Having Ocd And Autism Is Just Eating Something And It Tasting Wrong™ And Immediately 'I JUST ATE POISON

so i’ve been thinking again, and i wanna make an important reminder for my fellow cluster b folks and trauma survivors.

healing involves evaluating your current behaviors, how they may be harmful to yourself and others, and then replacing those behaviors with more constructive coping skills.

in order to do that, it’s important to approach the healing process without judgment. especially when you have a cluster b disorder or any personality disorder, it can be hard not to judge yourself as a bad person because of your maladaptive behaviors. you may see yourself as selfish, for example, because of possessive or dismissive actions.

but remember that being selfish is a survival instinct—your body and mind wants to look out for itself first, that’s totally normal. even though the results of that desire may be harmful, it’s best to acknowledge and accept that those maladaptive behaviors are a trauma response, and there is no reason to judge yourself for that.

self-love can feel nigh impossible for cluster b’s but it’s so important to our healing to at least try! i love yall and i believe in you!

reblog to tell your local narcissist that they’re the best ever

Friendly reminder:

People with low to no empathy are still perfectly capable of being ‘good’ people.

The amount of empathy a person has is not indicative as to whether that person will be good or not; there are plenty of ‘bad’ people with high empathy.

Empathy is literally just feeling the emotions of others or adequately reading them.

You can still be compassionate and kind without the presence of empathy.

Empathy isn’t as important as society makes it seem.

Unpopular opinion: It doesn’t matter how much study you do. You will never know more about the experiences of a disorder than the person living with it does.

“i respect pwnpd as long as they dont hurt people” ok. anyways here’s to narcs who unintentionally harm or hurt others!!

ok congress let’s get this discussion started

i think i explained my point best here

a lot of narc abuse truthers use the argument that narcissism ≠ npd which

a) they don’t actually mean and that’s clear in the way that they actively attempt to tear down npd communities online and demonise npd symptoms

b) isn’t a fair justification for mislabeling abuse

nobody in the history of the universe (EVER) has tried to deny that people with npd are capable of abuse. the entire point is that people with npd are not MORE likely to be abusive than anybody else and that there is no pattern of behaviour exclusive to narcissists. every behaviour associated with narc abuse can be, and is, performed by egotypicals and otherwise mentally stable people.

it’s an inaccurate descriptor for a pattern of behaviour because it also assumes that pwnpd are a hivemind. in reality, there are hundreds of ways people could present with npd. the dsm5 criteria is far too broad to make sweeping generalisations about anybody with a diagnosis.

the word narcissist implies npd (and vice versa). that’s not going to change. the only way either party is benefited by the use of the label is that egotypicals get an entire group to hate instead of just their abuser. even if we adopt their mindset and argue that narcissists are inherently abusive (again, categorically false), the demonisation of the disorder has a massive impact on the accessibility of treatment and would, in turn, increase rates of “narcissistic abuse”.

i have a lot to say about how a lot of narc abuse truthers on this hellsite actually have a sufficient amount of npd symptoms to be diagnosed but i’m sure they’ll come at me with some shit about “reactive narcissism” and how their treatment of us is justifiable because they’re better (look in the mirror.)

Most common responses I get when I post any sort of cluster B positivity:

An extensive trauma dump in an attempt to validate their hatred towards us.

"You sound like a narcissist"

"You're just trying to manipulate us but we won't fall for it"

"This is really invalidating to actual trauma survivors"

"This is why people don't like cluster B's"

"Part of supporting someone with a cluster B disorder is by not enabling their abusive behaviour"

"I'll only support cluster B's if they get help"

Assuming that my opinions are based on a lack of research.

A looooong response about how trauma survivors need to stick together that promptly gets deleted when they realise I myself have a cluster B disorder.

*Posts to r/fakedisordercringe*

Tries to justify the exclusion of an entire group of trauma survivors because "we need to keep ourselves safe from people like you"

reblog if you have narcissistic eyes and dark energy

was scrolling through the npdcultureis blog because of the post you rebloged so now I have some question

I’m familiar with the term fp/favourite person in relation to Borderline Personality Disorder but I’ve never heard the term ‘ep’. What does that stand for? And what is it’s significance?

EP (in NPD) stands for equal person. Basically people someone with NPD sees as equal to themselves and grandiose patterns dont affect the relationship as much. The NPD tends to fuck around less with EPs and narcissists tend to be attached to their EPs, prioritizing them and having a very close relationship with them. Narcissists can have multiple EPs as well (personally i have 3... i think)

Different from FPs in BPD which turns many BPD symptoms up, EPs tend to calm down narcissistic traits

Btw anyone is free to add onto this post with more information and shit

You can still want positivity for your disability even if you genuinely struggle with the symptoms and wish you didn’t have it. Both of these things can co-exist and you’re valid.