Melting Lamps By Kumbhglass

People: Yeah being outed can be really dangerous and no one should ever be outed against their will

Also people: If youre a trans dude who passes you should always out yourself so that other people know you arent a big scary man but also out yourself so if you dont pass we know you are a scary man

I will say as someone who previously followed genderqueerdykes before shit was brought to my attention like a week ago, I think a lot of people don't know and it's important to like, kindly inform these people of what's going on with actual examples of shit someone has said/done, especially given how rampant baseless accusations towards trans folks of all flavours are. Because some of us may not be following them super closely (as was my case), or may not have been doing so for a super long time, or maybe even are so wrapped up in their own hurt that they need someone else to tell them to take a step back and think.

When I first saw accusations towards genderqueerdykes, it was being misgendered on anon in a very hostile tone and no evidence of any claims was provided, so I immediately went on the defensive and figured it was someone acting in bad faith. When someone else actually responded and provided shit, I was like, shit, this is, uh, horrifically transmisogynyistic, and I'm glad it was brought to my attention, I will be blocking it.

So I think it's best to approach these people, if you feel safe doing so, and provide an explanation + evidence. Some of us are just fr out of the loop.

I feel like there's a decently large group of people in trans discourse who, in my mind, if you still engage with is a little suspicious.

Obviously I know that most people don't always know whats going on, and callouts as a whole suck, you can't possibly know always when someone's a raging transandrophobe or transmisogynist or general bigot. So BOD is important.

But with a few names I feel like it should kind of become public knowledge. People like genderqueerdykes or thicced-witch kind of people.

Like obviously there's nothing wrong with not knowing something.

I'm just saying. Like, don't most people know atp?

Hmm

I just saw a critique of “oh so transmascs can use a word which is clumsy in its etymology to talk on their oppression and we can’t criticize that, but TME/TMA is able to be criticized on that basis?”

And… it’s kinda different when you actually put these two things in context.

TMA/TME as a binary like cis/trans or multispec/mono or aspec/allo is on a first-stage of language creation, as far as I’m aware. There hasn’t been a 6+ year-long history of trying new words in the face of people nitpicking etymology while having the actual issue behind the needing a new term not engaged with in the meantime which proves that the word isn’t the actual problem and that this is only in-bad-faith in order to shut us up.

I understand the frustration, I even get a knee-jerk reaction to being told that the language you’re using is maybe not the best language (especially considering some of these people were the ones actively utilizing that tactic against transmascs wanting to speak on our issues; they’d be extra prone to be wary of this tactic). But a critique of the word choice itself being harmful isn’t in-and-of-itself a bad-faith critique, especially when it’s on a first attempt at the language and not a nitpick about etymology but a problem with labelling other people’s experiences as being totally exempt for them.

Like. On the surface you can make the “oh so transmascs don’t have to be perfect in their language but transfems do?” argument. But when you actually dig into what’s being discussed it really isn’t that simple.

i go on instagram. i see that them magazine has posted an article about how to have sex with transmascs (written by a transmasc). i go to the comments. people complain about, amongst other things, how the first paragraph is transmisognistic and that there's no similar article for transfems. i go to the article. the first paragraph has a line about how transmascs are erased, with a link to an article about erasure. i leave instagram and put my head directly through the nearest wall

'You're a child you didn't live through the ages of REAL transphobia like us. Thats why you became a tmra!'

The trans kid in question, who is from the global south.

TRANS MEN ARE NOT CIS WOMEN TRANS MEN ARE NOT CIS WOMEN TRANS MEN ARE NOT CIS WOMEN TRANS MEN ARE NOT CIS WOMEN TRANS MEN ARE NOT CIS WOMEN TRANS MEN ARE NOT CIS WOMEN TRANS MEN ARE NOT CIS WOMEN TRANS MEN ARE NOT CIS WOMEN TRANS MEN ARE NOT CIS WOMEN TRANS MEN ARE NOT CIS WOMEN TRANS MEN ARE NOT CIS WOMEN

SOME TRANS MEN MIGHT ALSO IDENTIFY AS CIS WOMEN BUT THAT IS NOT THE MAJORITY OF TRANS MEN

AND MOST OF US ARE NOT TREATED AS CIS WOMEN JUST BECAUSE WE DONT PASS

A LOT OF US ARE INTERSEX AND HAVE HIRSUTISM OR ARE VERY VISIBLY TRANS OR GENDER NONCONFORMING AND WE GET TREATED LIKE SHIT FOR IT BY SOCIETY BECAUSE WE ARE QUEER AND OPPRESSED

STOP PRETENDING LIKE YOU KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT THE EXPERIENCE OF TRANS MEN WHEN YOURE A TRANS WOMAN THAT DOESNT KNOW A GODDAMN THING ABOUT US OR OUR OPPRESSION

CALLING TRANS MEN "CIS WOMEN" IS SO DEEPLY TRANSPHOBIC ON ITS OWN JESUS FUCKING CHRIST

AND I’D NEVER WANT TO COMPLICATE YOUR HEART

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13/37: Nepeta Leijon

watching y’all shamelessly send transmascs and trans men death and rape threats for daring to talk about their oppression is fucking wild btw. There’s a transmasc confessions account that got so many fucking death/rape threats that one mod had to leave tumblr for a while and the other had to make a post being like “hey uhm so we’re both minors. Y’all have been telling teens to kill themselves. Hope you feel good about yourselves!”

Genuinely what the fuck is wrong with you people.

It's like some people think intersectionality is a math problem?

Trans + man = cancels out so no oppression

Trans + woman = double oppression

And that's just? Not how real life works? Like you can't come to a conclusion via logic math problem and then insist it's reality because it makes sense inside the theory you've crafted.

You have to check it actually aligns with what is happening out in the world - Which is trans men sharing all the ways systemic and institutional transphobia targets us and affects us.

You can't just tell us to shut up because you like your theory better and you're upset our lived experience messes it up.

You can't tell us we don't experience what we live every day?