The fact that all of the lords of frenzy became the lords of frenzy for love.
Vyke sought out the three fingers because he didn’t want his maiden to burn.
Shabriri uses our love for Melina as a reason to become the lord of frenzy so that Melina doesn’t have to burn.
We don’t know that exact circumstances with how or why Midra inherited the flame, but he loved Nanaya enough to endure the madness and asks for her forgiveness before he becomes the lord of the frenzied flame.
But also Melina uses the fact that life endures despite hardship, which means that love endures as well, as a reason to not inherit the flame of frenzy.
Chaos and love are entwined with each other.