Just a semi-regular reminder that you do not have to wait until it is "that bad" in order to start pursuing recovery. You don't have to let it get worse in order to count. If it's happening to you, it counts. You matter and you don't have to put yourself through more suffering and a longer, more arduous recovery process (and more lasting damage!) in order to prove that it was bad enough. If you want to get better now, you do not have to get anybody's permission to do it. Healing can start anytime, anywhere, and you do not have to endure any worse in order to deserve better.
How do people figure out their gender? This is such a scamš«¤
Just a reminder: Itās better to brush your teeth in the middle of the night than not at all.
Iām begging Black girls and especially younger Black girls to please stop going on the Internet and complaining about being the least attractive/feminine/desirable and how guys donāt want you and how much you hate being a Black girl and wish you were another race(usually white/East Asian is what I see) so that you could be seen as beautiful/get the guy you want/not hate yourself every time you look into a mirror. Please. Stop doing that shit. I understand the soul-crushing way that Black girls are treated in society, and how insistent the world and people in general are in stripping us of our femininity and beauty and trying to gaslight us into believing that weāre ugly, and because of that it is so so easy to fall prey to the āweāre the ugliest of women and no one will ever love usā mentality. But when you make posts like these, talking down on yourself for being Black and expressing envy towards non-Black women, you are not only shitting on every Black woman out there who looks like you, youāre also giving non-Black girls an ego boost and letting them believe that they really are more attractive and valuable than us and that weāre āthe ugly onesā because Black girls themselves are saying it and self-deprecating themselves.
Iām begging you to please stop going on these intensely anti-Black and misogynistic hate sites dedicated to hating on/tearing down women and venting about how being a Black girl is such a curse and a terrible burden and how youāll never be as beautiful as a white/Asian woman because you have dark skin and coily hair. All youāre doing is putting yourself in harmās way and validating the way people already think about us while shitting on your fellow Black sisters by painting us all with the āundesirable/uglyā brush. I understand that the rest of the world constantly tells us that weāre ugly/unlovable and less womanly than the rest of the groups. I understand feeling anger, confusion, and frustration at how were treated by people who are supposed to care about us and protect us. I understand feeding into it. But please donāt. Especially not on sites that prey on womenās insecurities and are filled to the brim with people who hate Black women with a seething passion. Theyāre only going to tell you that youāre right, not comfort you and make you feel better, you canāt rely on these sites for validation. Please talk to your friends and family or a therapist if you feel insecure about your race, and either follow Black female content creators who uplift Black women/girls or get off of social media for the betterment of your own mental health. Please. Iām begging you. ššæ
Hello Tumblr community I am here to bring you this meme which is totally not based on myself
It's okay to 'grieve' things that aren't just death. I've allowed myself to grieve a friendship ending, a situationship, losing something important to me, etc. It's okay to give yourself time to process the loss of something. Grief looks different for everyone, try to find a way that works for you to help make it easier for you.
Iāll definitely be checking out the story and I shall let the force genders commenceš„š„š„š„š„
Tips for figuring out your gender plz šš
Sending all the love to fat people with anorexia. Sending all the love to fat people with bulimia. Your eating disorder is just as serious as it would be in a thin person, and you deserve just as much support and help in your recovery. I know you don't get that experience when you get sick, and you definitely don't get to experience those positive healing vibes when you choose recovery and stop losing weight. Just know that I see you, that I know it's not fair, and that I believe in your immense worth and the worth of your recovery journey.
If it feels hard to compliment you own body, to say positive statements, then please appreciate your body for what it can do for you, and it can be something as simples as āit keeps me aliveā. Itās hard to immediately stop saying negative things about ourselves, and it might feel strange saying very positive things to it. Try saying neutral things first, than maybe slowly you can find new positive things that donāt feel too outlandish because it feels āfakeā. Itās something that takes time for us to assimilate and for us to finally become a little more comfortable with our bodies. Theyāre doing the best they can with the circumstances, they are trying to survive. And if thatās the only thing you can appreciate, thatās a start. Changing the way we speak to ourselves might be a slow thing to get used to, but it is worth for you to have some peace of mind, even if it feels odd to say it. The repetition will help too, and youāll find it less and less strange with time. Please be patient with yourself.
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