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I don’t wanna believe that I belong to you
60s Sex Kitten: A Guide
The term "sex kitten" is something that hasn't been used in Hollywood in decades. Usually in reference to stars like Brigitte Bardot and Eartha Kitt, it is often vaguely defined as "a young woman with conspicuous sex appeal who asserts or exploits her sexual attractiveness". It's important to note that physical attractiveness is not the key factor here but sexual appeal is.
What's referred to as a "sex kitten" is probably what we call a coquette or minx today. She embraces her sexuality with a coyish grace. She's erotic and sensual, but not overtly so, and often times uses her sexual appeal to get what she wants. Looking at the women who fell under this category, they all had a doll-like look about them. They were perfectly put together, flirty, sexy, but still retained an innocent almost childlike air about them.
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♡ Bigger Hair is Better Hair!
Voluminous hair was all the rage in the 60s, and the iconic "beehive" was notably seen on celebrities like Diahann Carroll, Eartha Kitt, and Priscilla Presley. Perfectly teased voluminous hair gives a glamorous aura to your look. Fluffy hair can make you look like a living doll, almost unreal, like a fantasy!
♡ Be a tease, please!
Mini, mini, mini! Fill your closet with mini skirts and dresses. Buy some that leave a little wiggle room so that the loose fit + short length combo plays off one another. You're showing just enough skin and curves to spark someone's curiosity and imagination. Do not shy away from color! Get them in pink, green, blue, orange, yellow, and every color of the rainbow that you can find! You're sexy but fun. Other items include turtlenecks, stockings/socks, and boots (preferably knee high or go-go).
♡ Living Doll!
The makeup is all about pink, blue, dramatic liner, and big doll-esque lashes. The eyes were the focus, and the socket crease was always outlined with dark shadow or a pencil. Adding or drawing in bottom lashes was very common. Be very liberal with the mascara and be sure to keep the lips a pale pink or nudey color to keep the attention on the eyes.
♡ Pretty Hands!
Nails are almost always going to be almond or oval shaped. During this era, variations of pink and red and nude were most common. They were shaped in a way that appeared natural but well groomed. They were usually kept at a tasteful length. Here's a 60s nail ad!
♡ Embrace your sexuality and appeal! This could honestly have nothing to do with your sex life at all but merely how you carry yourself. Seduce entire rooms with your eyes and have people hanging onto your every word. Be flirty, but coy. Be alluring, but keep an air of mystery! In your sex life, be fun and playful and make it so that your partner(s) struggles to keep up with your energy!
charles h. traub: lunchtime
Black women >>>>
It's so sad how people suffer in life. How some many people are robbed of their youth, robbed of themselves, robbed of the opportunity to live life with only experiencing joy. I truly hope those people end up taking back what was stolen from them.
Lowkey obsessed with this dress😍
Costume designed by Beatrice Dawson for Marilyn Monroe in The Prince and the Showgirl (1957)
From Heritage Auctions
BLACK FOLK HAVING FUN IN THE SUMMER:
My Type by Saweetie (2019) dir. Daps 7/11 by Beyoncé (2014) dir. Beyoncé Reel It In by Aminé (2018) dir. Adam Amine Daniel & Jack Begert Work by Rihanna (2016) dir. Director X You Was Right by Lil Uzi Vert (2016) dir. Spike Jordan Made For Now by Janet Jackson (2018) dir. Dave Meyers FUN! by Vince Staples (2018) dir. Calmatic
Dark-skinned black women >>>>
By Arnaud Lajeunie for Dazed Magazine March 2022
Playlist pt. 2
I don’t really have a music type. I listen to literally everything… those playlists are just some songs, i listen to a lot at the moment
Frank Ocean
• Pink + White
• Thinkin about you (classic)
• Ivy
• Chanel
• Novacane
• Provider
• All I want (Runaway III) jhene aiko, the weeknd
• Moon River
RAY BLK
• Chill out ft. SG Lewis
• My Hood
• Run Run
• Patience
• Talk to me
Omar Apollo
• Erase
• U got me
• Brakelights
• Heart
• Amor malo
Etc.
SZA
• 20 something
• Normal girl
• Garden
• Teen Spirit
• Drew Barrymore
• The weekend
Solange
• Don’t touch my hair (yoooo I’m a black girl i had to)
• Cranes in the sky
• Losing you
• Lovers in the parking lot
• F.U.B.U
TLC
• Creep
• Diggin’ on you
• No scrubs
• Waterfalls
• Baby-Baby-Baby
• What about your friends
• Way back
Kali uchis
• Tyrant ft. Jorja Smith
• After the storm ft. Tyler the Creator, Bootsy Collins
• Loner
• Only girl ft. Steve lacy, Vince staples
Ravyn Lanae
• 4 Leaf Clover ft. Steve Lacy
• Recess
• Sticky
• The night song
• Closer
ROLE MODEL
• Stolen car
• Girl in new york
• Super model
• Not a fan
• I don’t rly like u
• Puerto rico
Part 3 will probably be up later today, just bc I’m in the mood
Ugh to fulfil ones fantasy it peak hedonism
What if this is real?
Hanan by Charles Dennington for Russh March 2022
Dear South African Schools
What is wrong with my dress, how is it inappropriate?
You were wrong to speak to me the way you spoke to me. I believe that your statements unnecessarily sexualised my body, more particularly my breasts. There is nothing wrong with my breasts or my clevage as you suggested . Breasts are not sexual organs, breasts are meant for mothers to feed their children. There is nothing wrong with my breasts. I love my breasts, they are a part of my body. A body which I worship and treasure. For you to not see that is a shame because when you look at me you reduce me to a part of me you've decided to sexualise.
Your sexualisation of young girls is fueling rape culture and protecting perpertrators of GBV. My dress is not the reason I could face sexual assault. Your protection means nothing, no dress code can stop students from facing assault. You should instead be teaching boys how not to become perpetrators. You should teach girls how not to become perpertrators. And most importantly you should teach us all about our own bodily autonomy. We live in South Africa, a GBV capital, your ignorance is quite frankly embarrassing. You need to do better. Your dress codes promote hypersexualisation of prepubescent and teenage bodies while simultaneously protecting predators. You are the problem not me. Your rules just cause body dysmorphia, which is detrimental.
Do you understand how traumatising it is to be in trouble because of the clothes you wear? You have humiliated me and degraded me to something I am not. You've allowed your perverted mind to point out things that do not exist. I don't feel comfortable around any of you, you have made my school environment unsafe. I will only feel better if there are classes educating staff and students on GBV and prevention.
Duane Nasis, Suleyman Ali, Isaac Knowles, Ace Rahman, Donté Da Costa, Tyrone Smith and Rajpreet Sandhu by Kuba Ryniewicz for How To Spend It March 2022 cover
I’m a full believer in doing small things for yourself to cultivate your soul without having to tell anybody especially in a day and age where people feel the need to capitalize on every aspect of themselves to create an aestheticized identity… like learning a language going on a run writing a poem practicing your craft going to a museum dancing for fun can and should give you personal fulfillment that doesn’t have to be presented through a lens or validated by an audience
Flower Meadow
Sometimes I wish to be in a flower meadow;
One that brings tranquility and serendipity.
But instead I am stuck in the English rain.
Memories of contentment fade as quickly as the come.
I try to hold on to them;
But they slip through my hands like the golden glitter of the beach.
I dream big joyous fantasies;
But struggle to let them become anything other than fantasies.
I still have hope...
Hope that one day I shall find my flower meadow.
- Mohomotši
rene burri. havana, cuba. 1993
Since I get asked a lot about where to learn more about the human brain and behaviour, I’ve made a masterpost of books, websites, videos and online courses to introduce yourself to that piece of matter that sits between your ears.
Books
The Brain Book by Rita Carter
The Pyschology Book (a good starter book) by DK
Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman
Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking by Susan Cain
The Man Who Mistook His Wife for a Hat by Oliver Sacks
The Brain: The Story of You by David Eagleman
The Brain That Changes Itself: Stories of Personal Triumph from the Frontiers of Brain Science by Norman Doidge
This Is Your Brain on Music by Daniel Levitin
The Autistic Brain by Richard Panek and Temple Grandin (highly reccomended)
Sapiens: A Brief History of Humankind by Yuval Noah Harari (not really brain-related, but it is single handedly the best book I have ever read)
Websites
@tobeagenius (shameless self-promotion)
How Stuff Works
Psych2Go
BrainFacts
Neuroscience for Kids (aimed at kids, but it has some good info)
New Scientist
National Geographic
Live Science
Videos & Youtube Channels
Mind Matters series by TedEd
Crash Course Psychology
SciShow Brain
Psych2Go TV
asapSCIENCE
Brain Craft
Its Okay To Be Smart
Online Courses
The Addicted Brain
Visual Perception and The Brain
Understanding the Brain: The Neurobiology of Everyday Life
Pyschology Of Popularity
Harvard Fundamentals Of Neuroscience
no they did not try to credit twerking to Miley Identity Crisis 😕😂 are y'all serious? its unbelievable how shit becomes mainstream for white ppl thru white ppl who misappropriate Black Culture. what does Miley have to do w twerking? this is something Black Women popularized — not to mention we're the main reason most any nb woman these days knows what twerking is letalone how to finesse it. if y'all don't get the entire fuck outta here just handing white girls accolades for shit Black Girls been doing. this is the same reason there was all the commotion around Kylie Gentrifier being in the WAP music video (considering white women were extremely vocal ab why her being in the video wasn't such a ‘big deal’ & that Black Women should basically chill out ab it). I am so tired of these white girls getting credit/recognition for & included in shit they literally have nothing to do w creatively. shit they literally be embarrassing themselves trying to copy & repurpose for white women who wish they were/try so hard to pretentiously present themselves as mixed if not just straight up black. what Miley boney ass did way back when at the VMAs in 2013 w Robin Thicke equally irrelevant ass that one time at the peak of her identity crisis did not put twerking on the map at all. period. like in no way, shape or form did miley cyrus create, influence or popularize twerking — & anybody dumb enough to believe otherwise is just stupid. for literally hundreds of years black women have been excluded in feminist circles & downgraded as simply being obscene, sexual props for black & white men alike, & white women have been stripping & misappropriating Black Femininity for entirely too damn long & getting away w it. Like it's so beyond me that we literally liberated these hoes by just being our whole entire fucking selves unapologetically whether anyone liked it or not & they stay tryna actually be us & everything we've ever stood & been condemned for. Then don't even know how to say thank you — or even just fairly acknowledge or praise us. COME UP, W YOUR OWN, SHIT. AND LEARN HOW TO ACCURATELY CREDIT BLACK PPL — PARTICULARLY BLACK WOMEN, YOU UNDERCOOKED BITCHES — FOR THE SHIT YALL LITERALLY COPY FROM US W/O VULTURING OFF OUR SHIT & CALLING IT YOUR OWN. Learn how to retain some individuality around yall's weird ass white obsessions w our culture. Like goddamn it gets so old having to say that on every social platform & in every real life instance white women are unfortunately a part of where they (or white ppl generally) just surmise that they're the original faces, representatives & aesthetics around Black creations & vibes. You're not. for the 937,394,274th time, have a seat. y'all are literally piggybacking off of every fucking move Black Women make these days w feverish obsession w our facial features, textured hair, our figures, our natural hair community, the variations in our complexions, the bhaddie looks & energies we singlehandedly branded for ourselves in the discriminatory corners nb women period have put us in due to how comparably far we diverge on the (rac/color)ist ass ‘white proximity spectrum’. Im so deadass tired of this typa shit.
3 Ways To Activate Your Main Character Energy🌸
𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐒𝐓𝐀𝐑 𝐨𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐨𝐰𝐧 𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐫𝐲!
I thought Ms. Robyn Rhianna Fenty would be the prime example of resting in your femininity and simply being the main character in your life! After watching The Savage Fenty’s 3rd fashion show on Amazon Prime Video, and seeing Rhianna walk out in the end (like the baddie she was). I could almost feel her energy oozing from my computer screen. Her sensuality, confidence & beauty was absolutely breathtaking! The way she glides across the stage like she owned it put me in a trance.
At that moment, it clicked in my head that I needed to make a blog post on Main character energy. The energy& Confidence that Rhianna has acquired over time IS OBTAINABLE! Of course, she did not become the femme fatale we both love, lust, and adore overnight! It took hard work and dedication!
The secret is, is that it’s all in your head! Our minds are the most powerful thing we own, we have the power to bend and change our reality! If you’ve been following my blog for a bit, I’m sure you’ve seen me reblog & like posts about manifesting. So, I will not bore you on that.I’ll sum this up in a sentence. If you change your mentality, and your thoughts ( both conscious and unconscious). Over time, along with hard work and dedication. The universe will change your reality!
3 𝐖𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐔𝐧𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐡 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐦𝐚𝐢𝐧 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐞𝐫'𝐬 𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐠𝐲 𝐢𝐧𝐬𝐢𝐝𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮!
Main character energy is simply putting yourself first in your own life! Its a common misconception is that “Main Character Energy” is all selfish & not Caring about others. This is NOT. TRUE. If you were a people pleaser like me long ago I had the habit of putting others’ needs before my own. After doing that for almost 19 years, a few months before my 20th birthday. I started my level-up journey & put myself first. Being a people pleaser at that time, used to have me feeling drained, I fell into a deep depression to the point where I neglected my hygiene!! This phenomenon is called your “Wounded Feminine” I’ll make a post on this phenomenon next week so stay tuned! But for now, here are some tips that helped for the past year and a half.
𝟏. 𝐒𝐓𝐎𝐏 𝐂𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐨 𝐢𝐫𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐞𝐯𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞!
Thanks to social media, we tend to have a habit of looking at the profiles of people who are no longer in our lives, reminiscing about the past.  This could be an ex-lover, friend or a family member(s). When you Focus on the past and not in the present moment, it will leave you lost, and feeling like the side character in your own story! You must get out of that bad habit energy! By following this strategy, it helped me to make myself the center of my life again & grow as a person. The people who are not in your life anymore, do not deserve your time, thoughts, and attention any more. Regardless if you walked out of their lives or if they left you. If you need to do a social media cleanse, do it! If you need to block people for your own sanity do it! You need to move forward in your life. Dwelling on the past will serve you no good. This is not a skill you will master overnight, I’m still trying to master this myself. However, once you begin doing this unconsciously, You will begin resting within your main character’s energy. This is the MOST important skill on this list.
𝟐. 𝐖𝐨𝐫𝐤 𝐨𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐡𝐨𝐛𝐛𝐢𝐞𝐬
Growing up, I used to have so many hobbies! However as a young adult, I looked at my current life and realized I don’t even have half of the hobbies I used to do as a kid. It’s quite a common phenomenon among most adults. I’m convinced it’s because of capitalism, social media & technology. We tend to work so much during the week, that we never have time to develop & work on our hobbies. The little time we have do have to spend, is with our eyes glued to a screen! Eating away hours, and hours of our lives. It sad if you think about it, all for the pursuit of money!
Think about all the things, you used to do as a child. It might have been painting, playing an instrument, video gaming, etc. Having a go-to activity that you can do solo, can remind you that you are capable of doing amazing things! It’s a great way to build your identity & social capital! When you have a hobby you enjoy, not only does it makes you look better in some people’s eyes. You’re consciously putting yourself first! THAT is exactly what it means to thrive in your main character energy
𝟑. 𝐑𝐨𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐳𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞
Romanticizing your life is a simple & cost-efficient way to rest in your Main Character Energy. A strategy I use to help me romanize my life, is by picking out: one or two things I enjoy, and gave me a sense of pleasure! An activity that uses all of your 5 senses. Alright let’s take a break from reading.. I want you take the time to think of at least two things in your life that gives you a sense of pleasure! 🙂  take note either on paper or in your head. Before 2021 ends my goal for you, is to engage in at least one activity that gives you a sense of pleasure! I’ll share an experience that recently helped me romanticize my life, and put me and In my main character energy!
Last month, I had the most amazing bath of my life! I got myself some cheap wine from my local grocery store; Filled up my bathtub with bubbles and lavender. (for relaxation) Poured myself a glass of Chardonnay, then I went straight inside my bathtub & played some Summer Walker. I completely Allowed myself just “to be” and relax. Engaging in all of my 5 senses. Just thinking about it makes me want to do it all over again!
When begin to romanize your life, you put yourself as the main character in your life! Start focusing on doing something that gives you joy throughout the day, and whatever makes you happy! ❤️
What are some things you do to feel like the Main Character in your life?
Start a discussion in the comments
Until next time my loves!
(chichi xo)
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It's the black slippers for meeeee. This is what progression looks like😭😭🤝🏾
precious adams and andile ndlovu photographed rehearsing as aurora and prince florimund in sleeping beauty by jared cameron baboo
Why has it not occurred to me to look up the black men #?????
Not every girl that wants to embody femininity is looking for a man or a husband
Normalize girls being feminine for there own sake, well-being, inner peace, growth and evolution
A lady’s femininity should be centered around herself ✨💕
Okay Japan is now officially on my travel list
being alone in a public restroom is like i own this place and then someone else walks in and it’s like get out of my fucking house
I hate to say it but English really is so fun
Words to describe facial expressions
Absent: preoccupied
Agonized: as if in pain or tormented
Alluring: attractive, in the sense of arousing desire
Appealing: attractive, in the sense of encouraging goodwill and/or interest
Beatific: blissful
Black: angry or sad, or hostile
Bleak: hopeless
Blinking: surprise, or lack of concern
Blithe: carefree, lighthearted, or heedlessly indifferent
Brooding: anxious and gloomy
Bug eyed: frightened or surprised
Chagrined: humiliated or disappointed
Cheeky: cocky, insolent
Cheerless: sad
Choleric: hot-tempered, irate
Darkly: with depressed or malevolent feelings
Deadpan: expressionless, to conceal emotion or heighten humor
Despondent: depressed or discouraged
Doleful: sad or afflicted
Dour: stern or obstinate
Dreamy: distracted by daydreaming or fantasizing
Ecstatic: delighted or entranced
Faint: cowardly, weak, or barely perceptible
Fixed: concentrated or immobile
Gazing: staring intently
Glancing: staring briefly as if curious but evasive
Glazed: expressionless due to fatigue or confusion
Grim: fatalistic or pessimistic
Grave: serious, expressing emotion due to loss or sadness
Haunted: frightened, worried, or guilty
Hopeless: depressed by a lack of encouragement or optimism
Hostile: aggressively angry, intimidating, or resistant
Hunted: tense as if worried about pursuit
Jeering: insulting or mocking
Languid: lazy or weak
Leering: sexually suggestive
Mild: easygoing
Mischievous: annoyingly or maliciously playful
Pained: affected with discomfort or pain
Peering: with curiosity or suspicion
Peeved: annoyed
Pleading: seeking apology or assistance
Quizzical: questioning or confused
Radiant: bright, happy
Sanguine: bloodthirsty, confident
Sardonic: mocking
Sour: unpleasant
Sullen: resentful
Vacant: blank or stupid looking
Wan: pale, sickly
Wary: cautious or cunning
Wide eyed: frightened or surprised
Withering: devastating
Wrathful: indignant or vengeful
Wry: twisted or crooked to express cleverness or a dark or ironic feeling