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Part 2: How to hunt. 

First, I go to the ladies’ room. This gives me the chance to scope out the men at the bar/lounge as I walk by. It will also give you a chance to collect yourself if you’re nervous. If you can (depending on the building’s layout) take the long way back. This will give you more time to look at any potential men and pick out a place to sit. Try to sit in the “middle” of empty seats. Ideally, you’ll want an empty seat to both your left and your right (so men can come and sit next to you).  

As you’re making your way to the bar (and to your chair) if you’ve already spotted a man that seems like he’s potential (and he’s at the bar). WALK PASS HIM AND SMILE SOFTLY AT HIM. He will watch you until you sit down at your seat so do this slowly (and practice at home if you have to). Once you’ve sat down look at him once again IN HIS EYES FOR 1-2 seconds and smile. 8 times out of 10 he will walk over to you (if he doesn’t I’ll explain what to do in the upcoming paragraphs). 

If you haven’t spotted anyone that has any potential yet, that’s fine. Have a seat and order your drink. While you’re waiting for your drink, take a look around. You want to make sure you’ve chosen a good “viewing” spot; somewhere you can see people and people can see you. Do not take your phone out and start tapping away. It’s okay to glance at it every now and then but remember: you’re there so men can talk to you. Gluing your face to the screen not only screams “DON’T TALK TO ME” but you may also miss out on POTS because you can’t see the men coming and going.

So let’s say that you’re sitting alone at the bar and men are coming in and you see someone that has potential (or it was the guy that you were looking at earlier but he hasn’t made his move yet). Look at him for 2 seconds. And if you’re a bit bolder, look at him strait in his eyes for ONE SECOND then slowly look him down AND back up until you reach his eyes again and then turn back around, look straight ahead and take a sip of your drink. Now, depending on how bold he is he’s going to either: 

a). walk up to you and introduce himself, 

b). he’s going to move closer to you or,

c). he’s going to stare or start glancing at you a lot.

If it’s © take a few sips from your drink and then look back over at him. Wait a second or two until he’s looking at you (if he isn’t already) look him in his eyes and smile. This can be a sexy smile or a bubbly smile, whatever you’re natural at. Turn back around and wait. He’s making his way over now. 

And if by chance he’s not, it’s his loss and you don’t want to be dating someone that so’s fucking clueless lol. But seriously, if by chance he’s doesn’t come over, don’t beat yourself up about it. He could be in a relationship. Or gay. Or just received some bad news. Or really insecure. It could be a number of things. Just gather yourself and get ready to do it again. 

However, let’s say that you’ve snagged his attention (because 9 times out of 10 you did) and he’s made his way over to talk to you. What do you say? This will depend on the guy. Some guys love to talk and all you have to do really is nod and smile. But not everyone’s like that. If the guy doesn’t automatically start talking after introductions are out the way, I will break the ice by giving him a compliment. Men hardly ever get complimented and it instantly makes you more likable. 

What to talk about? Most will ask the typical questions “What do you do, do you go to school,etc.” so it’s always good to have pre-planned answers for these. I also take the same question and throw it back at him.  

The biggest takeaway here is that you don’t want to talk too much. Remember that the goal here is that you’re trying to access if this guy is POT material. Plus, if you don’t overshare it makes you look more mysterious. If the guy isn’t a natural talker, you’re going to want to ask open ended questions. Open ended questions are questions that someone can’t really say yes or no to, they have to give more of a detailed answer. There’s a book you can get on Amazon called “Conversationally Speaking” that covers this. I also wrote about this on one of my old blogs, if I can find the post, I’ll send you the link and also edit this post with the link. 

Remember that you want to find out what he does for a living (that’s usually easily done by asking the standard “what do you do?” question) and you want to find out his interests and hobbies. I also think that finding out if he travels a lot is also a good indicator.

When he asks you a question, keep your answer simple and then REDIRECT and bring the conversation back to him. Even if you’re asking him the exact same question he asked you. You want him to do most of the talking.

So, let’s say that so far he’s looking like POT material and you want to keep the conversation flowing. A good way to do that is to pick one of his interests and start asking questions about it. And one of the best things you can say is “OH I’VE ALWAYS WANTED TO KNOW MORE ABOUT [INTEREST] BUT I’VE NEVER MET A MAN THAT COULD TELL ME MORE ABOUT IT” 

And now your work is done because he’s going to talk for the next 30 mins. And all you have to do is nod, smile and laugh. 

Okay, now let’s say that you want to wrap this up. He’s either boring you or you think he’s going to try and get you to come back to the room with him or maybe you’re just tired and you want to go. Or maybe you just want to leave and try another place. I’m not the type of person that can just jump up and tell someone “Oh I’ve gotta go!” But if you’re that type more power to you lol. Usually what I’ll do is excuse myself to the ladies’ room and I’ll either get a friend to text/call me in 10 mins or I’ll use an iPhone app to either send me a fake text message or a fake call in 10 minutes. Or I’ll just call Uber lol.

Which reminds me, whenever someone asks you what brings you to the bar/lounge/whatever ALWAYS TELL THEM YOU’RE MEETING A FRIEND. Or if you’re at a hotel, your friend is in the room and she’s taking forever and a day to get ready. For safety reasons I never like to tell someone (especially a man) that I’m somewhere by myself. 

You also get to use the “friend” as an excuse for when you’re ready to go. 

Don’t just get his cell phone number. The goal is to get the business card.

Sometimes I think it might be a tell when you ask for the card. Maybe that’s just me being paranoid or maybe I just look transparent when I’m asking. Who knows. But because of my uneasiness of asking for the card outright, I’ve done some odd things to get that card. If you’re more straightforward, good for you. But I’m not built like that so I do odd things lol.

Usually I’ll act like my phone is dead or updating the iOS. I’ve done this a few ways. When I’m ready to wrap things up and I know he’s going to ask for my number I have excused myself to the bathroom, turned my phone off and walked back to my seat and when it’s time for me to get his number I’ll start taping on my phone. “Oh crap, I think my phone is updating. Do you have a business card?” 

I’ve taken 2 phones (with identical cases so no one will notice lol) and when I go to the bathroom, I’ll turn one of them off, put the other one in a hidden compartment in my purse) and then pull out the “dead” one. I know it may seem like I’m doing too much but I always feel like when I ask for the card directly I’ve just outed myself as a gold digger lol. But that’s just me.

FYI – If you want to do this trick and you only have one phone make sure your uber/lyft has called you before you do this lol.

This also works if he leaves first. While he’s getting my number (make sure he’s getting your number first), I will grab my phone and indiscreetly turn it towards me and turn it off. And “Omg, my phone just went off to do that update thing – do you have a business card?” 

I have done some off the wall stuff to get that card.😆 But I can’t research “John who works at Wells Fargo” with a cell phone number that 10 other people have had before him. But I can research “John B. Smith - Assistant Director at Wells Fargo” with his work email address and phone numbers all over that card.

Okay, I think I covered free-styling at a bars/lounges- but I want to mention one more thing. Never leave your drink unattended. Safety first.   

My Birthday Energy:

I don’t know, This just gives me weird vibes. Like if your serious just pay my deposit now via cashapp or Venmo. Why should deposit be a issue. That’s a tell tall sign he’s probably a cop getting me to discuss my services with him in person just to arrest me. He probably will make me meet him, then talk about what I’m gonna do, hand me the money and arrest me. Ladies watch out for stuff like this. It’s better to be safe then sorry

Officially getting a bbl coming next year. I just sent my deposit to my doctor and I’m locked in for next year. 💕

Why does everybody hate on high end companions? Like I will always see hoes that charge 300 or less pick on companions that charge over 500.

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What is posted may be cringe. It may be unreasonable marketing. It may be braggadocious. It may be tacky. It may be confusing. It may even be downright stupid.

But it isn’t for you*.

It is an extension of fantasy. It is laborious consumption for clients who may or may not book you or the next woman because of it.

It isn’t necessary to overshare. It isn’t necessary to pump visual content every day. It isn’t necessary to produce lukewarm takes for the sake of being “edgy” to go hoe viral to extend reach.

It is okay to pick and choose what you choose to showcase about yourself. It’s okay to choose to be the best version of yourself. It’s okay to completely lie about everything. Who is going to know... unless they know?

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Manifesting a overnight client 🌹

How Many Appointments

Do you need to make your bills?

How many appointments do you need to make double your bills?

How many appointments do you need to make triple your bills?

How many appointments do you need to make quadruple your bills?

Let’s have an example:

Sally has expenses including her food/gas/bills/rent every month that total $3,500.00

For a lot of people that is a lot of money. For sex workers that is a lot of money, but for some sex workers that is what we can make in a week and some of us can make that in a day.

So let’s say that Sally charges $300 per hour. We aren’t going to go into multi-hour theories right now, just hours. So Sally needs 11.6 (Let’s round up to 12) one hour appointments to make her bills every month. So if Sally has weekends off she needs to see 3 clients a week to pay her bills. 

But let’s go monthly. 

One Month Bills = 12 clients (3 per week) $3,600 

Double her Bills = 24 Clients (6 per week) $7,200

Triple Her Bills = 36 Clients (9 per week) $10,800

Quadruple her bills = 48 Clients (12 per week) $14,400

So what should Sally do?

Sally needs to diversify and raise her rates (according to me) but how do you make that work? 

You create a business model that forces men who want to see you to pay a higher amount because they perceive it as a better value. 

So let’s say that Sally charges $300 for an hour but only $400 for 90 minutes and $500 for 2 hours. Most men would opt for the 90 minute or 2 hour appointment because it seems like the best value.

Now that Sally has changed her rate structure to include a more incentive driven pricing tier she will probably gain higher end clients who want to spend a little more money because they see it as being a good value.

And who doesn’t like a good value?

So now Sally needs to see 7 men a MONTH to reach her goal to pay her bills.

SEVEN as opposed to TWELVE

Sure, the appointment may be a bit longer, but realistically - she’s not doing THAT much more work in a 2 hour date that she’d do in a 1 hour date and she’s decreased her foot traffic by 5 clients.

One Month Bills = 7 clients (about 2 per week) decreased by 5 - $3,500 

Double her Bills = 14 Clients (about 4 per week) decreased by 10 - $7,000

Triple Her Bills = 21 Clients (between 5-6 per week) decreased by 15 - $10,500

Quadruple her bills = 28 Clients (7 per week) decreased by 20 - $14,000

So ladies, while you may want to START high in reality what you need to be thinking about is at what price point are men really booking you? 

I wrote a piece a while back called Overpricing Yourself In A Saturated Market that discusses your rate structure and how to properly structure your rates. With this in mind consider the above. While many women want to go all out and start out at $500 & above the truth is that what you need to be concerned about is at what price point are men comfortable booking you? 

I have the luxury of having a pretty solid client base. Most of my dates are dinner dates and overnight dates with well established clients. I do have the occasional date that is one hour or even two but for the most part over half of my dates consist of those that net me $750 or above. 

Your rates should not be an emotional decision. You should price yourself based on what the economic situation can bear in your home city and what you have figured, mathematically, that you need to earn to reach your goals.

If your goal is to make the $2000 you need for your bills and that is it… then do not price yourself out of what your current market can bear. Do not look at taking lower amounts of cash per appointment as an indicator of your self worth because it is not.

Again - who you are as a person is priceless - what you sell your time for has a price tag. You are not the number you put on the screen. You are not the rate that someone pays for your time. 

Now, why is it important to set a weekly goal for the clients that you need to see to meet your financial goals? 

Because you do not want to get burned out in this industry. Even making $14,000 a month and seeing 7 clients a week for $500 per appointment Sally can hit her mark early in the week and if needed - take some time off - because she has already hit her mark for making her monthly bills. 

The rest of the month should be Sally working to stack her cash, improve herself, take care of her family, go to school, travel & recharge.

If you do not have weekly goals you are limiting yourself. 

To be a successful escort you MUST give yourself time to recharge. It is as important as having condoms and lube. Do not think that “I won’t get burned out.” 

Because you will. 

We all do.

I do hope this encourages some of you to start setting goals and to seriously sit down and evaluate where your money is going and what you are doing with it. If you do not have a budget I sincerely suggest you make one. 

Personally I track all of my money via Intuit and for a quick app I use Spendbook.

If you have a favorite app for setting a budget please reblog or comment below with what you’re using and what you like about it. 

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