Cultured and Self-Improvement Activities to Undertake when Self Isolation is Over:
Getting a private language tutor. Arabic is my second language and I want to heighten and sharpen my skills even further to full professional capacity. After this, I plan to take group French classes to pick up some lingo!
Cooking classes! I am planning to make a reservation at the best cooking school in the city with a friend for a French 3 course cooking lesson. We will learn to cook ratatouille, cheese soufflé and creme brûlée - paired with glass after glass of red wine!
Salsa dancing: so much fun, great workout and easy way to meet new people!
Deep extraction facial at a high end dermatology clinic to get you ready for your post iso life!
Patisserie lessons at a professional pastry school
Explore high end boutiques with a curated selection of Italian, Scandinavian and European brands of clothing, bags and accessories: learn about fabrics, manufacturing, quality and geography
Watch a classic musical at the Capitol Theatre
Head to community markets in affluent neighbourhoods
Writing workshops! My goal is to exercise the creative side of my writing more, as well as develop professional research methodologies. A 2-3 day group writing workshop is an amazing investment.
Cheese and wine tastings
Horse riding
Boxing classes! Tone up, build insane stamina and lose fat
Supporting local theatre and play performances
Calligraphy class
Improv class - learn to think on the spot, communicate better, and interact with a wide, spontaneous variety of people more effectively!
Seasonal events at art and history museums
Pasta-making class with an Italian nonna!
Exploring a new bar, lounge, pub or venue every week! Experiencing different scenes, vibes, crowds and liquors
Thank you! Is it okay if you could give me a bit of advice? I think I want to take the suggestions I’ve read on free styling for more of a spoiled girlfriend route instead of being a sugar baby but I’m going to start free styling this weekend and I wanted to know if you had any other important suggestions you would like to offer.
Note: I want to add that this person sent me a personal message (before sending me this ask) so I will be a addressing a few things that weren’t included in the ask.
My biggest suggestion to you is to remember that free-styling is usually a numbers game. You may not hit it big on your first day/night out so don’t give up on your first try. The first few times you’re out free-styling is really just about you getting use to it and getting comfortable with talking to men. A lot of girls give up on free styling too soon because they didn’t reap any rewards the first or second time they tried. DON’T BE THAT GIRL. Don’t give up on it.
Now onto my suggestions:
Plan ahead. Pick out the places you’re going to visit ahead of time (don’t wait until Thursday night to start looking). I like to pick out a few places to go to that are all close to one another or a place that may have multiple bars/lounges/etc. That way if one place is dead (or I need to get away from a man) my entire night isn’t a total bust because I have multiple places/areas to go to.
Be sure to look at the photos (my favorite place to do this is Yelp because people aren’t trying to stunt on Yelp like they do on IG lol) get an idea of the kind men that frequent this establishment (look at how they’re dressed). You may also get an idea of the attire you should be wearing (if you were unsure).
A quick note on attire: I personally like to dress a bit more on the “conservative” side when I free-style; instead of a mini skirt, it’s knee length, makeup may be the “bombshell” look (especially if I’m going out at night), but it’s done in more neutral colors, etc.
Look at the menu. Aim for places that are $$$ or $$$$ on Yelp, Open Table, TripAdvisor. Even better is to look for places that are recommended for business travelers (if that’s your type). Knowing what you’re going to order ahead of time also makes things easier (I’m one of those people that will read the entire menu 3 days before I go lol).
Have some money with you. Enough to at least buy yourself 2 drinks and a tip. Hopefully you won’t need it, but you never know. Sometimes it’s a slow night, and this is just my personal opinion but I feel like if you’re sitting at a bar with a glass of water or club soda and lime, it’s a tell-tale sign to a trained eye that says “I have no money and I’m waiting on someone to buy me a drink.”
Be nice to bartender/waitress. Make some small talk during the “down” times when you don’t have any POTS to talk to. The bartender/waitress may end up being your best resource when it comes to free styling. Remember, they work here and they know everyone that comes here. And when they see a pretty woman sitting at the bar they’re already halfway assuming that you’re there to catch a man with money. And in this case, the stereotype works in our favor. Usually if you’re nice to them (and tip them well) they’ll be nice to you and “tip” you well. They’ll let you know the best day to do your “hunting” and they’ll let you know who you should avoid and you should chat up.
Also, know when to leave the bar/lounge/lobby. Sometimes it’s just a bad night. Maybe the bartender is being an ass or you’re not meeting any POTs. Pay for your drink and just try another place. Don’t feel like you’re stuck to one place just because it was your first choice.
Now, I know that you were nervous about what to actually say so I’m going to make another post about what to do once you’ve gotten a guy’s attention!