Latest Posts by moonshyness - Page 9
I need to pull myself together in a very very very kind way
sooooo sleepy today… i hate emails!!!!
youre gonna grow up and realize just how much more lightheartedness you need in life
its okay for others to misunderstand you and your intentions. it is inevitable actually
a couple thoughts on self-improvement
we need to understand that not giving ourselves enough time to kick a bad habit and establish a new better habit is a form of self-sabotage.
humans always want a quick solution for everything but our nervous systems were not built to adapt so quickly. that's why quitting a bad habit cold-turkey or starting a new good habit in an extreme way rather than easing in slowly usually doesn't work. (not saying it never works, but even if it does it's not the most optimal way to do things).
think about it this way: most addictions don't go from 0 to 100 immediately. since this is something that most of us struggle with, let's take for example phone addiction: you didn't just become addicted to consuming brainrot after watching a couple of reels. it's a learned behavior that develops from repetition and reenforcement.
i was already addicted to social media and the internet long before i had a smart phone. i watched hours of youtube and scrolled endlessly on tumblr. the problem just got worse and worse as I got more exposure to it and my brain became used to the sensation of that particular, easy dopamine reward. of course shortform content taking over and apps becoming more and more predatory in their design made the problem worse.
another thing that we tend to forget is that creating a better habits means making a conscious decision to do so on a regular basis. the fact that this too, is hard on our bodies and minds needs to be taken into consideration. that's why it's important to celebrate little successes. you managed to go a week without instagram? that's great! you managed to delete an app that you've been wanting to delete for a long time? there's more good things waiting if you keep going!
and if we mess up? if we re-install it or binge-scroll after a week of no social media? -we immediately feel like failures. instead of drowning in this feeling of failure, which reinforces us to go back to our addictive behavior, we need to encourage ourselves to keep trying.
and when we keep trying it's important to observe why we went back to the behavior we are trying to stop and what we could try to do better next time, so that we don't try blindly. what we perceive as failures are actually just experiences to learn something new and do better the next time.
the importance of gently and steadily building resilience and making your body and mind get used to trying again cannot be understated when it comes to forming better habits.
I do feel like this whole self improvement culture thing can go too far where people are never happy with who they are and where they are because they’re constantly trying to be better or do better and they’re always waiting for some sort of glow up or achievement or therapy realisation that will make them feel complete but that isn’t real and life is actually in the every day
Simone de Beauvoir, from Diary of a Philosophy Student: Volume 1, 1926-27
Text ID: I observe how much I have matured since last year despite my belief that I was losing myself, how something strong was born from the painful experiences survived and from the numerous minutes that I believed were wasted.
Books, Letters & Papers (5/?)
random snippets of the last two months just because
puppies!
The Courier-Journal, Louisville, Kentucky, November 4, 1951
Herman Bogman Jr., 1890-1975
Cat lying on green chair , ca.1950/65, watercolor, 47x32 cm
ふうた
watery room 2, with my sleeping puppy
Illustrations for Yasunari Kawabata's The Sound of Waves | Shiosai | 潮騒, by Lâm Tùng Nguyễn.
⊹₊｡ꕤ˚₊⊹ green flora stamps ⊹₊｡ꕤ˚₊⊹
"Beautiful Losers", Leonard Cohen
The only way out is through.
Grietje Postma, 1992-I, woodcut
REVIGLIONE MARIO (detail)
you can't just switch off years of unhealthy behaviors, negative thought patterns, and counterproductive emotions. but u can recognize them and be like 'i'm not engaging. this isn't the end of the world. i'm box breathing. i'm not giving those thoughts attention; i'm acknowledging them and letting them go. i'm going to take a break when i can.' don't be hard on yourself if it doesn't work or you do something that feels like you've set yourself back. that doesn't help, either, lol
Green Path
— Franny Choi, in “Perihelion: A History of Touch”
Time to post my favorite image
