Relationships - Blog Posts
First of all Merry Christmas everyone. I’m kind of new to this arena so I’m still a work in progress. Just started a blog about my online dating experiences. Hope everyone with a good or bad experience can relate. No expert advise just my own personal experiences.
WTF?
All that looking and staring and talking and asking and texting and sweating and calling and meeting and seeing and eating and drinking and repeating and trying and lying and promising and touching and hugging and kissing and licking and sweating and undressing and resisting and submitting and letting go and giving in and moaning and cursing and screaming and cumming and going and pulling out and pulling away and questioning and going with it and rethinking and getting dressed and regret and being quiet and accepting and ignoring and cursing and screaming and crying and lying will have you wondering wtf just happened?
There not be a one size fits all answer
What is the meaning of life?
Idk
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okay but i just like told my boyfriend few weeks ago that i blocked my crush tiktoker because she is filming on straight tiktok and i don’t want to be there and she always throws me back into this bs, aaaannnndddd today he sent me her vid with words like “i know you miss her” AND MAYBE i’m over reacting but i just find it so cute, i mean he like remembered it, and then he just im just DAMN like we are dating for like 8 months now and like idk still having those small things making me happy just makes me feel better about relationships and honestly everything else
🦋girlfriend aesthetic🦋
when we drive i will sit next to you and dance to all kinds of songs, meanwhile singing even when i don’t know lyrics
cook you food and bring it for our dates
creating playlists just for you so you will remember about me when you listen to it
hand-made presents with main concept to maintain memories
call you by cute nick names
write you love letters and big text messages about how much i appreciate your existence
hug you from behind and kiss you in the forehead
facetime you at night to fall asleep, but only after you to admire your cute sleepy face
i will draw flowers on my skin, your touch made me bloom and i didn’t have that for a while. early morning runs are now my favorite moments, just like time that ran so fast, when u were next to me. maybe i need you back, maybe i need to get over us. but honestly it doesn’t matter what i need to do, because all i want is you, but i’m not what will make you happy, and i’m not gonna be selfish on this one. my first love, my first real love, i thought it is going to hurt, but it doesn’t. a lessons is learnt but do i want to keep on moving? do i want to be in this hole, and feel not whole ever again? my letter that you will never receive. my true feeling that you will never acknowledge. i could give you time, all of the time on earth to think, i could wait my whole life, for you to come and kiss me on my death bed telling me that you decided to stay and love me like you should. just for a minute. just for a moment. i desire to be yours so badly, i gave up on meaning at all, i want to scream, but only whisper leaves my mouth, and it says “i still and will always fucking love you”. week, one fucking week to decide my whole destiny, please choose me, please be happy with me, please love me like i do. maybe it is too much to ask, maybe i am so stupid and clueless, but hope you will never leave me, just keep me closer to your body, and let me feel the heat. just one more time, just one more call, and one more hang out. fall in love with me. just once again. i need you. i crave for you. this is pathetic, maybe. but my need of you is just immaculate and i can’t hold it back.
Belated "Ground Rules" in a relationship
Unless you're still in Jr High and are dating your first boyfriend\girlfriend ever, you should relate to the immaturity of belated 'ground rules' in a relationship. Seriously... "ground rules" for what each person feels is appropriate behavior, boundaries on types of and\or gender of friends, and how to balance your time evenly between your job\school with your friends & new relationship should all be laid out on the table and made definitive and finite as soon as you both realize you are getting 'serious'. There is nothing that turns me off more then being 6 months to 2 years into a relationship with a guy\girl and all of a sudden BAM!!! Things they were "ok" with are suddenly relationship ending no-no's that must end. o_O???
I'm sure most of us have dealt with the most common of these belated ground rules: No friendships allowed with the opposite sex! (-____-)
WORSE....When its a bias belated ground rule because they themselves have friends of the opposite sex. The infamous 'lil sisters' they love so much. *eye roll*
If you KNEW I grew up as "just one of the guys" and played sports and watch sports now as an adult, and had ABSOLUTELY NO PROBLEM with me going to watch games at the sports bar or live at the stadium with my guy friends when we met.... You have no business getting pissed about it 4 years later!!! Especially if I proactively chose to tune it down looooong before you started having 'issues' with it out of respect for our relationship, because I'd rather do these things with you then them. If you've met and chilled with these guy friends of mine (and when doing group hangs - their girlfriends) your damn self. You have all their numbers in your own cell phone and they are on your Facebook just the same as they are on mine. Why the sudden insecurity? If I'm down to only seeing them at New Year's parties, annual cook outs they host (and you attend with me) and all of our respective birthday gatherings.... Why have an issue with the occasional Facebook comment saying 'hello' or the even rarer text\phone call. Most comical is when they call me for advice on saving their relationships and you insist they go through you 1st before talking to me about it.
It's been 2 years since this drama started creeping into our now 6 year relationship, and I've reached the end of my tolerance with him about it. See, it's been my collective experience as the universal "little sister" that all my boys talk to about their problems that this only happens when the following has happened:
The only reason they were cool with the guy friends in the beginning is because they saw you as a jump off or short term GF at first. So they were exploring other options at the time and didn't care if you were doing the same. Once shit got real for them they decided it was time to reign you in before Karma bit them in the ass.
They were genuinely the loving, trusting, great guy they portrayed themselves as in the beginning but something changed. Either 1 of their 'lil sisters' stepped up and confessed feeling for him all this time and it trying to sleep with him. Making him scared you will do the same with 1 of your boys. (This one I feel opens the door to a new realm of issues that I'll save for another blog)
OR: He actually cheated on you recently and now he's worried Karma will bit him in the ass. So he's trying to do damage control by limiting your opportunities to get him back.
Reason 1 & 3 happen most often so I favor thinking, if he hasn't suddenly stopped talking to one of his 'lil sisters' recently as much as he used to... You need to boot his ass out the door!!!
Ladies and Gents... We all just need to be real straight out the gate and stay real. No script flipping halfway into filming the movie. Be honest, be faithful, and BE YOU and stop the bullshit! ;)
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A story about how Lori has to accept that she may love one sibling more as the others and how to deal with those feelings.
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TO ME IT WAS LIKE COMING UP FOR FRESH WATER--I WAS DROWNING AND THEN I COULD BREATH!!!
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IT IS LIKE TAKE A BREATH AFTER YOU THOUGHT YOU WERE DROWNING!!!
there are whole worlds between 'friend' and 'lover' that we don't talk about, or even have names for... there are levels of love we need to stop ignoring
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Verbal Judo
The other day I heard this on the radio while driving:
I was very intrigued by this as I have been a student of "Verbal Judo" for some years now. I work with people a lot, mostly when they are not at their best (I work with the very ill and those who care for them). Also being I am an introvert and that I can be ironically, um, very vocal, having some insight on how to structure speaking with others when I and/or they are not at their best is super helpful. And truly it has been! I prefer the audiobook by the way and listen to it a lot when jogging, driving, or whatever. Whoever they got to read it I thought was the author reading his own book so it is a very good listen.
Anyway, back to the intrigue of the podcast. When I heard this piece I wondered if this helped shape or influence Mr. Thompson's passion to create a learnable structure for better communication especially in stressful moments ("Verbal Judo").
I'm going to give this podcast a listen and let you know what I learn. If you have listened, no spoilers please!
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‘A little broken is still broken,’ I pointed out. 'But fixable.’
The Impossible Knife of Memory, by Laurie Halse Anderson
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As I said in my description, this blog is going to be my confession and my journal. About me; you can call me “E”. I’m a 41 year old man who has been a dumbass. I’m lucky enough to be dating an amazing and beautiful 24 year old lady, you can call her “B”, who is one of the best people I’ve ever met. She’s beautiful, sexy, smart, intelligent, wise beyond her years, loving, caring, compassionate, funny, and in general just a wonderful person. I truly thank God every day for her being in my life!
Here’s the problem; I’ve been a dumbass. I’ve taken her for granted and made her to feel unattractive, not needed or wanted, and not very loved or appreciated. As such, our relationship is on very rocky ground. I’m honestly afraid that we may not survive the damage that I’ve done. So, here’s to hoping that this isn’t a short-lived blog!
Since I was lucky enough to have God open my eyes, just a short time ago, to the damage that I’ve done and hurt that I’ve caused her I’ve been praying, thinking, and researching everything I can on the subjects of why relationships fail, what I did wrong (or wasn’t doing that she needs and deserves me to be doing), and how to fix it all. Strangely enough, in almost every search I did on the internet (yes, people, I used Google to try to help me figure this out), the subject of male chastity came up (no sick joke intended). I, at first, dismissed it as just some stupid kink or some seldom mentioned aspect of BDSM. However, the more I kept seeing it in the search results, I began to get curious. How could something that a lot of people use to spice up their sex lives, or as a fun game to play sometimes, possibly help me to better be the man I need, and want very much, to be for my girlfriend?
Believe it, or not, there are actually a lot of really good fact, and science, based articles on the subject on the internet. So, I decided to do some reading. This lead to some more reading, and even more reading. Then it led to A LOT of thought, followed by even more prayer. These articles discuss, in scientific terms, why male chastity such an effective aid in helping men to become the attentive, considerate, loving significant other’s that many of us so crave to be. The articles present both the psychological and physiological reasons why men often times fail at being the man that they want to be, and that their significant other needs and deserves for them to be. In short, it amounts to the fact that men have entirely too much control over their penis and their ability to have an orgasm. Men are extremely sexually motivated and driven, and will do most anything to have that need met and/or satisfied. The premise behind male chastity as a relationship aid is to give that control to the man’s partner, making the partner the focus of the man’s attention and efforts (just as it should be in a relationship). Basically, men get lazy. We get what we want and then we just seem lose interest and want to be left alone. That doesn’t mean that we don’t love our partner, it doesn’t mean that we don’t find them attractive anymore, and it doesn’t mean that we don’t care if we neglect or hurt them. It just means that basically a man’s brain short circuits after he has an orgasm. While it is rebooting, so to speak, is when his partner will see the apparent loss of interest and lack of concern for their feelings, wants, needs, and concerns. It’s during this “refractory period” that the damage is usually done in a relationship. Now, you add to that the fact that most every man masturbates and you have a recipe for disaster in a relationship. Most men keep themselves pretty much brain dead between the sex they’re having with their partner and the frequency of their masturbation. This causes the relationship, and their partner, to suffer.
I’ll admit that while I’m at work I’ll find myself thinking about my girlfriend and getting horny. Since she’s not there I’ll go to the bathroom and masturbate. Then, when I get home to her, I’m brain dead and not there to love and support her they way that she needs me to. I can honestly say, after praying about it and thinking about it, I believe that this is the cause of the majority of the problems in my relationship with B. I’ve been keeping myself a brain dead douchebag.
How does giving control of your penis and your orgasms to your partner help you fix being a brain dead douchebag? Excellent question, I’m glad you asked! By giving control of that most important part of your body, and that most important event, to your partner a man makes their partner the focus of their life in every way. Knowing that your partner has control of your favorite piece of your anatomy, and your ability to use it to gain the ultimate pleasure for yourself, is a great motivator. You will become more intently focused on your partner’s needs, wants, desires, and happiness because you know that if you continue to be a douchebag to them you’re not going to get to have an orgasm for a very long time. You become more attentive to their needs and wants, you hold your tongue and think carefully about how you speak to them instead of going off at the mouth like some sailor swearing at a half-starved stray dog, you pay attention to them instead of the TV, computer, video game, or whatever other distractors you’ve been giving their attention to. You start doing things to please them, instead of just doing them with a terrible attitude because you’re tired of hearing them gripe and complain about it. You stop taking for granted all the nice things they do for you and the time that you’re lucky enough to get to spend with them. You appreciate the times you get to just have them close to you and enjoy having that connection. You experience all these wonderful things, and so many more, all because you’re not a brain dead douchebag any more.
Now, with all that being said, if my girlfriend decides not to leave me for being such a sorry douchebag for so long and neglecting and hurting her so much, I plan to ask her to lock me into chastity. I’m sure it’ll be an interesting discussion, she’s not well versed outside of vanilla sex, lol. Hopefully I can broach the subject to her without scaring her off or completely shutting her down. I honestly do think things would be so much better in our relationship if she were my keyholder. I’ll let y’all know how it goes and try to get her on the blog if she accepts my request. Hopefully my next post won’t be that she’s left me because I was so stupid for so long. Anyway, wish me luck!
P.S. There are some other activities that can go hand-in-hand with male chastity that I’ll discuss later. Some of these things include female led relationships (FLR), tease and denial, cuckolding, cock and ball toruture (CBT), and many more.
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“I want to inspire people. I want people to look at me and say “because of you I didn’t give up.””
— Unknown
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Better Together by Sophia Miroedova
"He took his skin off for me"
Most, if not everyone wants and enjoys relationships with others. For many who grew up being abused at the hands of those who were supposed to love them, however, the need for loving attention is both pathologically desperate, and needed for healing. The saddest part of this aftermath is that victims also often gravitate towards the abusers, who are more than happy to take advantage. The fervent need for the time, love, and respect of someone is even harder to attain for those who have been groomed to believe that neglect is normal, abuse is deserved, and basic decency is generous. In those relationships where a decent partner has been found, the formerly abused party is more likely to take the relationship quite seriously - why would their partner treat them with respect and be present unless they deeply loved them? Heartbreak ensues when their partner leaves, and they discover that, even though this person cared for them to some degree, that basic respect was not love, but simply the default behavior of a decent human being. Where it often ends is at the panic and self-loathing which dovetail with abandonment issues that come come crashing back in. We are worth more than this.
When they say "make love, not war," but your cock ring is stretchy enough to shoot at your partner like a rubber band.