The minute you stop putting bigotry in little boxes of “oh it’s an x thing” or “it’s a y thing” and accept that bigotry is intersectional and doesn’t care about boundaries, you can start helping yourself and your fellow targets of hatred.
Being sexualised without consent isn’t just “oh it’s a girl thing! Welcome to the club trans women!!” It’s about being an “other”. Bigots don’t care about you identifying as a woman or a man, you’re just an other whose identity has been presented through media as inherently sexual. This is why gay men experience it as well as gay women, why trans men, non-binary, and trans women also experience it. This is why the buck doesn’t stop at women. Misogyny, racism, transphobia, and homophobia all intersect in disgusting ways that effect everyone who’s a target.
am I saying it’s bad to vent about your experiences? FUCK NO. I’m saying it’s going to make you lonely when you divide your experiences from other people’s, especially when they relate. DONT MAKE YOUR LIFE HARDER BY SHUTTING OUT EVERYONE ELSE.