someone got salty that I said some women become mothers out of naked self interest / desire for more victims / free labor & called it a bad take. well. it's not a take it's an observation. some women even use their own children to secure pedophile mates and act as their children's pimps. there is nothing inherently sacred or sanctifying about motherhood & the people who want to pretend otherwise are often the ones who cry crocodile tears for sacred Motherhood when accused of (enabling) abuse
Nobody on radblr ever goes "hm. female socialization is so prevalent and suffocating that certain women will rebel against it and look down on women perpetuating it. We need to be considerate of them too. #all women are my sisters"
It only gets mentioned in the context of "be considerate and say nothing against str8 momma #16781265829^10 who is doing everything patriarchy wants her to even if it's throwing you under the bus"
hm. so interesting
"You can't blame that woman for what she did, she was conditioned to behave that way by the patriarchy!" (Radfems whenever they arbitrarily decide to remove agency from certain women and not others.)
Why does that matter? Nearly everything we think is a result of conditioning.
Our conditioning determines whether we stuff ourselves past the point of hunger because there's still food on our plate, and we were taught it's wrong to ever waste it.
Or if we think it's okay for parents to belt their children as a form of punishment, or for a husband to apply "domestic discipline" to keep his wife in line.
Or if we believe elders deserve a heightened level of respect.
Or if we think homosexuality is a sin based on what religion we were brought up in.
We are initially handed all of our beliefs by someone else, and when we reach the age of reason we are responsible for choosing for ourselves whether they're correct or not. Hear me, hypocrites: ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ณ๐ฆ ๐ช๐ด ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ด๐ฑ๐ฆ๐ค๐ช๐ข๐ญ ๐ข๐ฃ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ต ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ฐ๐ณ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ ๐ด๐ฑ๐ฆ๐ค๐ช๐ง๐ช๐ค ๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ๐ฎ ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ฑ๐ณ๐ฐ๐จ๐ณ๐ข๐ฎ๐ฎ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ, ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ฅ๐ฆ๐ด๐ฆ๐ณ๐ท๐ฆ๐ด ๐ฏ๐ฐ ๐ด๐ฑ๐ฆ๐ค๐ช๐ข๐ญ ๐ฑ๐ข๐ด๐ด!
Would you give your homophobic boomer neighbor a pass for their beliefs? Why not? They're only acting from their conditioning, and that makes them blameless for what they continue to believe, correct?
If a parent dragged their kids to church and terrorized them with the threat of hellfire and damnation if they didn't get right with God, you wouldn't blame them according to your principles, right? They're only repeating what their parents said, who repeated what their parents said, and so on. Why would you expect them to think for themselves and break the cycle when you don't expect the same from women?
Or is it that you're actually just a walking stereotype of the way women are supposedly allergic to reason, logic, and accountability, because the only people who you believe aren't responsible for overcoming their conditioning are women?
๐ Radfems embody this stereotype, and CLEARLY that doesn't embarrass them, but it does embarrass me and other women who try to apply our principles consistently. That's why I distanced myself. We are not the same.
i love you blackpilled feminists. i love you celibate women. i love you misandrists. i love you antinatalists. i love you heterophobes. i love you female separatists. i love you women who think that men are inherently biologically evil. you ladies always make my day
"men can be misogynists while having gfs so why can't women do the same" and "sexualizing men is getting back at them" are such insidious false equivalents lol misogyny is a default for any male and they use sexualization as a tool of oppression because the system is built to oppress women. it's in their interests to keep women under the boot and their hatred for women isn't a source of cognitive dissonance in their relationships with women because they have the power in this dynamic. you claiming to be a misandrist while having a bf just proves you're a willing participant in your own subjugation and that you're all bark and no bite though
Call me a puritan or a label me a misogynist, but I don't care about a woman's "human need" to sleep with multiple strange men. To me, it's just as selfish and reckless as men hopping from woman to woman creating children that will end up unloved or abandoned. I'm first and foremost an antinatalist at heart and the "sexual liberation" movement is a major detriment to society and the children that spawn from it. Especially when these men are literally telling you, "I don't care about you or any baby that results from this exchange; I just want to use your body for my pleasure".
If you're a feminist who actually wants change, I imagine you ought to be less worried about alienating the average women in heterosexual relationships who are very likely to prioritise their relationships with a man (close, personal, comfortable) over any cause (faraway, oppositional, risky, unknown), and more worried about alienating heterosexual women who are on the fence or already celibate and separatist.
But no, feminists are entertaining inter-feminist discussions about ridiculous notions such as "heterophobia," about how unfair it is that lesbians are supposedly having marathon sex on the daily who stop heterosexual women from having sex with statistically-proven-to-be-dangerous men, and being accommodating of downright embarrassing behaviour from women who are wailing about how badly they want to suck cock.
You're not a dumbass if you like gossip and drama. Men created this myth so that women don't form friendships with each other, they called them stupid for talking to each other. Because if you can't gossip you won't tell your friends about how your husband treats you.
Being interested in people and social things and drama and arguments and all these things comes free with being a social species. Enjoy them all you want, it's neither stupid nor immoral.