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13 BEST WAYS TO DO WHEN YOUR WIFE REFUSES TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU

1. PREPARE HER

Sometimes it is not that she does not want to make love to you but that all you have to do is prepare her with foreplay to get her in the mood

2. DO NOT FORCE HER

Do not force yourself on her in the name of demanding for your conjugal rights. Forcing an adult to have sex is demeaning and disrespectful

3. CHECK IF YOU HAVE BEEN HURTING HER EMOTIONS

If you have been hurting or ignoring her emotions, she will struggle to be sexually attracted to you. Women make love with their heart. If her heart is bruised, she will struggle to give you her body

4. CHECK IF LAST TIME YOU WERE TOO ROUGH ON HER

If last time you were too rough on her leaving her vagina, clitoris or nipples sore; she might be uncomfortable about letting you have her. Learn to be gentle

5. CHECK IF YOU HAVE UNADDRESSED ISSUES

If there are matters in your marriage that are not being concluded, intimacy will suffer. Stop ignoring the issues. The sooner you solve them the better

6. CHECK IF SHE SUSPECTS YOU OF CHEATING

If she knows of or suspects you are cheating, it will be a barrier between you two. If you have been cheating, stop it and win back her trust. If she suspects but it is not true, allay her fears and make her secure

7. CUDDLE HER

Sometimes this means more to her than love making. This goes a long way to show her she is not a sex object. This secures her and in doing so, she will enjoy making love with you

8. GAUGE HER MENSTRUATION CYCLE

Know your wife's monthly period cycle. Not every wife lies they are on their periods

9. FIND OUT IF SOMETHING IS STRESSING HER

Maybe there is something outside of your marriage that is disturbing her, maybe it is work issues, financial issues, her health, the children, her parents, a past trauma. Hear her out and show her that you are on her side

10. DON'T CHEAT ON HER

Just because she is not in the mood today, doesn't mean you cheat. She might come around tomorrow depending on how you two treat each other, but if you cheat on her you might lose her for good

11. BE PATIENT WITH HER

Life is fluid, with ups and downs. Sometimes she may not be in the mood just as you are also sometimes not in the mood. Understand her

12. PUT HER ABOVE YOUR PENIS

Show her that she is more important to you than sexual pleasure. There is more to marriage than an orgasm. Once you make her a priority, intimacy will be richer

13. GENTLY ASK HER WHAT IS WRONG

Don't assume or get furious that she is denying you sex. Simply ask her if she is OK, she will open up and you two will grow closer

Remember: Sex is the gift of marriage from our Creator. So, these are the best tips to all marriages to eliminate misunderstanding on the sex issues for a healthy and happy relationship.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.

God bless us all.

On A Lighter Note.

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How do I give in to my husband's wife sharing fantasy?

My husband wanted to share me with his best friend. I was very much against it on moral grounds. He was nice enough and treated me well when he was over at our house. He had flirted with me a few times but always restrained and subtle, more like pleasant flattery about my hair or how I was dressed than anything sexual. My husband asked me once if I thought I would hate having sex with his friend. I told that I most likely wouldn’t hate it actually doing it but I would hate how I felt about myself for doing it.

I’m not a religious girl but I am spiritual and having sex outside my marriage didn’t sit well with me spiritually. He told me several times that I had his permission to cheat and therefore it wouldn’t be cheating, perhaps that’s true, but for me it would still feel like cheating. Sometime after that, he asked me if there was anything I wanted to do that I hadn’t been doing where his friend could accompany me.

I knew he was trying to find something that I’d find acceptable to go somewhere or do something that would have me spending time with his friend in hopes it would lead to something. I really did miss cultural activities like art museums, theater, symphony concerts, it was really a long list. He’d never refused to got with me but over the 8 years of our marriage, his lack of interest and enthusiasm meant I went less often with him. I did do those kinds of things by myself or with a girlfriend but gradually went less and less often.

So I told him that yes, if his friend wanted to go to an art museum with me, I would go. His friend wasn’t all that knowledgeable about art but he was curious and most importantly, he listened to me. He was genuinely attentive to my thoughts and feelings. That’s how it began and we did things like that more often and before too long, we were dating. What I mean my dating is that he took me places, we talked and laughed and I let him kiss me.

After a few dates where he kissed me, I found myself getting sexually aroused when we kissed and at some point I came to the realization that I wanted him to seduce me. I wanted to get myself into a compromising situation and just let things proceed gently but inevitably into letting him take complete advantage of me. I didn’t want to have to take responsibility for actually making a decision to allow him to have sex with me.

He must have known what it would take. He took me to an opera performance out of town. The only part of it I really planned was I bought a new nightgown, tastefully but alluring. That’s how I gave in to my husband’s wife sharing fantasy. One small step at a time. I feel something like that might work for you, assuming it’s something you really want to do.

As long as I see you, touch you, smell you, kiss you,

My day automatically gets 10 times better

Your presence is like a ray of sunshine

Warming my heart and soul with love

Every smile from your lips

Brightens the darkest corners of my mind

Every word spoken by you

Feels like a melody soothing my soulI feel complete when I'm with you

Like two puzzle pieces fitting perfectly together

Your essence lingers in the air around me

A sweet fragrance that intoxicates my senses

And when our lips meet in a tender kiss

It's like fireworks exploding in the sky

An electrifying spark that ignites passion within me

Turning ordinary moments into extraordinary memories

You are my sunshine on a rainy day

My anchor in a stormy sea of life

With you by my side, I am invincible

As long as I have you, my day automatically gets 10 times better.

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