Arospec - Blog Posts
!!! this me
i realized that the lesbian + aro flags have the same number of stripes so here. either an aro lesbian flag or a lesbian / aro solidarity flag!
Here are some Pride Planets!! There are 28 in total and I will link the posts of the other 20!
1. Demiromatic 2. Demisexual 3. Greysexual
4. Abrosexual 5. Polysexual 6. Omnisexual
7. Polyamorous 8. Gender non-comforming
Pm me for any flags I missed or any personal combination of flags!
Here are some Pride Planets!! There are 28 in total and I will link the posts of the other 18!
1. Pride 2. Lesbian 3. Gay man 4. Bisexual
5. Pansexual 6. Trans 7. Non binary 8. Asexual
9. Aromantic 10. Intersex
Pm me for any flags I missed or any personal combination of flags!
LMFAOOO im demiromantic but LITERALLY THIS
*remembers im aro*
this is fucking real.
I will remove pieces of fuzz from your clothing, gemptly bite your cheek without using my teeth, nuzzle you and purr and coo after being separated for the unholy amount of time that is five minutes.
rb if your primary love language or one of your primary love languages is physical touch and has nothing to do with sex.
i mean physical touch like hand holding, picking the lint and hair off of each other’s clothing, hair ruffling, hugs, random high fives, etc.
shoutout to the aromantics who don't feel love at all. shoutout to the aromantics who feel love deeply but not in the way society wants us to. shoutout to the aromantics who are repulsed by romance. shoutout to the aromantics who are romance positive. shoutout to aromantics who have conflicting feeling about romance. shoutout to aromantics that are neutral about romance. shoutout to aromantics in qprs. shoutout to aromantics who aren't in qprs. shoutout to aromantics who are also asexual or aspec. shoutout to aromantics who are allosexual. shoutout to aromantics with conflicting identities. shoutout to aromantics who are questioning. shoutout to aromantics who are in relationships. shoutout to aromantics who are happy not in a relationship.
shoutout to every aromantic person reading this because you are valid and a welcome part of the queer community no matter who you are or what you identify as. you are so loved and appreciated <33
the moment of being arospec where, you want it to be known that you are interested in having a romantic relationship, so that someone interested in you can hopefully confess their feelings, so that you can finally develop these romantic feelings and reciprocate them, and maybe get into a romantic relationship with them, but in the end never actually doing it, because you are afraid that people will call you not actually aromantic and just faking it
mf called me out with all three 💀💀
Sending love to the neurodivergent people who are forced to socialise at Christmas, even when overstimulated. To the enbies who aren't out of the closet yet and have to endure getting misgendered and referred to as their dead name. To the closeted aro/aces who have to endure the "so do you have a partner yet?" questions. Your struggles are all completely valid, and I'm sorry for anyone who has this problem every year. While you may not have a good relationship with your relatives, I hope your Christmas is at least enjoyable. Have a merry Christmas my loves ^^
seeing my friends get into relationships/situationships around me is so weird like, what do you mean you actually want all that stuff?? werent we talking about cool books a while back and how we will live in a mansion together as besties forever together?? WHAT DO YOU MEAN THERES A MAN IN THE EQUATION??
WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU HAVE A LOVE OF LIFE-
And in a more serious vein, when that happens- you simply stop being the first priority. For allo people, their relationship will always be that. the top priority. And that. that my friends, is the only part about being aromantic I always hate. "Everyones falling in love and im just falling behind."
Thought of this while taking a walk in park and listening to Conan Gray...
As more and more time passes, I feel more and more attached to the few representations in media we have. Being on a-spec is awesome in its own way, but I only wish if I could see more of it in media. Not because I wanna feel seen. But because I wanna see what future might look like for someone on a-spec who doesn't want any sort of partnership. I saw some posts earlier talking about how a "single" life is extremely hard to sustain in current economy and that's extremely true. I also remember my friend saying "you can always adopt kids! You need someone to look after you in old age!" And... she was somewhat right, in a way. I don't want kids, but... what exactly is my future going to be like? Who is going to be there for me in a world where romantic relationships are prioritized before anything else? Its just all very very... in dark. There is no movie or book to look at and say "hey! Thats the kind of life I want!" Because every single media shows a version of life that isn't for me. I talk to my friends about wanting to live as a "single queer cat lady" but... realistically, how sustainable and possible is that?
Is it just me or do other people get intense imposter syndrome within the aromantic everything. I figured out I was aro after four relationship where we either never talked or I overcominsated to an over bearing point. I feel so isolated from everything. Like I'm on the edge. O always see people talk about never understanding romantic attraction but I understand it. I understand wanting to be close to someone like that. But I don't feel romantic part. Yaa idk
Just logged on to tumblr to see that people have been saying aromatic and asexual people are not queer. Like...yes we are. As an asexual person it hurts me to see people in my community telling me I don't belong. And those people are mostly comming from twitter.
Please leave asexuals and aromatics alone. They are apart of the LGBTQIA community and matter as much as the rest of the community.
Thanks for coming to my ted talk.
-A trans, gay, asexual human
What if God was an agender aromantic asexual aplatonic entity
valentines day is almost over aros we attack at dawn
Realising that I am an aromantic was actually so freeing. Like yeah, at the beginning I've had not the best start with figuring out how to escape relationships I have been in, but damn I'll ever change the way things are going right now.
My whole life I was surrounded with weird for me expectations: to find a partner and have this life full of romance, find someone that will be my "second half", have this romantical moments with this person, have dates and etc. I was hearing from almost everywhere how important this "Love" is and that I should have the same. Because "that's the most fulfilling thing in life". And so I pretended. Pretended that I actually feel this. And damn I was so good at this, that at some point I convinced MYSELF, that I feel it. Realising that romance wasn't for me and that I'm not suited for it anyhow was so... Relaxing? I finally don't need to look through everyone I see in hopes something will "drag" me to them, I don't need to have this awkward "Is this what couples do, isn't it?" thought living constantly in my mind because of trying TO CONVINCE myself I love someone. There's no thinking about "Do I love my friend?" after every social interaction because I obviously DON'T. And of course, I'm not thinking that I'm broken or damaged because well... I'm not.
Realising that I'm aro was one of the most important and fantastic things in my life. I still have to deal with pressure because of the society I live in but... that's not as painful as it was. Because I know who I am and that it'll probably stay like this for the rest of my life. And that I don't need to run after the concepts that I don't need and don't understand. Yes, I can find them entertaining in media for sure but... There's no pressure from myself that tells me to try to fit in for the simple reason: "Everyone has it, you should too".
I think we need to talk about how some aromantics (me included) still suffer from amatonormativity while being comfortable in a queerplatonic relationships. We always try to make them more "worthy" in the eyes of allos, more similar to the relationships allo have, so they stopped asking questions, or even complaining. But we shouldn't. That's the whole point of queerplatonic relationships — they're not typical, they're special and that's what makes them so beautiful. Yes, they can look like typical romantical relationship, but it should be in a way that people IN relationship will decide, not outsiders.
The final thought? Fuck amatonormativity of course
