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NPD with ASPD traits flag for myself because I didn't vibe with the one I found!
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ADHD, ASPD, Autism and NPD combo flags!
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Tagging @mad-pride and @radiomogai
it bothers me so much when "mental health advocates" are only supportive of the "acceptable" symptoms and disorders...
people who "advocate" for depression but call others disgusting for having trouble showering, or people who "advocate" for trauma survivors but say you shouldnt express your trauma in art or talk about it because its "triggering"...
people who "advocate" for BPD but demonize NPD and ASPD as if they arent in the same cluster...
people "support mental health" until it isnt relatable. people "support mental health" until it cant be romanticized. people "support mental health" until symptoms disrupt life. people "support mental health" until symptoms are noticeable and not easily hidden.
you are not an advocate if you do not advocate for us all. you cannot be a mental health advocate while also talking badly about people with personality disorders, including ASPD and NPD. you cannot be a mental health advocate if you make fun of autistic people who are visibly autistic. you cannot be a mental health advocate if you call the police on someone with psychosis for talking to themselves in public.
if your entire "advocacy" revolves around demonizing more "severe" symptoms or disorders, and romanticizing the "good" and "relatable" symptoms or disorders, you are not an ally. you are feeding into stereotypes.
i have ASPD and NPD. the amount of hate i see in "advocate" spaces is honestly shocking. if your entire advocacy revolves around "helping depressed autistics escape evil narcissists!!!!", you are not an advocate, you are ableist.
people with stigmatized disorders or symptoms should not have to water down the way they experience life and describe their personal symptoms and experiences just to avoid being called bad people. by demonizing some disorders while romanticizing others under the guise of "advocacy", you are spreading misinformation and reinforcing stereotypes. you are worsening the stigma for people who already struggle. you are harming everyone with struggles, because a lot of society does not see a difference of "good" vs "bad" mental illness. to ableist neurotypicals, we are all bad.
you hurt the entire community by excluding your own.
you advocate for all of us, or you help none of us.
messages for those with NPD, BPD, ASPD, or HPD
you are loved, valued, and important.
the people in your life care about you, even if sometimes it doesn't feel that way.
i'm glad you're here today.
your needs matter. your feelings matter. your limits matter.
Adding to this so we can make it relatable for more neurodivergents:
Lack of/little empathy doesn't imply lack of sympathy.
Delusions aren't just strong beliefs.
Psychosis is more dangerous for those who experience it than to the ones around them.
Compulsions aren't just habits.
Hallucinations aren't exclusively auditory or visual.
Maladaptive daydreaming is an important coping mechanism.
Slow learners aren't dumb.
Intrusive thoughts don't make anyone a bad person.
"Narcissitic abuse" and "borderline abuse" are unnecessary, stereotype-spreading terms.
Meltdowns aren't tantrums.
Burnout isn't procrastination.
Stims aren't pointless.
Shutdowns aren't just lack of attention.
Verbal shutdowns aren't a "silence treatment".
Hyperfixations aren't useless.
Special interests are more than obsessions.
Phobias aren't regular fears.
Panic attacks aren't controllable.
Self-harm isn't a trend.