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900 Million People Practice Polygamy
A friend of mine said he thought only Muslims have more than 1 wife, but I remembered other groups who did, as well as the fact that 99% of Muslims I've met only had 1 wife (though 41% or more of Muslims are recorded as being polygamists), so here is the list of groups of people whose lifestyle is polygamy; having more than one wife at the same time:
⦁ Buddhists (even in nations such as Nepal and Bhutan, confirmed by my friends who live there and grew up there)
⦁ Celts (and many of their deities)
⦁ Christians (Mormons and various others of this religion's more than 45,000 denominations)
⦁ Hindus (during the Vedic times and others)
⦁ Jews (such as King Solomon (who had more than 900 wives and more than 300 concubines) and others)
⦁ Mongols, such as Genghis Khan and most of his male relatives for several generations before and after his reign (Genghis Khan, in fact, had so many that today there are 37 MILLION people related to him, 16 million are direct descendants of him, and that means 1 out of every 200 people on Earth comes from his life of polygamy --maybe that's why they say all Asians look alike! LOL)
⦁ Muslims (mostly Sultans and other well-to-do families)
⦁ Native Americans (many tribes, in fact --and that is for ALL the Americas; North, Central/Latin, and South)
⦁ Norse, such as Viking warlords (and many of their deities)
⦁ Royalty (many patriarchs well known throughout history in dozens of nations around the world have had many wives at the same time)
⦁ Atheists (Charlie Sheen comes to mind; two wives at the same time)
⦁ Scientologists (yes, some of their beliefs are rather amusing, but that is beside the point here)
⦁ Deities (many ancient gods, in general; not just of the Celts or Norse, are said to've had lots of wives)
⦁ and more than 200 million of the people in my country alone have, according to surveys and statistics from others sources, considered some degree of this lifestyle, usually starting by experimenting with affairs for a variety of reasons --including the fact that their spouses and other partners were turned ON by such 'cheating'; it actually strengthened their relationships, contrary to popular belief (or hater-agendas, propaganda, and media-flooding)
⦁ there are more than 50,000 known polygamists in the USA alone, and that number has been doubling every few years (even though, technically, excepting in Utah, polygamy is frowned upon by some U.S. laws)
⦁ and then there is the fact that nearly 50 million people use affairs-based online communities such as Ashley Madison, many of those flings resulting in secret second (and third) marriages
⦁ and polygamy is not only legal, but protected by law in more than half the 196 countries on this Earth
⦁ and I was even married to a woman who was a polygamist; she had another husband living in another country at the same time she was married to me
⦁ in total, about 1/8 of the human population practices polygamy (nearly 1 billion people), and between 1/3 and 1/2 of the human population lives in nations which either protect or at least allow polygamy (2.5 to 3.7 billion people live near polygamists, are accustomed to polygamy in their daily lives, and/or ARE the polygamists)
And if polygamy wasn't demonized by insecure individuals and groups, you'd better believe that the percentage of humans practicing polygamy would skyrocket from its current 13% to something more like 90%.
So when you see on my website that I, too, am a polygamist, now you know that it is actually quite common, perfectly normal, and as natural, healthy, and timeless as any relationships get. Yes, I will have many more wives in the future. Yes, I have the capacity to love them all. Yes, they will be in love with me and each other; we will all love one another fully and equally. Yes, it is okay. Yes, it is fun. Yes, I highly recommend it.
Polygamy isn't for everyone, but it IS for a LOT of people just about EVERYWHERE (~90 nations so far, and counting). Give it a try. You might be glad you did.
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Primal Chic: The Princess Saves Herself & The Planet in this It Girl meets Survivalist Lifestyle
If you think it girl, you may think of high maintenance, high consumption, pampered, luxe living. I want you to take a step back from that idea with me and introduce a new mindset, Primal Chic. Borrowing from the Clean Girl, GORP Girl, It Girl, Stoic, Survivalist, and Prepper, Primal Chic is all about minimizing your impact on the planet, maximizing your self-sufficiency, and building meaningful sisterhood.
Primal Chic in 3 Words is: Sustainability, Self-Sufficiency, & Sisterhood.
Body: Fuel, Movement, & Beauty
Fuel: Our bodies and minds need high-quality fuel, and that's offered by a whole-food, paleo diet. Many of the foods on the market are heavily processed and loaded with low-quality fillers that drive calories and macros up without meeting our micronutrient needs. On top of this, a huge segment of the market is imported from outside of our local communities, adding heavily to the carbon footprint of our foods. Choosing locally grown, non-GMO, organic produce and proteins from fair trade, regenerative, or woman-owned agri-businesses is a fantastic stepping stone if you can't generate your own food due to time, space, or monetary constraints. I love shopping locally owned health food stores, farmers markets, and farm stands. The price of organics also goes down if you shop store-brand organics. There are also Facebook groups and Pinterest boards dedicated to Paleo recipe swaps. You also want to make sure you're honoring your body's needs in all of it's areas, rest, relaxation, movement, and nutrition.
Movement: Functional, outdoor movement benefits body, mind, and soul. A good hike, a lake swim, or even just a good jog with your pets are all great ways to get your cardio in. Outdoor yoga, rucks, rock climbing, and calisthenics are low-cost, high-reward strength and conditioning exercises that help you to keep toned and ready for action in your day-to-day life. Don't forget ROM either, active recovery walks, daily yoga, and deep stretches ensure you remain flexible and reduce pain from tight, stiff muscles and joints. Adding in a few friends allows you to build sisterhood and meet your social needs too, and being outdoors helps with the chronic vitamin D deficiencies most modern women face.
Beauty: Choosing clean, sustainable beauty and reducing the number of products used is good for your body due to fewer toxins, your mind with lower body and facial dysmorphia from high glam makeup looks, and the planet with less harsh manufacturing processes. Consider switching to multi-use products, reducing the number of products in your skincare & makeup routines, and swapping to washable/reusable body, skin, and feminine hygiene products to care for yourself and our planet. I'll be going into more detail on the swaps I made personally in a blog post next week.
Side Note: Planning a girl's weekend yoga retreat or having a buddy to do the Whole30 (a great intro to Paleo eating) with you is a great way to build up your sisterhoods and your own resolve for this new lifestyle.
Mind: Clarity, Wisdom, and Continuous Growth
Stoicism: The serenity prayer is a fantastic example of the basis of stoicism, letting go of the things you can't control or change, courageously sticking to your values and virtues and changing or controlling the things you can, living in harmony with nature, practice emotional mindfulness and emotional chastity, and practice resilience, learning to bounce back from failures and misfortune. With all things in life there is a learning curve, and allowing yourself to be ruled by algorithms, propaganda, and impulses reduces your own personal power.
Minimalism: Cut out overconsumption to help save the planet, save your wallet, and save your space. Choosing quality, durable, practical, and multi-purpose items allows you to spend less time organizing and cleaning and more time with friends and family, and doing the things that truly feed your soul. You don't have to have a spartan, sterile, white living space to embrace minimalism either, you can still inject your own personal style and personality into your choices, but be more mindful about where and how you're spending your hard-earned money.
Dedication to Continuous Growth: Instead of doom-scrolling or watching brain-rotting television, try switching out social media for micro-learning, soaps for documentaries, and limiting screen time to 1-3 hours per day. Try switching out happy hour for a self-defense or first aid class. Get involved with book swaps and information databases or group PDF sharing.
Heart: Love Thyself, Love Thy Neighbor, Love Thy Planet
Self-Love: Forming a sisterhood and meaningful community starts with loving yourself. You can't draw from an empty well, so being honest and vulnerable with yourself and taking care of yourself is the first step in being able to be there for others at your most authentic. Reminding yourself of your inherent value is important.
Earth: The frequencies of the earth are often interfered with by our man-made surroundings, taking time to ground yourself and connect with the world around you, either on your own, or in a group, is good for the heart. Try and take an hour or two per day and spend it outdoors, really soaking in the beauty you may have been numbed to by having it become mundane.
Connection & Community: Not everyone you meet deserves your whole heart and mind, however, they do deserve basic human dignity and respect, for those closer to you, they do deserve having a reliable friend who they can turn to in times of need and times of victory. Forming meaningful connections across generational divides makes us stronger as women and enriches our lives.
Soul: Mindfulness, Purpose, & Resilience
Mindfulness: Meditation, nature walks, situational awareness, and group activities keep the mind and soul well-fed and the senses sharp should the need arise for defense. Live in the moment as much as you can, rather than drift aimlessly through life without a plan of attack. Spontaneity can still exist here, as you should have a balance of routine and flexibility.
Purpose: What drives you? Who drives you? What values are at your core? Answering these questions allows you to live a purposeful life where you are true to yourself and your community. If your values don't align with the life you're living what changes do you need to have them align?
Resilience: You don't have to make your life harder, but preparing for life's rough times through mental, spiritual, physical, financial and material preparedness is still important. Building a solid community will help with this, but ensuring you yourself have the tools and skills necessary for survival will help even more so.
Planet: Stewardship, Sustainability, and Conscious Consumption
Stewardship: Bring a bag with you on walks and hikes to collect trash and follow the old Girl Scout principle of leaving things better than you found them. Encourage sustainable practices with where you shop and invest your time and resources, and take advantage of your local parks and wild spaces.
Sustainability: Opt for natural materials in clothing, decor, & home goods. Choose materials like wood, cotton, real fur, leather, and linen rather than plastics and petroleum-derived products or "natural" materials with harsh production processes like viscose or bamboo fiber. Reduce your consumption of new products, and shop thrift or vintage where you can, and go as ecologically friendly and durable as you can afford when buying new.
Conscious Consumption: Shop local, woman-owned, small business, and fair trade products wherever you can, skip out on mega polluters like Amazon or Shien, and avoid sweatshop and slave labor wherever you can. Before making purchases, ask yourself if you truly need an item or if you're just looking for a quick dopamine hit. Mend your things if possible rather than trashing them, and opt for donation of things in good condition that no longer fit with who you are.
All in all, the Primal Chic lifestyle is attainable for everyone, and about making conscious, cognizant steps toward a more meaningful, impactful, and mindful life where you live sustainably, & self sufficiently while building meaningful community and sisterhood.