a guy who thought he was a vampire werewolf hybrid. He was aggressive and hostile, and the people who tried to be nice to him,(myself included) saw first hand how psychotic he was. He choked one of my friends, tried to attack a girl I hung out with, ran around campus snarling at people and jumping off roofs, and constantly got into fights with anyone who so much as talked back to him.
Saying that the victims from Parkland shooting are at fault because they didn’t befriend the shooter is incredibly short sided and a perfect example of victim blaming. Sometimes the weird kid is toxic and violent, or racist and homophobic. Nobody should have to be forced or guilted into bringing that type of toxicity into their lives.
Also, please don’t pretend that you really care about the weird kid all of a sudden. We all can see that you are trying whatever bs tactic you can think of to distract from the bigger issue at hand; gun violence and gun control in America.
STOP BLAMING THE VICTIMS AND STOP TRYING TO BULLY KIDS INTO SILENCE!
Exactly. The amount of vitriol and victim blaming political lesbians lob at bi women is disgusting. Then they falsely claim we’re the one’s holding back feminism.
some of the people on here aren’t even trying to hide how much they hate bi women anymore and it really shows.
TW: Rape, Victim-Blaming
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I've seen a lot of things going around about how people should go to prison for claiming rape and then saying it didn't happen. Reminder that victims are often coerced into "taking it back." In the many cases in which the victim knew their rapist, they are often guilted into saying it didn't really happen. Even without such overt pressure, victims will sometimes say it didn't happen simply because of how much they wish it didn't really happen, and how much they wish they didn't have to deal with the fallout. The psychological trauma that can follow denying your own sexual assault is tremendous. Don't make it worse for closeted victims by calling for prison sentencing.
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Victim blaming by abusive parents looks like… “You’re disrespecting me by having boundaries that are inconvenient to me. Therefore, I’m entitled to hurt you.” “You know I get mad when you do this and you did it anyway, so it’s your fault I hit you/yelled at you/belittled you.” “You’re hurting my feelings by accusing me of being a bad parent.” “What have I done to deserve this?” (Usually as a reaction to you establishing boundaries). “You’re tearing this family apart (by fighting back against the abuse).” “You’re a bad child. Look at all the bad things YOU’VE done to ME.” (often, those things are trauma reactions, like avoiding their presence or acting behind their backs). (When you try to hold them accountable) “Oh, I forgot, you’re always right and I’m always wrong. Nobody cares about me or my feelings. I do everything for you and this is what I get in exchange.”
In reality… Every person is responsible for their actions. You didn’t make them abuse you—they CHOSE to abuse you. You have the right to be able to establish boundaries without fear of punishment. You have the right to have your needs met. Your trauma reactions are not something you’re doing to disrespect them—they’re something your body is doing to protect you from harm. End image description]
These are just some examples of things abusers say to frame their abusive actions as the victim’s fault (taken from personal experience and the stories of people who have messaged me). Feel free to add your own examples if they’re not listed here and if you want to help spread awareness about what victim-blaming looks like!
And remember: abuse is never the victim’s fault.
What does guilt-tripping by abusive parents look like?
What does gaslighting by abusive parents look like?
whumper using victim blaming dialogue as a humiliation tactic—
“well I wouldn’t have done it if you didn’t make it so fucking easy.”
“if you weren’t so pretty when you begged and cried.”
“if you didn’t take abuse so well.”
“I just hit you and you whine like that— I mean, what am I supposed to think?”
“you know you deserve this.”
“go on, tell me you deserve it.”
“I want to hear you say it.”
and who knows— eventually, whumpee might start to believe they’re right
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[shoutout to @unorganisedalienrubbish for coming up with like half of these]
Of course we should consider people innocent until proven guilty, but that doesn’t mean that we should ignore the victim. If someone says “So-and-so raped me,” that’s significant evidence that so-and-so raped them. People making false rape accusations are extremely rare.
In most crimes, if someone says they were the victim of a crime committed by another specific person, we believe the victim. Yet somehow, when it comes to rape, suddenly we assume the victim is lying.
@theshynekotaru : What evidence would you consider sufficient, if the eyewitness evidence of the victim isn’t enough for you?
Toby Turner aka Tobuscus
There’s been allegations about him and I just want to say that it’s still innocent until proven guilty not guilty until proven innocent. Rape claims can ruin someones life and unfortunately there’s been so many people who have lied about being raped by friends or strangers, and even famous people that yes people are cautious as hell.
It happened with Yammimash, Pewdiepie, Markiplier, Basically, Lui, and many many others.
People can make false allegations so it’s best to get the FULL story, from all sides, before just jumping onto the victims side or the accused side.
Some peopel have found evidence that the girl may not have been where she claimed to be during one of the dates and other people close to Toby have come out in support of him and others in support fo the supposed victim.
We don’t have enough evidence to convict him fully and we don’t have evidence to prove him innocent either.
Do NOT just jump to conclusions with rape allegations there needs to be provided proof that isn’t just text messages or tweets as they can easily be faked by hundreds of various free softwares online.
The Power of Fear
In his inauguration speech, President Franklin D. Roosevelt stated, “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself”. He followed this with gratitude, that the fears that were plaguing the nation at the time was not a disease, but financial constraint and that we as a nation could overcome if we worked together.
Fear, is not all bad. In moments of danger, fear can kick start your reflexes allowing us a greater advantage and even in non-immediate danger fear can bring about clarity and a different way of thinking. But fear can also be blinding, and when left unchecked it can grow until it becomes all-consuming. It is important when dealing with one’s fear that you truly think about what you are fearing and where that fear comes from—choosing only to work with the fear of an actual threat.
Franklin D. Roosevelt explained in his speech that the fear people were feeling could paralyze them and make things worse if they let it, in these current times it is important to understand how these small fears can grow and manipulate and take over. There are the fears of many Americans are based in the unknown, fears of potential violence and financial loss. But those who are coming to this country have true fear, fear that powers them through hundreds of miles of desert, and starvation. Fear of starvation and violence, death and disease. They show how fear can produce action over insurmountable odds.
What we also must remember is again how this fear can grow and how it can be stopped. The United States entered World War II after the bombing of Pearl Harbor, but by then, fear of the unknown and fear of an uncertain future had killed hundreds, thousands and millions throughout the world due to famine, panic and genocide. While we all have our fears, we must also think about how we can act when that fear is small, easier to conquer and what it may mean for others who are living in more present danger than ourselves.
My family and I are alive today thanks to the countries that rose above their fear of the unknown to help those who were running for their lives, and the members of my family who were able to use that fear of death and persecution to empower them to walk at least 2,000 miles to start to a sanctuary, Tehran. We must not let our fear blind us to our potential and the true victims of hate and violence and the unknown.
Men will really say ACAB and then blame women for not going to the police when they’re assaulted.