I’m begging Black girls and especially younger Black girls to please stop going on the Internet and complaining about being the least attractive/feminine/desirable and how guys don’t want you and how much you hate being a Black girl and wish you were another race(usually white/East Asian is what I see) so that you could be seen as beautiful/get the guy you want/not hate yourself every time you look into a mirror. Please. Stop doing that shit. I understand the soul-crushing way that Black girls are treated in society, and how insistent the world and people in general are in stripping us of our femininity and beauty and trying to gaslight us into believing that we’re ugly, and because of that it is so so easy to fall prey to the “we’re the ugliest of women and no one will ever love us” mentality. But when you make posts like these, talking down on yourself for being Black and expressing envy towards non-Black women, you are not only shitting on every Black woman out there who looks like you, you’re also giving non-Black girls an ego boost and letting them believe that they really are more attractive and valuable than us and that we’re “the ugly ones” because Black girls themselves are saying it and self-deprecating themselves.
I’m begging you to please stop going on these intensely anti-Black and misogynistic hate sites dedicated to hating on/tearing down women and venting about how being a Black girl is such a curse and a terrible burden and how you’ll never be as beautiful as a white/Asian woman because you have dark skin and coily hair. All you’re doing is putting yourself in harm’s way and validating the way people already think about us while shitting on your fellow Black sisters by painting us all with the “undesirable/ugly” brush. I understand that the rest of the world constantly tells us that we’re ugly/unlovable and less womanly than the rest of the groups. I understand feeling anger, confusion, and frustration at how were treated by people who are supposed to care about us and protect us. I understand feeding into it. But please don’t. Especially not on sites that prey on women’s insecurities and are filled to the brim with people who hate Black women with a seething passion. They’re only going to tell you that you’re right, not comfort you and make you feel better, you can’t rely on these sites for validation. Please talk to your friends and family or a therapist if you feel insecure about your race, and either follow Black female content creators who uplift Black women/girls or get off of social media for the betterment of your own mental health. Please. I’m begging you. 🙏🏿
girl exorcism ⊹˚. ♡
cuz sometimes we all get a little off track and need to wake the fuck up again !!! 🫶🩷
──★ ˙ ̟🐰 physical! 🎀
have an everything shower
do ur whole skincare routine
brush ur teeth, floss, dental care
arrange a new workout routine
dance, pilates, exercise, move around
go on a walk and thrive in nature like a plant or a tree
find and try out some new cute hairstyles
pamper urself! face masks, spa day, etc.
get ur beauty sleep
change your bedsheets and pillowcases
clean your makeup brushes
go through all haircare, skincare, makeup, etc. products
organise and donate or throw out all of the clothes you don't wear or don't make you feel like your own dream girl
──★ ˙ ̟🎀 mental! 🧸
write down all your thoughts. every one.
write down all the problems in your life right now
have a mental breakdown over something tiny and let all ur emotions out by bursting into tears
write down what you want and go over your dreams and goals
read over or write out your highest self and everything about them
analyse your mindset at the moment
write what limiting beliefs you have
remember and remind yourself of your "why", keep it somewhere you can see
write down all your bad habits
write down some new habits to counteract them, become your best self and to work towards the future
vaunt and go on a huuuge rant to urself about how beautiful and perfect and amazing you are bc you literally are <3
──★ ˙ ̟💬 personal! 🎀
sweep your room
open the curtains
wipe down all your mirrors
dust down all surfaces
go through all ur clothes and chuck out or donate ones you don't wear
clean out under your bed !!!!!!!!
rearrange your shelves
get some new posters & wall prints
go through all of the books, movies, series, content you're consuming right now and choose new ones that align with ur highest self
──★ ˙ ̟🎀 digital! 🎧
go through ur following on every platform and delete everyone that makes you feel even remotely negative
uninstall a bunch of apps you don't need
install useful, helpful, purposeful apps
go on the hunt for accounts that make you laugh, happy, or confident
redecorate your home page
revamp your social medias (pinterest, tumblr, instagram, etc)
go through all your playlists and reorganise your music
delete all depressing songs and media
go through your contacts, rename, delete, etc
You deserve to be loved.
You don't have to settle for anyone who's with you "in spite of" your fatness.
You have nothing to be ashamed of.
You don't owe anyone an explanation of why you're fat.
Every inch of you is worthy of respect, kindness, and appreciation.
This applies to every. single. one of you. Regardless of your race, gender, religion, politics, where you're from, whatever. I know how hard it is, but please remember that.
i do not know who else needs to hear this aside from just me but i am writing it down because it helps:
there is no weight limit for liking your body.
there is no rule that says if you’re over a certain bmi you have to hate yourself. you’re not required to think you’re ugly if you’re not skinny, and you’re not required to want to lose weight.
you are allowed to not want to be thin.
this world we live in tells us that we should only like thin bodies and therefore should only like ourselves if we are thin. but your body is yours, and nobody should get to tell you what to think about it.
give yourself permission to love it.
Don't sabotage your future peace because familiar chaos is comfortable.
"global internet and computer outage affecting companies" well i can get on tumblr just fine. skill issue.
If it feels hard to compliment you own body, to say positive statements, then please appreciate your body for what it can do for you, and it can be something as simples as “it keeps me alive”. It’s hard to immediately stop saying negative things about ourselves, and it might feel strange saying very positive things to it. Try saying neutral things first, than maybe slowly you can find new positive things that don’t feel too outlandish because it feels “fake”. It’s something that takes time for us to assimilate and for us to finally become a little more comfortable with our bodies. They’re doing the best they can with the circumstances, they are trying to survive. And if that’s the only thing you can appreciate, that’s a start. Changing the way we speak to ourselves might be a slow thing to get used to, but it is worth for you to have some peace of mind, even if it feels odd to say it. The repetition will help too, and you’ll find it less and less strange with time. Please be patient with yourself.
my tips for students that struggle with consistency
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