Ok so, while I agree with you that aspec people are not systemically oppressed like for example lesbians or gay people. My point was, that apparently, to be part of the LGBTQIA+ community you need to be oppressed. But just because we aren't oppressed by any law, doesn't mean aspec people don't face hate a.k.a aphobia.
I'm not out to a lot of people (I'm ace and probably biromantic), actually I only told one of my friends that I was ace, and she straight up said, she didn't believe me. She said asexuality doesn't exist.
We are told that our sexuality, the way feel is not real or that there is something wrong with us. I'm not out to my family, but I talked to my mother about some things to find out what her opinion is on asexuality. She said that a relationship without sex can't exist and that there is no other reason for relationships other than sex. Aspec people are told their whole lives, that the way they want to experience love and affection doesn't exist or is wrong. Looking at that it seems like our experience with this is quite similar to other members of the LGBTQ+ community. So while we are not systemically oppressed our experience and the social challenges we face are very similar to LGBT challenges.
Also, yes allies are supporters but they are not part of the community, they support the community. Because you mentioned blm, white allies are welcome in black spaces but aren't part of the black community as far as I know. The same goes for straight allies. They are welcome in LGBTQIA+ spaces but aren't part of the community. Yes, straight aces are still cishet, I never said it was different. What I was trying to say was, people exclude aspec people for being cishet and then include straight allies who are also cishet. Still, straight aces are not heterosexual, since they are ace and therefore differ from the heteronormative.
This is my opinion, I hope this was enough information so that you can explain yours now.
You say aspec people don't belong in the LGBTQIA+ community because we are are "not oppressed enough" or "basically straight" but then proceed to say that the A in LGBTQIA+ stands for ally. Like WTF?! Allys most of the time are cishet people. They are straight, they aren't oppressed based on their sexuality in any way and you say they are part of the community and we aren't?! Please explain I don't get it.
You say aspec people don't belong in the LGBTQIA+ community because we are are "not oppressed enough" or "basically straight" but then proceed to say that the A in LGBTQIA+ stands for ally. Like WTF?! Allys most of the time are cishet people. They are straight, they aren't oppressed based on their sexuality in any way and you say they are part of the community and we aren't?! Please explain I don't get it.