Contrary to popular belief, “hating praise” is not just a PDA thing. There are many reasons it could not sit right with someone.
It’s also assumed that people like this just hate all praise, but that’s not true either. What we hate is feeling manipulated, or lied to, or monitored, etc.
I mean, do you realize how much adults are encouraged to use praise to manipulate kids and people in care?? We’re supposed to use it to get more of the behaviors we like, and to promote a “growth mindset,” and to encourage them to stick with activities we think are good for them, and so on and so on.
That’s so much trying to get people to do what we want them to do! Is it really any wonder that praise could end up feeling disingenuous and manipulative after a while? How often are we just genuinely appreciating something they’ve done or who they are as a person, and how are they to know the difference?
If you have someone in your life who reacts badly when you praise them, maybe take a look at your motivations or the way you’re doing it instead of assuming they are the one with the problem. Maybe there’s something like low self esteem or rejection sensitivity skewing their perception, or maybe their perception is just fine and they’re picking up on your ulterior motives (and they don’t appreciate it!).
And please know that you don’t have to withdraw all praise. Everyone wants to feel like they’re good at *something* and that people like what they do. Just wait until it’s wanted, and make sure it’s genuine, with no expectations attached.
04. 𝘣𝘶𝘯𝘤𝘰𝘳𝘥 - google docs oc template
a discord profile-based aesthetic google docs oc template for multimuses including three different colour-themed variants in blue, lilac and pink. this document features many images and drawings such as a fully customisable server, group chat and user names plus icons, all created by me! feel free to edit this as much as you wish, but please do not remove my credit!
this is my first ever multi-muse google document, I've been wanting to make a document themed around discord for a while, and I decided to just put the two together. I hope you guys enjoy it!! please feel free to check out my other google documents too on my payhip and tumblr profile website. :)
notes/rules
editing and modifications are welcome once you purchase the template.
all drawings in this document are custom and created by me. If you wish to take elements from this document, you MUST credit me as inspiration or the creator of said elements.
this document is massive, so there may be delays in loading images, drawings or text.
I do not recommend changing the text, as it can throw off the entire document.
resizing or moving objects/images can throw off the document, so be careful.
do not remove my watermark/credits
please like or reblog this post if you use my template! ♡
how to use
click the source link above (or go here)
purchase the google document and open the note attached in the download
copy and paste the link to open the document
go to file → make a copy
how to edit
in order to most easily put in your own images, go to replace image then choose how you wish to replace it (either uploading a file or via the image's URL)
this document includes drawings. to edit, double-click the drawing/image on the bottom left or top right corner, then click the edit tab. this will take you to a page where you can replace, edit or delete features of the image
Tumblr, Pinterest and Spotify are portals that lead me further inside my own head, to a world of my own making.
The last one had Genesis looking wide-eyed, eyebrows arching. “Poppy m—opium? You make opium?” “Absolutely not,” Claudia corrected, squaring her shoulders, raising her chin as she scooted in close, pulling her gloves up and reaching into the bowl to scoop up a bit of the mixture with her fingers. “Why, that would be a crime, Mr. Rhapsodos. Do I look like a criminal to you?” “I’m beginning to wonder,” he replied, an uneven smile barely tugging at the corner of his mouth. Claudia just laughed.
u should read smoke and mirrors, it has genesis and weed
need to become a guy who exclusively does evil commissions. like this
WILL DRAW ✓ mecha ✓ gore ✓ furry ✓ nsfw
WILL NOT DRAW X ocs X fanart X simple backgrounds
Actually, I need people to understand that we have amnesia. Not the full mind wipe amnesia that people often think of when they hear the word. We are going to forget things easily and often. No, I won't always be able to tell when or if something happened. No, I won't always remember what I've already done or what I'm supposed to do. No, I won't always remember that one memory from 5 years ago. WE HAVE FUCKING AMNESIA
a little comic(?) about holding back & being trans online
The people who insist that you have to be anti-endo/cannot be pro-endo or even neutral in order to access CDD resources, be those informational posts or discord servers or communities or anything else, are part of the problem of making it really hard to even separate CDDs from plurality as a concept. The more you double down on making these resources inaccessible to others with a CDD who have a different opinion from you on endogenic plurality, the more you conflate that endogenic plurality and CDDs are tied to each other.
Like, if your point is to curate a space for *yourself* where *you* feel safe and comfortable, that's one thing. But if you're out there making "communities" and "resource posts" and the like for the wider public, these things absolutely should not be gatekept. If specific individuals are in these spaces spreading harm and misinformation, then sure I understand wanting to keep other safe from people like that. But someone having a pro-endo stance and not even necessarily advertising that or not even engaging in conversation about endogenic plurality shouldn't be kept from CDD spaces.
i don't know man, i just wish that we could [suddenly realising i'm coming dangerously close to expressing a real and earnest thought instead of filtering everything through several layers of intangible running bits] blow up the entire world. or something.
ok so i like did a thing ... yeah to use it just go to file > make a copy and edit it as u wish. please leave credit
( this is my call for an rpg. pls. i am begging u. i want to join an rpg so bad )
97'. they/them. queer and disordered. here for a bit of a cry, and not much else.
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