i get sooo many asks and DMs asking for tips on how to get better at edging so i wanted to make an actual post about how i turned myself into a total edgeslut — and how you can, too! there's really only one main 'rule' to follow while you're learning how to edge, so i promise you can do it! this info should still be applicable regardless of your particular genitalia, but i mostly reference cunts because that's what i've got.
my ultimate suggestion for people who are new to edging and finding it almost impossible is to STOP TRYING TO EDGE. some of you are going like that's crazy edging is all i want to do! but listen to me. listen to me. we are going to get you there.
if horniness is a scale of one to ten, with one being 'not horny at all' and ten being 'orgasming' the ideal edging situation is that you get to a nine and then stop. that's really hard to do, though! but you could probably get to a four and stop, right? pretty easily, even.
that's what you want to do. figure out that highest number on that scale you can go and still stop, and go to that number. do this a lot. i love, love, LOVE touching like this, even now that i am a pro at edging, because there's zero risk of going over and it's still a great tool to keep you horny / submissive / feeling hot as hell / whatever it is you want to get out of edging.
start at bringing yourself to a four and then stop. once you've mastered that, once that feels almost too easy, move up to a five. then a six. seven. i encourage you not to cum at all while you're doing this, but also, i'm not your dom! do what you want! the point is you're touching-without-cumming a lot (which is great practice all on it's own) and you're acclimating your body to getting horny, sometimes even REALLY horny, without actually cumming every time it happens.
doing this regularly also has the pleasant side-effect keeping you aroused more often than not. if you're constantly bringing yourself to level seven horniness and then stopping, you are almost never going to drop below level three. you are going to be turned on a LOT, which feels sooooo good. which leads to...
the thing about being always horny, about touching yourself all the time, about never cumming, is that it feels really, really good. people wouldn't do denial if it didn't! and once you've had a month or so of touching-but-not-edging and your body's adjusted to the sense of being constantly turned on and how good it feels, it gets to a point where cumming is a lot less appealing. you know it's going to take away the good, horny, happy feeling that you're getting addicted to! once you've come to really, really enjoy being constantly horny, and come to associate the idea of cumming with losing that good feeling, that makes it a lot easier to keep from going over as you creep up to higher levels like eight and nine. and even when you do go over, the fact that you'll lose the sensation that you've come to enjoy so much will just reinforce for you that it's better not to cum!
*i'm using addicted as a fun little hyperbole word here, but i do want to add the disclaimer that if your edging / horniness / etc. starts to interfere with your life like a real addiction then you gotta stop that before you hurt yourself. do not actually jeopardize your job/relationships/etc. for kink.
by this point, you'll have lots of practice at masturbating without going over and you'll be addicted to the feeling of being constantly turned on — and you'll dread the thought of losing that feeling. those things combined are the peak edging scenario. this is the point when you can start trying to edge seriously; bringing yourself to a nine on our horny scale and stopping.
you will probably still go over occasionally as you figure out your actual limits — don't be angry at yourself for this, but do refrain from trying to edge again on days you go over. the last thing you want is to reacclimate your body to coming regularly. if you try to edge in the morning but go over by mistake, just bring yourself to a level eight for the rest of the times you masturbate and try again tomorrow. eventually, you'll know your limits, be addicted to the feeling of being edged, and be really practiced at doing it!
if you're still having trouble or just want to play in new ways, then find out what turns you on but you can't orgasm from. your nipples are sensitive enough to break your brain but you can't orgasm just from that? well then get to playing with them, dummy! love penetration but can't come from it without clit stimulation? tape off your clit and get fucking! i can never cum just from humping a pillow or grinding on something, so grinding is a great way for me to edge! try to find stuff that makes you really, really horny but that you can't orgasm from and really lean into those things!
WARNING - This is going to make you such a dumb, fuzzy headed little slut. This is not for inexperienced edgesluts, and will take experienced ones so fucking deep, you might not want to leave. 1 - Start by rubbing your clit. Good girl. Keep listening to it, making her feel good. You’re going to get your clit close.. Because it’s not you that gets close, it’s your clit, isn’t it..? She tells you when to rub her and you listen like a good girl. Listen to her and make her feel as good as you know how to. Every time you change how you rub and it feels better, keep going.. Don’t stop. Never stop. Keep rubbing and rubbing your clit.. Don’t continue until you feel it’s starting to get close..
2 - Stop playing with your clit and start rubbing your g-spot instead. Curl your fingers up inside your wet little pussy and feel that swollen patch inside you and starting rubbing it properly.. That’s it, make it feel good.. It feels different to your clit doesn’t it..? That’s why this feels so good, slut.. We’re building up two different edges at the same time.. Keep rubbing. I bet your little cunt is leaking all over your fingers, isn’t it? Dirty little whore. Your head’s going to be getting VERY fuzzy now, but this is only just the beginning.. Keep rubbing until your feel your g-spot get close, only then can you continue..
3 - Swap back to your clit.. Notice how different it feels now? I bet your fingers are dripping with your cum, aren’t they? Dirty little edgeslut. Don’t stop, keep rubbing your clit for me.. This is where you start dropping deeper than normal.. With regular edging, your mind drops as your orgasm builds up, but then you need to stop at the top, but not anymore.. Now you just swap to your g-spot instead, so you build and build and when you’re close, you swap.. Build and build and build and swap, so you don’t need a break. You don’t need to stop, and as this goes on your mind goes deeper and deeper, as you get dumber and dumber, just rubbing your mind away.. You’re just a horny little edgeslut, sinking deeper and deeper, never giving her mind a rest from this gorgeous pleasure you love so much.. Every time you get close with your clit, swap to your g-spot.. Every time your g-spot is close, swap back to your clit.. Your head’s getting very fuzzy now, isn’t it slut? But you love this feeling, don’t you? This is why you do it.. To lose yourself like this.. Keep going and going until you can barely touch your clit or g-spot before you’re close.. Feel how pathetic and needy you are, building up and up and up. When you can barely touch before getting close, only THEN are you ready to move on.. And this is where you drop deeper and get dumber than ever before..
4 - Rub your clit and g-spot at the same time, but be careful not to cum.. For some horny little edgepuppets, this can be too much and they can’t take the combination of pleasures.. It pushes them over the edge and ruins their orgasm, but hold back.. Keep rubbing both together. Listen to how good they feel at the same time.. This is where your mind drops deeper.. Overwhelming your body with two different edges.. Dirty little slut.. Keep going. Don’t stop. Never stop. Good girls edge. You’re never going to want it to end.. Keep rubbing. Feel how wet and leaky your cunt is. Hear your deep, guttural moans.. Don’t stop.. Never stop.. Feel how good your clit and g-spot feel together.. Keep rubbing. Rub your mind away. Don’t stop.. Never stop..