Ok. Question time:
As someone who is neurodivergent I love labels for myself. I love labelling every part of my life. This sometimes causes stress as to which labels I fit into.
Now I have realized that at this point in my life I identify with the labels;
Aroflux (fluctuating between apothiromantic and Aegoromantic usually falling closer to Aegoromantic)
Bellusexual (enjoying the aspects around sex but not sex itself)
And many others that don’t apply
Now my question is, does the aro ace label apply to me or does the aroallo label apply?
So, I know I don’t feel sexual attraction or romantic attraction. But I get this weird feeling sometimes. I thought it was gender envy because I only felt it towards guys but then I felt it toward Dixie who want a guy the other day.
It’s like I feel like I want to complement the person but I don’t because I don’t want them to think I want to fuck them.
It’s definitely not aesthetic attraction because I know what that feels like.
But like, can I think someone is attractive “romantically” but not have romantic feelings.
My allo friends always talks about thinking people are pretty or cute or good looking but then when I ask they say they aren’t into them in any way.
So is this just like extrem aesthetic attraction or is it something else?