Selfcare Tips - Blog Posts
happiness doesn't have to be loud, regular days are so pretty 🤍
Today is my birthday, I didn't do anything special, I made up a pretty set to blew my candles at midnight and I took some cute pictures, only my mom and 2 of my siblings were there but it was a really sweet and happy moment. This morning I ate cake for breakfast, I did a birthday cake face mask, received a cute plant from my dad , found a beautiful forgotten chandelier at home and my mom made me a special dinner with pink napkins.
it was a peaceful day, calm and pretty I would say, not the mainstream type of fun we consume everyday on social media, and I found myself thinking about how 3/4 years ago I wouldn't have been happy about it, I would have been there sad and frustrated because that was not what my birthday should have looked like at this age, but now I can see that would have been so so wrong.
Happiness or fun don't have to look a certain way to be legit, the media want us to think that there's only one aesthetic type of fun, that you need a certain setting to be happy. A lot of times you wouldn't even actually enjoy those things if you had them but they show to you that type of life so persistently and violently that it becomes almost impossible for you to believe something else.
Your type of fun, your type of beauty, your vision of what a perfect day should look like, your aspirations and dreams......everything gets roughly replaced by some empty ideas that don't belong to you at all and that wouldn't have crossed your mind in a thousand years if you had not been fed them every second of every hour.
All of this will probably sound obvious for some of you, and I'm really happy about it, but I know that a couple years ago these words would have helped me a lot and sometimes I still need to hear them. Mindlessly consuming perfect feeds and endless loops of tiktoks can make us think that our life is too empty, we see people younger than us "living the dream" and we feel behind, we feel left out, we begin to hate our regular days because they feel muted in comparison.
But all our days are beautiful and important, don't spend your time wondering if you are actually "living life to its fullest", just do what makes you feel good (as long as you're not harming anyone lol), and if you can't do it yet enjoy everything you can and live your days to their max potential, even when the max potential is good weather, enjoy the process as much as you will enjoy the outcome and be grateful for your imperfect little life.
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Remember: you are an angel, take care🪽
☁️ handle yourself with care, never be harsh to yourself in any occasion, might be your hateful internal monologue or brushing your hair too strongly
☁️ take time during the day to pamper yourself and relax
☁️ don't give yourself an hard time, it's okay to say no when something feels wrong; if your not comfortable doing something, you shouldn't be doing that
☁️ do not torture yourself with past mistakes, you did what felt right in that moment with the knowledge you had and the feelings you were experiencing through being involved in that specific situation. You wouldn't do that again? Great than, you learned something out of it! Now let it go!
☁️ you don't have to convince anyone that you are worth it, if somebody doesn't see that you are great and that you are trying your best, walk away, the right people will come
☁️ remember, that sweet little girl of some years ago is still living inside of you and she's counting on you to protect her and realize her dream, don't let other people walk all over her
☁️ your dreams are important, the things you want are important, your vision is important. The people telling you that they're stupid or that you should pursue something different are just background noise
hope you're having a lovely day🤍