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it's easy for people to say "it's not that deep" when they're not living it. sometimes we say it to cheer someone up when they're going through something. but you know what else is okay? maybe it is that deep for you. and that's okay. maybe it is that deep for you right now, but it won't be forever. feelings change all the time. what once scared you to death, you might be doing with ease now or not even thinking about. or maybe things you never worried about suddenly start weighing heavy on your mind. let's just remember that feelings are not final. what we need to learn is how to feel them, and how to exist beside them. sometimes that means certain feelings will be overwhelming or dominating you when they shouldn't. but if life was perfect and we never felt anything troubling then we'd never make any experiences and we'd all prob have the same character and personality. who wants that??
abnormally large trees please lend me some of your centuries worth of wisdom
i just want to live a quiet soft life but i think i'm literally on the wrong planet for that. the older i get the more i feel like i'm just not made for this world. i don't know what to do about that.
i'm miserable because i keep pulling in people who take risks and live in uncertainty to achieve their goals. well i'm not like that and i never was. i like safety. i like stability. i'm not obsessed with reaching some big goal in life. i just want to live in peace. and i'm tired of constantly being made to feel like that is somehow not the right way to live. that i should be wanting more. i come from generations of women who had to live in uncertainty. who had to run away, who had to stretch the horizons of their lives not because they wanted to, but in order to survive. silence and peace. i want nothing more. and if i never find someone who shares this wish with me, then i'd rather just be alone for the rest of my life.
“in order to create loving males we need to love males” means teach boys that they can be themselves without being less of a man. it means being encouraging and nurturing of their emotions so they don’t become cold and hateful. it means showing boys, early in their lives, that they have value outside of what our society deems proper masculinity. what it doesn’t mean is that it’s our job to handhold men who see women as walking sex toys through the concept of empathy, and maybe if we’re really really nice to them and don’t say things that hurt their feelings they’ll stop killing us for saying no
life is so much simpler when your heart breaks. you don't need to eat cause you're never hungry, your crying-induced migraine makes you go to bed earlier, no need to spend hours on makeup, you suddenly love going to work, you hang out with your friends every day, you walk a lot so you don't have to think. pretty practical huh
the overwhelming feeling of sadness sometimes when someone treats me with kindness
The Oakland Post Enquirer, California, May 7, 1931