Exclusionist - Blog Posts
Dear exclusionists and gatekeepers please explain:
You say aspec people don't belong in the LGBTQIA+ community because we are are "not oppressed enough" or "basically straight" but then proceed to say that the A in LGBTQIA+ stands for ally. Like WTF?! Allys most of the time are cishet people. They are straight, they aren't oppressed based on their sexuality in any way and you say they are part of the community and we aren't?! Please explain I don't get it.
I agree with the labels not being contradictory towards whatever orientation you may be yet I have to add
heteromantics are queer and thus LGBTQ+.
You don't have to like the same gender to be queer you just don't follow amatonormativity and/or heteronormativity. Let me add, this is typically not by choice like how asexuals and aromantics don't have a choice in not feeling attraction.
They have a different experience than that of heterosexuals. You may not notice, as I am going to assume that you are an allosexual/romantic by your word choice, but this world is heavily sex and romance crazed.
I am an aroace demiboy and you won't believe how hard it is to live in a society like this. We do face oppression like you as well, I'm not going to argue which is worse homophobia or aphobia because oppression isn't a contest but we do have to face discrimination as well.
Not just corrective rape and conversion 'therapy', but some doctors even put ace patients off of meds if found to lower their libido. There is nothing wrong with feeling no sexual and/or romantic attraction yet we feel broken for years. When we hear the terms asexual or aromantic we realize there is nothing wrong with us afterall.
You have to remember that this community was made to protect everyone thrown out by the amato/heteronormative society. Asexuals and aromantics experience oppression and need support just like everyone else in the LGBT+ community. Instead of infighting and saying who gets to be allowed in or not lets actually fight discrimination.
Asexuals and Aromantics are an important part of the community.
Is this person trying to say that being ace or aro makes you less of your sexual orientation…? This is just,,, so silly. A gay ace or a gay aro isn’t “basically” gay, they are gay.
Being gay doesn’t make you any less ace and being ace doesn’t make you any less gay. They aren’t contradictory! Same goes for every other sexual orientation and with being aro
~Mod Pluto
Don't exclude ANY a-spec/aro-spec identity otherwise I'll eat you. [Heteromantics are queer as well and you can fight me exclusionists.)
don’t make me tap the sign…
