Splitting Babyyyyyyyyy

a while back i read a post along the lines of “if you feel like everyone hates you, it’s time to rest… if you feel like you hate everyone else, it’s time to eat” and honest to god i’ve never used any piece of advice more than i have that one

sometimes i just want to talk to people and it being fun rather than me oversharing and killing the convo

as much as wei wuxian lacks any sense of self preservation and just like the bare minimum level of self worth required to value himself and his own safety/comfort I don't think he actually like. hates himself. at least not in the traditional sense

I often see him characterized in fanon as constantly and very Bluntly being like "oh I'm a bad bad man who doesn't deserve any love or affection" even tho that... doesn't really match his character? like the man obviously has self worth problems and values his life and comfort below literally everybody elses, often to a harmful and deadly degree, and the way he treats and thinks of himself is clearly by no means healthy, but I certainly don't think it manifests in the way people like to depict it where wei wuxian actively has these desperately tragic self depreciating thoughts that literally Spell Out his lack of self worth to himself

he spends So much time and effort really driving home the whole "I'm just an arrogant shameless genius" act and being in complete denial of any negative emotions he has that it would be incredibly out of character for wei wuxian to sit around thinking "oh I'm so terrible and I don't deserve love or kindness because I'm such an awful awful man" much less to Say That Outloud To A Loved One

wei wuxian KNOWS that he's talented. he KNOWS that he's a prodigy and a genius and near unmatched in his skill and, even after his resurrection when he's a little less arrogant and a little more humble, he certainly is not afraid to say as much to other people or to show off. he doesn't doubt his abilities or his charm or his cleverness, it's not even that he doesn't value them, he simply doesn't put Worth to any of it. he doesn't see himself as undeserving of love and kindness and affection, just Less deserving. anything else in the world is more deserving, above him and his desires and his comfort and his safety. he doesn't hate himself, doesn't even dislike himself, he simply doesn't care for himself

even when he accepts harsh punishment too quick and without protest, it's not a form of blatant self hatred or self harm, it's a manifestation of his feelings of not being worth the effort of being spared. it probably even comes from a place of valuing himself "Too Much". because wei wuxian is very talented and very smart and he is the very best at everything he does, so if somebody he places any value or trust in decides to punish him, well, then he really must have done something terrible ("at least I could be killed by you - that would be worth it" and all that) he simply has no affection or tenderness to give himself. that is not synonymous with hatred or even with apathy

wei wuxians lack of self worth does not manifest in self depreciating thoughts or monologues about how nobody can or should love him, because for as much as wei wuxian talks, he is a man of action

wei wuxian does not hate himself, but he will provoke wen chao and accept a beating and a night in a cell with grace if it keeps others safe. everyone else at the wen indoctrination camp remaining unharmed is worth one night of his blood and tears

wei wuxian does not hate himself, but he is so very prepared to let madam yu cut off his hand, so very prepared learn to use a sword with his left, if it will spare yunmeng. everything he loves and wants to protect is worth more than a hand, no matter how unfair that punishment may be

wei wuxian does not hate himself, but he will give jiang cheng his core. because jiang chengs happiness is worth more than everything he has dedicated his life to, everything he has spent countless hours becoming the very best at. to see jiang cheng smile again, to see jiang yanli stop worrying and simply be able to rest again, that is worth far more to him than anything a golden core could offer

wei wuxian does not hate himself, but he will let the world believe he has been cast from his family to spare them. wei wuxian does not hate himself, but he will not tell wen qing he is injured, because his blood is not worth her worry

wei wuxian does not hate himself, but when the wen remnants die for him, when jiang yanli perishes by his hand, however indirect, well. those losses and those crimes are far too heavy and far too abhorrent for his life to be worth anything in the wake of them

and wei wuxian does not hate himself, but he will let the world believe for a second time that he is a liar and a villain and a monster if that will spare even just lan wangjis name. wei wuxians reputation is worth far less to him than lan wangjis

wei wuxian does not hate himself, of course wei wuxian does not hate himself. he loves himself, actually. it's just that wei wuxian does not love himself back, and he certainly loves everybody else far more

women in S.T.E.M (smuggling, treason, embezzlement, murder)

my advice to the kids is that they should fight people on the playground while they can still get away with it without legal consequences

thinking about wwx growing lotuses in the burial mounds, and jc rebuilding lotus pier, and jzx making a lotus garden for jyl. thinking about the homesick children of lotus pier building new lotus piers wherever they are because they can’t go home to the one they grew up in. but it’s never the same because they aren’t together

How many times do we have to say it: SELF-DIAGNOSIS IS VALID.

Official diagnosis take time and money lots of people don't have. Medical treatment and professionals are often biased against minorities. Medical professionals often don't know or don't care about nuanced or rare disorders, and either aren't able to diagnose or aren't willing to diagnose them because of stupid reasons like they don't believe they're real, even though they're in the DSM.

In short, if you disagree with self-diagnosis, if you think self diagnosis isn't valid, if you assume self-diagnosed people don't have what they say they have... shut up. Especially if you don't even have that condition/disorder.

People assume that doctors and medical professionals are perfect because they went to school for a long time. And yeah, if you can, it's best to try to get professional help. But this isn't always possible. Often because medical professionals can be STUPID BIGOTS. Trust me, I've met a lot of them.

Look, if you have the disorder they're claiming to have and know that they're spreading misinformation and just making fun of the disorder, that's different. You have the right to call that out.

If you don't have the disorder and suspect that that's happening, keep in mind: you could be wrong, and if you are and you say something, you could damage their mental health. It's best to listen/ask others with the disorder/condition about the situation.

If you think self diagnosis is just people seeing a tiktok about a condition and deciding that they have it or to pretend that they have it, and you bully people accordingly... SHUT UP. Seriously.

Self-diagnosis often takes months of research and self-reflection. The research is often a combination of reputable medical sources and testimonies from people with personal experiences with the disorder/condition in question. It is not done for attention, or for a joke; it's done so that people can finally get answers for their symptoms, find a community, and find supports and advice that works for them.

tldr; It's not your place to judge others for their conditions, diagnosed or not. You'll never fully know what they're going through.

Self-diagnosed people, I support and care about all of you. You are loved and valid, and I hope you have/find the support you need.

spoiler: they did not keep it sexy OR mindful

the untamed text posts [3/?] - 3zun edition

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