2020 Will Be My Year 💅🏾

Dating a broke man is stupid, marrying a broke man is even dumber and having children with a broke man is child abuse.

I have a certain “whatever happened to her” or “damn I haven’t seen her in forever, I wonder where she is” vibe to my aura.

this is the art of transmutation…you can’t know me because I am ever changing 🦋

I’m not a sugar baby anymore (hence the name change).

Formerly sugarbabynola, After almost 2 years in the bowl and 3 SDs later I’m giving up the whole pretense of the bowl. I started escorting last year and was mixing the two but I’ve finally decided to just settle on being a full time paid whore. I don’t have the patience for being a sugarbaby anymore, I don’t have the patience for men in general. Being an escort is fast, freeing and to the point. Men know that if they want to see me they HAVE to pay and they HAVE to pay whatever my rate is. No more trying to get money from men who don’t want to give it and it’s like pulling teeth to get a small £100 for groceries. Escorting has been a much better way for me to get money from men and we immediately both know what the stitch is. They’re here to have sex and a good time and I’m here to get money and leave. Two people leave happy and most of the time will see each other again, and again. Until I’m looking for something serious, I won’t be entering the bowl again. For now, I’m sticking to freestlying and escorting.

I freestlye for clients too. I go to hotels and get a drink at the bar and just wait. When I’m approached I lay the sexy on thick and get them talking about sex. I show them a few pictures on my website and say something like, “trust me I know every devilish way to make your toes curl” simultaneously showing them a picture of me with my nipples peaking through my lingerie or something. 8/10 the men give in and ask how much it’ll cost to spend the night with me. I double my rate and they pay it. They’re way too horny to turn me down. After they cum and the realisation sets in that they’ve paid for sex I’m long gone and probably onto the next hotel if the night is still young. Obviously sometimes it doesn’t work this well and they either haggle on price or say no that they don’t pay for sex, sometimes I press harder or I give him a kiss on the cheek and tell him to enjoy his night, depending on the vibe.

Anyway, was just keeping you guys up to date with what this whore is up to. Do what works for you darlings. The bowl is over saturated at this point in time. It seems that when you pretend you don’t want money men think you’re in it for just them and they get offended when you ask for money. But when you put yourself in a position where you demand their money off the bat, they’re more than willing and eager to give it to you.

Men are dumb. Just take their money anyway you can.

Source: Pinterest.

I’m on tumblr drunk commenting under post and I’m not sorry for that ❤️

Expect typos :)

Everyday, Black women and girls are missing and either never found or found dead.

Say HER name.

15 year old JOY LYNN. She is missing from Dallas, Texas. The police aren't doing anything, so please, if you suspect anything, found a clue, or whatever, come forward.

I’m so scared to tour. The thought of being alone in another state scares me. But I want some REAL money and my city is such a cheapskate

Part 2: How to hunt. 

First, I go to the ladies’ room. This gives me the chance to scope out the men at the bar/lounge as I walk by. It will also give you a chance to collect yourself if you’re nervous. If you can (depending on the building’s layout) take the long way back. This will give you more time to look at any potential men and pick out a place to sit. Try to sit in the “middle” of empty seats. Ideally, you’ll want an empty seat to both your left and your right (so men can come and sit next to you).  

As you’re making your way to the bar (and to your chair) if you’ve already spotted a man that seems like he’s potential (and he’s at the bar). WALK PASS HIM AND SMILE SOFTLY AT HIM. He will watch you until you sit down at your seat so do this slowly (and practice at home if you have to). Once you’ve sat down look at him once again IN HIS EYES FOR 1-2 seconds and smile. 8 times out of 10 he will walk over to you (if he doesn’t I’ll explain what to do in the upcoming paragraphs). 

If you haven’t spotted anyone that has any potential yet, that’s fine. Have a seat and order your drink. While you’re waiting for your drink, take a look around. You want to make sure you’ve chosen a good “viewing” spot; somewhere you can see people and people can see you. Do not take your phone out and start tapping away. It’s okay to glance at it every now and then but remember: you’re there so men can talk to you. Gluing your face to the screen not only screams “DON’T TALK TO ME” but you may also miss out on POTS because you can’t see the men coming and going.

So let’s say that you’re sitting alone at the bar and men are coming in and you see someone that has potential (or it was the guy that you were looking at earlier but he hasn’t made his move yet). Look at him for 2 seconds. And if you’re a bit bolder, look at him strait in his eyes for ONE SECOND then slowly look him down AND back up until you reach his eyes again and then turn back around, look straight ahead and take a sip of your drink. Now, depending on how bold he is he’s going to either: 

a). walk up to you and introduce himself, 

b). he’s going to move closer to you or,

c). he’s going to stare or start glancing at you a lot.

If it’s © take a few sips from your drink and then look back over at him. Wait a second or two until he’s looking at you (if he isn’t already) look him in his eyes and smile. This can be a sexy smile or a bubbly smile, whatever you’re natural at. Turn back around and wait. He’s making his way over now. 

And if by chance he’s not, it’s his loss and you don’t want to be dating someone that so’s fucking clueless lol. But seriously, if by chance he’s doesn’t come over, don’t beat yourself up about it. He could be in a relationship. Or gay. Or just received some bad news. Or really insecure. It could be a number of things. Just gather yourself and get ready to do it again. 

However, let’s say that you’ve snagged his attention (because 9 times out of 10 you did) and he’s made his way over to talk to you. What do you say? This will depend on the guy. Some guys love to talk and all you have to do really is nod and smile. But not everyone’s like that. If the guy doesn’t automatically start talking after introductions are out the way, I will break the ice by giving him a compliment. Men hardly ever get complimented and it instantly makes you more likable. 

What to talk about? Most will ask the typical questions “What do you do, do you go to school,etc.” so it’s always good to have pre-planned answers for these. I also take the same question and throw it back at him.  

The biggest takeaway here is that you don’t want to talk too much. Remember that the goal here is that you’re trying to access if this guy is POT material. Plus, if you don’t overshare it makes you look more mysterious. If the guy isn’t a natural talker, you’re going to want to ask open ended questions. Open ended questions are questions that someone can’t really say yes or no to, they have to give more of a detailed answer. There’s a book you can get on Amazon called “Conversationally Speaking” that covers this. I also wrote about this on one of my old blogs, if I can find the post, I’ll send you the link and also edit this post with the link. 

Remember that you want to find out what he does for a living (that’s usually easily done by asking the standard “what do you do?” question) and you want to find out his interests and hobbies. I also think that finding out if he travels a lot is also a good indicator.

When he asks you a question, keep your answer simple and then REDIRECT and bring the conversation back to him. Even if you’re asking him the exact same question he asked you. You want him to do most of the talking.

So, let’s say that so far he’s looking like POT material and you want to keep the conversation flowing. A good way to do that is to pick one of his interests and start asking questions about it. And one of the best things you can say is “OH I’VE ALWAYS WANTED TO KNOW MORE ABOUT [INTEREST] BUT I’VE NEVER MET A MAN THAT COULD TELL ME MORE ABOUT IT” 

And now your work is done because he’s going to talk for the next 30 mins. And all you have to do is nod, smile and laugh. 

Okay, now let’s say that you want to wrap this up. He’s either boring you or you think he’s going to try and get you to come back to the room with him or maybe you’re just tired and you want to go. Or maybe you just want to leave and try another place. I’m not the type of person that can just jump up and tell someone “Oh I’ve gotta go!” But if you’re that type more power to you lol. Usually what I’ll do is excuse myself to the ladies’ room and I’ll either get a friend to text/call me in 10 mins or I’ll use an iPhone app to either send me a fake text message or a fake call in 10 minutes. Or I’ll just call Uber lol.

Which reminds me, whenever someone asks you what brings you to the bar/lounge/whatever ALWAYS TELL THEM YOU’RE MEETING A FRIEND. Or if you’re at a hotel, your friend is in the room and she’s taking forever and a day to get ready. For safety reasons I never like to tell someone (especially a man) that I’m somewhere by myself. 

You also get to use the “friend” as an excuse for when you’re ready to go. 

Don’t just get his cell phone number. The goal is to get the business card.

Sometimes I think it might be a tell when you ask for the card. Maybe that’s just me being paranoid or maybe I just look transparent when I’m asking. Who knows. But because of my uneasiness of asking for the card outright, I’ve done some odd things to get that card. If you’re more straightforward, good for you. But I’m not built like that so I do odd things lol.

Usually I’ll act like my phone is dead or updating the iOS. I’ve done this a few ways. When I’m ready to wrap things up and I know he’s going to ask for my number I have excused myself to the bathroom, turned my phone off and walked back to my seat and when it’s time for me to get his number I’ll start taping on my phone. “Oh crap, I think my phone is updating. Do you have a business card?” 

I’ve taken 2 phones (with identical cases so no one will notice lol) and when I go to the bathroom, I’ll turn one of them off, put the other one in a hidden compartment in my purse) and then pull out the “dead” one. I know it may seem like I’m doing too much but I always feel like when I ask for the card directly I’ve just outed myself as a gold digger lol. But that’s just me.

FYI – If you want to do this trick and you only have one phone make sure your uber/lyft has called you before you do this lol.

This also works if he leaves first. While he’s getting my number (make sure he’s getting your number first), I will grab my phone and indiscreetly turn it towards me and turn it off. And “Omg, my phone just went off to do that update thing – do you have a business card?” 

I have done some off the wall stuff to get that card.😆 But I can’t research “John who works at Wells Fargo” with a cell phone number that 10 other people have had before him. But I can research “John B. Smith - Assistant Director at Wells Fargo” with his work email address and phone numbers all over that card.

Okay, I think I covered free-styling at a bars/lounges- but I want to mention one more thing. Never leave your drink unattended. Safety first.   

The Jetsetting chick and IT girl guide

This is a guide for girls wanting whale daddies and long term relationships or to live like a Russian IT girl. This is for girls who are interested in the jetset lifestyle. Yachts, parties, international travel and galas.Who want to do more than date men.This is by no means easy. And not for the faint of heart

1. You

You are your biggest investment. And if you want investment then you invest in yourself!!!!You’re much more likely to go to a store that is clean and presentable cause it shows they’ve actually put effort into making the place look decent for customers. Same with you.

You are best your asset so read the following

2. Your look

Looks matter. But you don’t have to be beautiful, just attractive and captivating. We all like things that appeal to our senses. Notice how some dudes have fetishes for legs, heels, tight dresses and long hair, that’s how powerful the physical is!

Ideally, you are likely to be a show stopper, luxurious flowing hair, good skin, you look amazing in your fitted clothing and your body looks great. You dress to accentuate your best features. You do not neglect details and your nails,makeup and scent are on fleek. You look expensive and alluring.

3. Career

A lot of your mega successful SB’s hide behind their businesses and careers.Most successful men are career driven so this is a fairly easy way to meet them & owning a business no matter how small gives you endless excuses to go to networking events and business socials all over the globe.

 Any job can be turned into a goldmine Here are some industries and careers you can look into.

Real estate/property

Makeup and fashion

Chef and waitress

Realtor, designer

Personal shopper

Air hostess

Dancer and musician

Hair stylist

Adult entertainment(stripping for example)

Personal assistant

Oil and gas industry

Hostess

Jobs in business district

4. Socialize

Socializing is at the heart of everything. Knowing the right people is essential if you want to get invited to a yacht party in France.

A lot of these sites are trashy and the men have no tangible assets. It is not like it used to be. These men often do not live lavishly. Do what Russian women do and go outside. They practically plant their selves where rich guys are. They’re not sat down waiting for a inbox message. Its basic mathematics, the more options, the more chance you stand of getting what you want. Your social life needs to be a daily thing. You could

Go to auctions

Exclusive nightclubs

Take art classes

Volunteer

Get involved with local politics

Visit country/ private members clubs

Investment seminars

Dine and drink in exclusives wealthy areas

Learn sailing, assistant, skiing, tennis, golf

Black tie events- make an effort to go to galas, races and balls

Opera, galleries, theater and ballet

Move, travel and or live a wealthy area

Gyms in rich areas

Dance classes -some rich folk love to dance

Art classes

Hotel bars

Upscale supermarkets

5. Perceived value

You need to be good at something. It is a market place out here. We are conditioned to want the best and be surrounded by it. And when you’re someone who is successful, you’re gonna be drawn to success in others

Put yourself and talents on the limelight. If you are beautiful and tend to stand out, act as if you are the perfect eyecandy. Maybe you are domineering and bossy which may be a good thing for someone tired of having their ass kissed all day.Maybe you are super intelligent and a real  delight to a hardcore scholar.If you are super funny and nice to be with, show it off. Own the hell out of your skills and best attributes and you’ll attract the right people, It has been proven time and time again that’s there’s no real different between some expensive brands and regular ones. Only the perceived value.

Your reputation, attributes and persona makes your perceived value. act royal , get treated royal

6. Fit in

Ancient courtesans groomed their selves to fit in with the upper echelon. They would train for months to years. Nobody questioned their motives cause did what the rich did and as a result became one of them. They were often accepted into the toughest of circles and able to gain access to wealthiest of men for this reason.

Learn luxury living inside out. Learn about watches, cars, property and expensive and fancy shit.Eat what the rich eat if you can afford to. Go where they go. Party where they party. Read what they read.Don’t lie and say you’re accustomed to luxury living when you don’t know your Chanel from Cartier. Which brings me to….

7. Etiquette

Learn how to speak, act and present yourself. Learn your basic etiquette. You’ll be amazed at how simple things can be perceived as rude or classless.Always be learning and be in motion. Learn several subjects and do courses. Expand your vocabulary.

8. Social skills

You need to master social skills from eye contact to tone of voice. You need or be an amazing conservator. You need to learn how to diffuse tension.You need to be friendly and approachable, You need to be able to discuss some topics with  passion at any one time.

Then you can move on to heavier things like manipulation, seduction and persuasion.

9. You

don’t force yourself into a lifestyle you may not enjoy.Take care of number one. always take time off to look after yourself.You don’t need a man to live a fancy lifestyle, you may just want to network.

Getting Multi Hours

Lets say you’re an online independent provider. You currently do 6 appointments a week at $300/hr for $1800/wk. You make lots of money but you’re starting to get burnt out. Your friend, Michelle, does 3 appointments a week at $250/hr for $1700/wk. She’s charges less than you, but she’s also working a lot less than you do while making almost the same amount. How? Extended appointments.

For most, extended appointments are things providers appreciate when it happens, but most  don’t know how to market themselves in order to get more extended appointments.

1. Your image

You have to have photos that show you’re capable of being taken out. Lingerie photos are great and all, but do you have any photos in day dresses? In evening wear? How can someone take you to a restaurant if he’s afraid you might show up in 8 inch clear heels, a 7 inch miniskirt and a bralette? Especially if you’re young, you have to show that you can dress up and look for the part.

2. Your words

Does your entire website text talk about sex? Whether direct or indirectly, tweets and blogs and websites that focus on how sultry and sexy you are isn’t going to inspire a guy to want to hang out with you longer than it takes him to bust a nut. If you have passions, whatever they may be, fold them into your website. Tweet about them. Let your clients know that there’s more to you than La Perla and Chanel. Don’t go political, but in general activism is a great way to show you’re more than just a warm body. If you want men to see you as more than sex, you have to show it. 

3. During the sessions

Many clients may book a 1 hour session, with the intent of booking longer in the future if things go well. As well as being a vixen in the bed, you have to appeal to these men’s minds. This is the perfect time to convert a client from a one hour guy into an extended appointment man. Offer up some wine and conversation, get to know him and figure out what he likes. I once had a client who was a runner and spent forever always talking about it. I got him a $20 Milestonepod to track his pace and he was so excited about it that he asked me to go grab lunch and what was supposed to be a 90 minute session turned into a 3 hour session. And from then on all our dates included food or events and were at least 2 hours. All it cost me was listening and $20 of effort. 

4. Get Creative

If you have clients that are afraid of being seen in public with you, find a way to spend more time together. A client of two years had a standing 3 hour biweekly date where we watched silent films for most of the session, laugh talk  and order room service. If a client can’t do certain things, figure out a way around them, figure out what it would take to get him to spend more time with you.

Takecare,

From Mari With Love.