When Lily realized she liked James back instead of asking him out she told him to ask her out again to give him that satisfaction of her saying yes send tweet
Okay I understand that! From what we see of Jily in canon (which was only actually 5th year and then how much they loved each other when they died) they were something akin to rivals back then. Which… they were 16 at most, so, y’know. I do stand by my point that Snape’s relationship with the Marauders wasn’t bullying, but their relationship was inherently negative. They both had friend groups that fought near-constantly, and it was definitely vicious, there’s no doubt about that. I just think that it went both ways and, honestly, I wouldn’t blame them if they were bullying a guy who was, for all intents and purposes, a death-eater in the making (and was very vocal about it). I would also like to note that Snape was obsessed with Lily and her feelings towards James were probably exaggerated to some extent by his negative biases towards James! From what we hear from Sirius, she didn’t actually hate him all that much, just found him a bit annoying (which, to be fair, he was also biased in the other direction, but he’s always a lot more honest than Snape in canon, so I’m taking his word a little bit more seriously). Circling back to what I said about James and Lily’s relationship, based on their actions when they died, it’s very clear that they both grew up a lot and are clearly much better people for it. But you are very right that JKR’s work is always kind of bad, even if it’s canon, so I’m glad that we, as a fandom, have managed to expand on her ideas to something less inherently horrible.
I ship fanon jily but I do not ship canon jily. You're telling me a guy who bullied a girl's best friend, harrassed her, wouldn't take no for an answer when she made it clear she wasn't interested in him, told her he'd stop bullying said friend if she went out with him, ended up marrying said girl? And she had a baby at 21? Sounds pretty toxic to me (even if said 'best friend' was also a dick).