101 Ways To Improve Self Esteem

essential soft skills for personal excellence

+ emotional intelligence: the ability to understand emotions (yours + others) with empathy and how they impact behaviour. without it you are liable to be defensive, self-centred, and experience a feeling of disconnection (from self + others).

+ resilience: how well you react when something bad happens. do you fall apart or can you navigate challenges without setting yourself back?

+ critical thinking: the ability to slow down and approach ideas with rational intelligence so that you can make thoughtful, considered decisions instead of impulsive, reactive ones.

+ adaptability: remaining flexible to the circumstances and cultivating the ability to deal with change (see also: resilience). can be more difficult if neurodivergent; they key is to be gentle + forgiving with yourself.

+ (healthy) self-discipline: doing what you need to do regardless of whether you 'feel like it' (see also: emotional intelligence, so that you're not ruled by your emotional state). remember that you can cultivate healthy discipline with gentle nurture that builds confidence over time, rather than toxic discipline that uses shame, fear, and punishment.

+ self worth: continuously building the foundational idea that you are worthy of the good life. without self worth, most attempts at self-improvement start with grandiose ideas of huge change and result in broken promises, difficulty sticking to goals, and a spiralling shame cycle.

Overthinking is a choice. Taking everything personally is a choice. Being ruled by fear is a choice

but so is,

• Being serene and grounded

• Remaining unbothered

• Seeing opportunities in everything around you

healing ⋆౨ৎ˚⟡˖ ࣪

growing ⋆౨ৎ˚⟡˖ ࣪

accepting ⋆౨ৎ˚⟡˖ ࣪

learning ⋆౨ৎ˚⟡˖ ࣪

evolving ⋆౨ৎ˚⟡˖ ࣪

𝐻𝑂𝑊 𝑇𝑂 𝐺𝐿𝑂𝑊 𝑈𝑃- 2𝑁𝐷 𝑄𝑈𝐴𝑅𝑇𝐸𝑅

𝑁𝑜 𝑀𝑜𝑟𝑒 𝐸𝑥𝑐𝑢𝑠𝑒𝑠. 𝐼𝑡'𝑠 𝑇𝑖𝑚𝑒 𝑡𝑜 𝐺𝑒𝑡 𝐼𝑡 𝑇𝑜𝑔𝑒𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑟.

𝐿𝑒𝑡'𝑠 𝑏𝑒 𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑙, 𝑖𝑓 𝑦𝑜𝑢'𝑟𝑒 𝑛𝑜𝑡 𝑎𝑐𝑡𝑖𝑣𝑒𝑙𝑦 𝑤𝑜𝑟𝑘𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑜𝑛 𝑖𝑚𝑝𝑟𝑜𝑣𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑙𝑖𝑓𝑒, 𝑦𝑜𝑢'𝑟𝑒 𝑗𝑢𝑠𝑡 𝑤𝑎𝑠𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑡𝑖𝑚𝑒. 𝐴 𝑔𝑙𝑜𝑤-𝑢𝑝 𝑖𝑠𝑛'𝑡 𝑗𝑢𝑠𝑡 𝑎𝑏𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑙𝑜𝑜𝑘𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑔𝑜𝑜𝑑 ; 𝑖𝑡'𝑠 𝑎𝑏𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑏𝑒𝑐𝑜𝑚𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑎 𝑏𝑒𝑡𝑡𝑒𝑟 𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑠𝑖𝑜𝑛 𝑜𝑓 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓 𝑖𝑛 𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑦 𝑎𝑠𝑝𝑒𝑐𝑡- 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑚𝑖𝑛𝑑, ℎ𝑒𝑎𝑙𝑡ℎ, 𝑐𝑎𝑟𝑒𝑒𝑟, 𝑓𝑖𝑛𝑎𝑛𝑐𝑒𝑠, 𝑒𝑛𝑣𝑖𝑟𝑒𝑛𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡, 𝑝𝑒𝑟𝑠𝑜𝑛𝑎𝑙 𝑔𝑟𝑜𝑤𝑡ℎ, 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑡𝑖𝑚𝑒 𝑚𝑎𝑛𝑎𝑔𝑒𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡.

𝑌𝑜𝑢 𝑔𝑒𝑡 𝑓𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑞𝑢𝑎𝑟𝑡𝑒𝑟𝑠 𝑎 𝑦𝑒𝑎𝑟. 𝑇ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑚𝑒𝑎𝑛𝑠 𝑦𝑜𝑢 ℎ𝑎𝑣𝑒 𝑛𝑜 𝑒𝑥𝑐𝑢𝑠𝑒 𝑛𝑜𝑡 𝑡𝑜 𝑖𝑚𝑝𝑟𝑜𝑣𝑒 𝑎𝑡 𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑠𝑡 𝑡𝑤𝑜 𝑎𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑠 𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑦 𝑡ℎ𝑟𝑒𝑒 𝑚𝑜𝑛𝑡ℎ𝑠. 𝐼𝑓 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑐𝑎𝑛'𝑡 𝑐𝑜𝑚𝑚𝑖𝑡 𝑡𝑜 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡, 𝑑𝑜𝑛'𝑡 𝑐𝑜𝑚𝑝𝑙𝑎𝑖𝑛 𝑎𝑏𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑏𝑒𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑠𝑡𝑢𝑐𝑘.

𝐴𝑃𝑅𝐼𝐿-𝑀𝐴𝑌-𝐽𝑈𝑁𝐸

𝐺𝐸𝑇 𝑆𝐸𝑅𝐼𝑂𝑈𝑆 𝑂𝑅 𝑆𝑇𝐴𝑌 𝑇𝐻𝐸 𝑆𝐴𝑀𝐸

✰ 𝐶ℎ𝑜𝑜𝑠𝑒 2 𝑎𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑠 𝑜𝑓 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑙𝑖𝑓𝑒 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑛𝑒𝑒𝑑 𝑤𝑜𝑟𝑘 (𝑦𝑒𝑠, 𝑎𝑐𝑡𝑢𝑎𝑙𝑙𝑦 𝑐ℎ𝑜𝑜𝑠𝑒).

✰ 𝑆𝑒𝑡 3 𝑐𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑟 𝑎𝑐𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛 𝑠𝑡𝑒𝑝𝑠 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑒𝑎𝑐ℎ. 𝑁𝑜 𝑣𝑎𝑔𝑢𝑒 "𝐼'𝑙𝑙 𝑇𝑟𝑦" 𝑛𝑜𝑛𝑠𝑒𝑛𝑠𝑒.

✰ 𝑇𝑟𝑎𝑐𝑘 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑝𝑟𝑜𝑔𝑟𝑒𝑠𝑠 (𝑎 ℎ𝑎𝑏𝑖𝑡 𝑡𝑟𝑎𝑐𝑘𝑒𝑟 𝑜𝑟 𝑗𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑛𝑎𝑙 𝑤𝑜𝑟𝑘𝑠 𝑏𝑒𝑠𝑡!)

✰ 𝑆ℎ𝑜𝑤 𝑢𝑝 𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑦 𝑑𝑎𝑦. 𝑁𝑜𝑡 𝑗𝑢𝑠𝑡 𝑤ℎ𝑒𝑛 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑓𝑒𝑒𝑙 𝑚𝑜𝑡𝑖𝑣𝑎𝑡𝑒𝑑.

✰ 𝑅𝑒𝑤𝑎𝑟𝑑 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓- 𝐵𝑢𝑡 𝑜𝑛𝑙𝑦 𝑖𝑓 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝐸𝐴𝑅𝑁 𝑖𝑡

𝑇𝑖𝑝: 𝑇𝑟𝑎𝑐𝑘 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑡𝑖𝑚𝑒𝑠 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑎𝑙𝑚𝑜𝑠𝑡 𝑔𝑎𝑣𝑒 𝑢𝑝, 𝑎 𝑣𝑖𝑠𝑖𝑏𝑙𝑒 𝑐ℎ𝑎𝑟𝑡 𝑖𝑠 𝑏𝑒𝑠𝑡. 𝑇ℎ𝑖𝑠 𝑖𝑠 𝑗𝑢𝑠𝑡 𝑎 𝑟𝑒𝑚𝑖𝑛𝑑𝑒𝑟 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑑𝑜𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑔𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑡 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑖𝑡 𝑚𝑜𝑡𝑖𝑣𝑎𝑡𝑒𝑠 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑡𝑜 𝑘𝑒𝑒𝑝 𝑔𝑜𝑖𝑛𝑔!

𝐶𝐻𝑂𝑂𝑆𝐸 𝑌𝑂𝑈𝑅 𝐴𝑅𝐸𝐴𝑆 𝑂𝐹 𝐼𝑀𝑃𝑅𝑂𝑉𝐸𝑀𝐸𝑁𝑇

𝐻𝑒𝑟𝑒 𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑠𝑜𝑚𝑒 𝑖𝑑𝑒𝑎𝑠 𝑡𝑜 ℎ𝑒𝑙𝑝 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑑𝑒𝑐𝑖𝑑𝑒:

𝐶𝑎𝑟𝑒𝑒𝑟 𝐺𝑜𝑎𝑙𝑠 - 𝐿𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑙 𝑈𝑝 𝑃𝑟𝑜𝑓𝑒𝑠𝑠𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑎𝑙𝑙𝑦

𝑁𝑒𝑔𝑜𝑡𝑖𝑎𝑡𝑒 𝑎 𝑟𝑎𝑖𝑠𝑒 𝑜𝑟 𝑝𝑟𝑜𝑚𝑜𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛 - 𝑆𝑒𝑡 𝑢𝑝 𝑎 𝑚𝑒𝑒𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑤𝑖𝑡ℎ 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑏𝑜𝑠𝑠.

𝑈𝑝𝑔𝑟𝑎𝑑𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑠𝑘𝑖𝑙𝑙𝑠 - 𝑇𝑎𝑘𝑒 𝑎𝑛 𝑜𝑛𝑙𝑖𝑛𝑒 𝑐𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒 𝑜𝑟 𝑎𝑡𝑡𝑒𝑛𝑑 𝑎 𝑤𝑜𝑟𝑘𝑠ℎ𝑜𝑝.

𝐽𝑜𝑏 𝑠𝑒𝑎𝑟𝑐ℎ - 𝐼𝑓 𝑦𝑜𝑢'𝑟𝑟 𝑢𝑛ℎ𝑎𝑝𝑝𝑦, 𝑒𝑥𝑝𝑙𝑜𝑟𝑒 𝑛𝑒𝑤 𝑜𝑝𝑝𝑜𝑟𝑡𝑢𝑛𝑖𝑡𝑖𝑒𝑠.

𝐸𝑥𝑝𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑛𝑒𝑡𝑤𝑜𝑟𝑘 - 𝐶𝑜𝑛𝑛𝑒𝑐𝑡 𝑤𝑖𝑡ℎ 𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡𝑜𝑟𝑠 𝑜𝑟 𝑖𝑛𝑑𝑢𝑠𝑡𝑟𝑦 𝑝𝑟𝑜𝑓𝑒𝑠𝑠𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑎𝑙𝑠.

𝑆𝑒𝑡 𝑤𝑜𝑟𝑘-𝑙𝑖𝑓𝑒 𝑏𝑜𝑢𝑛𝑑𝑎𝑟𝑖𝑒𝑠 - 𝑃𝑟𝑜𝑡𝑒𝑐𝑡 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡𝑎𝑙 ℎ𝑒𝑎𝑙𝑡ℎ.

𝐹𝑖𝑛𝑎𝑛𝑐𝑒𝑠 - 𝑆𝑒𝑐𝑢𝑟𝑒 𝑇ℎ𝑒 𝐵𝑎𝑔

𝑅𝑒𝑣𝑖𝑒𝑤 𝑙𝑎𝑠𝑡 𝑚𝑜𝑛𝑡ℎ'𝑠 𝑒𝑥𝑝𝑒𝑛𝑠𝑒𝑠 - 𝐾𝑛𝑜𝑤 𝑤ℎ𝑒𝑟𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑚𝑜𝑛𝑒𝑦 𝑖𝑠 𝑔𝑜𝑖𝑛𝑔.

𝐶𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑡𝑒 𝑎 𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑙𝑖𝑠𝑡𝑖𝑐 𝑏𝑢𝑑𝑔𝑒𝑡 - 𝑆𝑡𝑖𝑐𝑘 𝑡𝑜 𝑎 𝑝𝑙𝑎𝑛 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑤𝑜𝑟𝑘𝑠 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑦𝑜𝑢.

𝑈𝑠𝑒 𝑠𝑒𝑝𝑎𝑟𝑎𝑡𝑒 𝑐𝑎𝑟𝑑𝑠/𝑎𝑐𝑐𝑜𝑢𝑛𝑡𝑠 𝑡𝑜 𝑚𝑎𝑛𝑎𝑔𝑒 𝑠𝑝𝑒𝑛𝑑𝑖𝑛𝑔.

𝐵𝑖𝑙𝑙𝑠 - 𝑜𝑛𝑙𝑦 𝑐𝑎𝑟𝑑.

𝐵𝑢𝑑𝑔𝑒𝑡𝑒𝑑 𝑠𝑝𝑒𝑛𝑑𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑐𝑎𝑟𝑑.

𝑆𝑎𝑣𝑖𝑛𝑔𝑠 𝑎𝑐𝑐𝑜𝑢𝑛𝑡.

𝑆𝑡𝑎𝑟𝑡 𝑆𝑎𝑣𝑖𝑛𝑔! - 𝐸𝑣𝑒𝑛 𝑠𝑚𝑎𝑙𝑙 𝑎𝑚𝑜𝑢𝑛𝑡𝑠 𝑚𝑎𝑡𝑡𝑒𝑟.

𝐶𝑎𝑛𝑐𝑒𝑙 𝑢𝑛𝑛𝑒𝑐𝑒𝑠𝑠𝑎𝑟𝑦 𝑠𝑢𝑏𝑠𝑐𝑟𝑖𝑝𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠 - 𝐶𝑢𝑡 𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑤ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑑𝑜𝑛'𝑡 𝑢𝑠𝑒.

𝑃𝑎𝑦 𝑏𝑖𝑙𝑙𝑠 𝑜𝑛 𝑡𝑖𝑚𝑒 - 𝐴𝑣𝑜𝑖𝑑 𝑙𝑎𝑡𝑒 𝑓𝑒𝑒𝑠.

𝐶𝑜𝑜𝑘 𝑎𝑡 ℎ𝑜𝑚𝑒 - 𝑆𝑎𝑣𝑒 𝑚𝑜𝑛𝑒𝑦 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑒𝑎𝑡 ℎ𝑒𝑎𝑙𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑒𝑟.

𝑃𝑅𝐴𝐶𝑇𝐼𝐶𝐸 𝐺𝑂𝐴𝐿 𝑆𝐸𝑇𝑇𝐼𝑁𝐺 - 𝑇𝐻𝐸 𝑅𝐼𝐺𝐻𝑇 𝑊𝐴𝑌

𝑆𝑒𝑡𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑔𝑜𝑎𝑙𝑠 𝑐𝑎𝑛 𝑓𝑒𝑒𝑙 𝑜𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑤ℎ𝑒𝑙𝑚𝑖𝑛𝑔, 𝑏𝑢𝑡 𝑠𝑖𝑚𝑝𝑙𝑖𝑐𝑖𝑡𝑦 𝑖𝑠 𝑘𝑒𝑦.

✰ 𝑃𝑖𝑐𝑘 𝑗𝑢𝑠𝑡 2 𝑓𝑜𝑐𝑢𝑠 𝑎𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑠 𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑠 𝑞𝑢𝑎𝑟𝑡𝑒𝑟 - 𝑑𝑜𝑛'𝑡 𝑜𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑙𝑜𝑎𝑑 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓.

✰ 𝐵𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑘 𝑖𝑡 𝑑𝑜𝑤𝑛 - 𝐶ℎ𝑜𝑜𝑠𝑒 2 𝑠𝑚𝑎𝑙𝑙 𝑠𝑡𝑒𝑝𝑠 𝑝𝑒𝑟 𝑚𝑜𝑛𝑡ℎ

✰ 𝑈𝑠𝑒 𝑎 𝑝𝑙𝑎𝑛𝑛𝑒𝑟 𝑜𝑟 𝑗𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑛𝑎𝑙 𝑡𝑜 𝑡𝑟𝑎𝑐𝑘 𝑝𝑟𝑜𝑔𝑟𝑒𝑠𝑠.

✰ 𝐶ℎ𝑒𝑐𝑘 𝑜𝑓𝑓 𝑎𝑐𝑐𝑜𝑚𝑝𝑙𝑖𝑠ℎ𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡 - 𝐶𝑒𝑙𝑒𝑏𝑟𝑎𝑡𝑒 𝑠𝑚𝑎𝑙𝑙 𝑤𝑖𝑛𝑠.

✰ 𝑅𝑒𝑤𝑎𝑟𝑑 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓 𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑦 𝑡𝑖𝑚𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑑𝑜𝑛'𝑡 𝑞𝑢𝑖𝑡!

𝑅𝐸𝑊𝐴𝑅𝐷 𝑌𝑂𝑈𝑅𝑆𝐸𝐿𝐹 𝐵𝐸𝐶𝐴𝑈𝑆𝐸 𝑌𝑂𝑈 𝐷𝐸𝑆𝐸𝑅𝑉𝐸 𝐼𝑇

𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑤𝑜𝑟𝑘𝑖𝑛𝑔 ℎ𝑎𝑟𝑑, 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑝𝑟𝑜𝑔𝑟𝑒𝑠𝑠 𝑑𝑒𝑠𝑒𝑟𝑣𝑒𝑠 𝑐𝑒𝑙𝑒𝑏𝑟𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛! 𝐻𝑒𝑟𝑒 𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑎 𝑓𝑒𝑤 𝑤𝑎𝑦𝑠 𝑡𝑜 𝑡𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑡 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓:

𝑆𝑝𝑎 𝐷𝑎𝑦 : 𝑅𝑒𝑙𝑎𝑥, 𝑢𝑛𝑤𝑖𝑛𝑑, 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑟𝑒𝑐ℎ𝑎𝑟𝑔𝑒.

𝐷𝑎𝑡𝑒 𝑁𝑖𝑔ℎ𝑡 : 𝑆𝑜𝑙𝑜 𝑜𝑟 𝑤𝑖𝑡ℎ 𝑎 𝑙𝑜𝑣𝑒𝑑 𝑜𝑛𝑒, 𝑒𝑛𝑗𝑜𝑦 𝑎 𝑛𝑖𝑐𝑒 𝑚𝑒𝑎𝑙.

𝑀𝑜𝑣𝑖𝑒 𝑁𝑖𝑔ℎ𝑡 : 𝐶𝑜𝑧𝑦 𝑢𝑝 𝑤𝑖𝑡ℎ 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑓𝑎𝑣𝑜𝑟𝑖𝑡𝑒 𝑓𝑖𝑙𝑚.

𝑆ℎ𝑜𝑝𝑝𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑆𝑝𝑟𝑒𝑒 : 𝐵𝑢𝑦 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓 𝑠𝑜𝑚𝑒𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑛𝑖𝑐𝑒 (𝑤𝑖𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛 𝑏𝑢𝑑𝑔𝑒𝑡!)

𝐹𝐼𝑁𝐴𝐿 𝑅𝐸𝑀𝐼𝑁𝐷𝐸𝑅

𝐺𝑟𝑜𝑤𝑡ℎ 𝑖𝑠𝑛'𝑡 𝑎𝑏𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑝𝑒𝑟𝑓𝑒𝑐𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛- 𝑖𝑡'𝑠 𝑎𝑏𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑝𝑟𝑜𝑔𝑟𝑒𝑠𝑠. 𝑆𝑡𝑎𝑦 𝑐𝑜𝑛𝑠𝑖𝑠𝑡𝑒𝑛𝑡, 𝑡𝑟𝑎𝑐𝑘 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑤𝑖𝑛𝑠, 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑟𝑒𝑚𝑒𝑚𝑏𝑒𝑟 : 𝐸𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑦 𝑠𝑚𝑎𝑙𝑙 𝑠𝑡𝑒𝑝 𝑎𝑑𝑑𝑠 𝑢𝑝 𝑡𝑜 𝑎 𝑏𝑖𝑔 𝑡𝑟𝑎𝑛𝑠𝑓𝑜𝑟𝑚𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛.

Random Beauty Big Sister Advice 💐💋🪩

Here are my random big sister beauty advice! Enjoy!!!

Fix your posture

Some of you did not get pinched in the shoulder blades when you were slouching growing up and it shows

Every time you sit or stand up take the time to roll your shoulders back. Just do it as a little reminder everyday (multiple times) and your posture will improve.

If you can’t hold it without it becoming uncomfortable or tiring you need to do some core workout (a lot of inner core specifically) because that means you muscles aren’t strong enough to keep your spine strong. Which also means you can be more susceptible to injuries.

As much as you hate it healthy is 100x prettier than unhealthy.

Almost all the beauty standards are based on your health.

Proper diet and exercise will make your skin glow and your hair shiny.

Under eating or eating junk shows on your face and hair.

Muscles are sexy

I swear to you there is no way for you to become “bulky” by picking up weights.

You need to strengthen train for that toned look.

In order for your muscles to get really bulky you have to be in a pretty heavy calorie surplus be hitting a very high protein level. You also have to have the gene to build bulky muscles and the bone structure which is not as common in women. You can’t really do it on accident.

Even women who can put on muscles really fast are not bulky they are built. It’s giving she hulk and it’s hot.

To look put together you have to do the 2/3rds rule.

Only one part of your outfit can you neglect. Either your hair, makeup, or outfit. But it should never be your hair.

Learn to do really quick easy hairstyles and you will never have bad hair. I am almost always in Dutch braids because they are simple and I can do them quickly.

Also adding jewelry always gives your outfit more flare.

Learn how to alter clothes always have cute clothes.

You can find really simple tutorials to turn that body tank top into a fitted tank so easily.

Usually you just need a needle thread and scissors but if you have a machine you can do so much.

Do your nails

If you don’t like color or fake nails make sure they are always filled and clean.

Nails can be extremely cheap or extremely expensive you just gotta find what works for you.

Get a good nail oil as well for extra care.

Your body is not the problem you just don’t know how to dress and compliment her.

Stop looking at girls whose body is nothing like yours for outfit inspo.

Depending on your proportions things can look vastly different on different people.

Figure out your body type and shopping gets so much easier.

That’s all for now I might continue this series slowly but I just ended my spring break and classes have started so if I disappear don’t worry I’m just being an academic weapon.

Xoxo💋

don’t care, never cared, will never care

Essentials for a cosy study day 𝜗𝜚˚⋆

Tea, coffee, water. Drink more than you think you should; it will help you focus!! My recent obsession has been chai lattes. :)

Get ready even if you plan on staying home. Take a shower, do your hair make-up, and do whatever you would do on a regular day, too.

Cosy but cute fit. Something comfortable that still makes you feel pretty and good about yourself.

Set some goals. Whether this be a specific page number you want to reach, a set study time, etc etc., keep it achievable, tho!!

Play around with music and playlists when you lose focus. I always switch between studying in complete silence, classical music, lofi, and more gloomy playlists; this helps me stay focused for longer. :)

Take little breaks, stretch, have a snack, open a window, and catch up with your friends for a bit to avoid feeling burned out or overly exhausted.

Make your study space cosy, light a candle, get a blanket, adjust the lighting and temperature to your liking, and keep your desk organised.

Watch something cosy but motivating like Gilmore Girls if you're just organising your notes, school stuff, or simply studying lighter material to keep you entertained.

Here are some of my favourite study playlists 𝜗𝜚˚⋆

Back to school gloominess

Old Ivories (piano music)

Rory Gilmore Autumn

My Lofi Playlist

Soft studies

As always, please feel free to share your own suggestions and tips in the comments! <3

my insta: @ malusokay

love ya ･:*₊‧✩

The Power of Hobbies: Your Secret Weapon to Level Up

Listen, sweethearts! In a world where everyone’s glued to their screens, doom-scrolling into oblivion, it’s time to bring back the ultimate glow-up tool: HOBBIES. Yep, hobbies aren’t just for your grandma’s knitting club. They’re the secret sauce to becoming the best version of YOU. Ready to romanticize your life? Let’s go.

Why Hobbies Are Important

First off, hobbies aren’t just cute little pastimes—they’re mini acts of self-love. They give your brain a break, boost your mood, and remind you that life isn’t just about surviving; it’s about THRIVING. Everyone’s out here living the same routine—work, uni, hang out, repeat. Yawn. Having hobbies, interests, and actual skills? That’s what makes you special girl. It’s like having your own secret world while everyone else is stuck on autopilot.

The Glow-Up Benefits

Mental Health Boost: Hobbies are like mental spa days. They reduce stress, fight off burnout, and give you that serotonin sparkle.

Confidence Builder: Nothing hits like the confidence boost of learning a new skill. Suddenly, you’re THAT girl who can paint, dance, or whip up a killer playlist.

Meet Your People: Join a hobby club or class, and boom—instant community. Forget awkward small talk, you’re bonding over shared passions.

Creative Energy: Your mind loves to play. Hobbies spark creativity, which spills into every part of your life, from problem-solving to personal style.

Hobbies for the Girlies Who Want It All

Journaling: Not just a diary, babe. Think manifestation, gratitude lists, mood tracking—your thoughts, but make them aesthetic.

Pilates or Yoga: Strong body, strong mind. Plus, the cute workout fits? Obsessed.

Baking: Whip up some sweet treats, because why not be the friend who always brings the vibes and the cookies?

Scrapbooking: Old school? Maybe. Therapeutic and fun? Absolutely.

Learning a New Language: Multilingual queen energy, anyone?

Thrifting and Upcycling: Turn fashion finds into one-of-a-kind pieces. Sustainable and stylish.

Photography: Capture your life like it’s an indie film. Bonus: Instagram-worthy content.

Pottery or Painting: Get messy, get creative, and make something with your own two hands.

Gardening (Even if It’s Just Houseplants): Plant mom vibes. Watch something grow because of you? Ugh, love it.

Your hobby doesn’t have to be perfect, productive, or profitable. It just has to make you feel alive. Life isn’t about doing everything perfectly—it’s about finding joy in the little things. So pick up that paintbrush, roll out that yoga mat, or start that playlist. Do it for YOU, queen. You deserve it.

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SELF VALIDATION

First things first, if you validate your existence on externalities, you will never truly be happy. While it’s important to have values and to act on them, it shouldn’t be your main source of happiness. 

E.g. parent validation, academic validation, and male validation. So, here are some tips to validate yourself. 

VALUE YOUR OPINION. You should have the ability to make decisions and identify yourself solely on your opinion. Trust, giving people that ability to shape your decisions and curate your identity, allows them to dictate your worth. 

SELF LOVE OVER OTHERS. Ensure you are doing everything in your power to treat yourself lovingly. Even if it means sacrificing a few things in life. E.g. going to sleep early instead of cramming for a test. 

BE RESILIENT. When I say that, I don’t mean ‘don't let anything affect you’ but rather, build yourself up to the point that when someone/something knocks you down, you can bounce back easily. 

BECOME SELF AWARE. Know your strengths, and weaknesses, and be mindful of the truth. Be genuine when it comes to this because self-awareness helps us with becoming more in touch with our inner selves.

AVOID NEGATIVE SELF TALK. This can cause us to rely on others to hear good things about ourselves. Instead, say affirmations in the mirror.

STOP PEOPLE PLEASING. There’s a difference between genuinely being nice, and being a doormat. You shouldn’t have to bend over backwards for others, and they give absolutely nothing back. Invest that time and effort into yourself.

SOMEONE’S GAIN IS NOT YOUR LOSS. This is a mindset shift that will change the game. You have to stop seeing successful, wealthy, pretty or intelligent people as threatening your skills or talents. There is enough success for everyone.

DETACH FROM OTHERS. Friends, family, males, etc. Stop letting how other people treat you, dictate your mood for the rest of the day. The only factor your mood should depend on is you. What you do, say, and act is the only factor. 

KNOCK OTHERS FROM YOUR PEDESTAL. The only person that should be on top of your pedestal, is you. By doing this, you create an inferiority complex for someone else and give them superiority. 

OTHER’S OPINIONS ARE MOMENTARY. They will always move on with their day and see what needs to be done. They do not care about you as much as you think. So, do not even try to give them the time of day. 

BUILD BOUNDARIES. With others and yourself. Both are equally important because you value yourself enough not to do something you’ll regret.