Tw Aphobia - Blog Posts
I just found out about a subreddit called r/actualasexuals where the whole thing is being a dick to people who don't fit their narrow definition of asexuality. I just wanted to let people know so they can stay away. Of course, don't harass anyone in that sub, because it doesn't help and it's just plain wrong. Just do everything in your power to stay the hell away!
Can I please walk two steps into the Hazbin fandom without people blatantly erasing Alastor's aro-aceness?
"Oh, but some people who are aro-ace want relationships!"
Yeah, but that excuse gets really fucking old after a while when you seem to use it for literally every asexual character you see, dude! Especially if they're a character you happen to find attractive!
Your aphobia is showing and you're really not doing a good job of hiding it!
I don't think younger/newer users fully grasp the shit show that ace discourse was around 2014-17
It was so hostile that, to this day, discussions that begin to derail just enough can make me physically nauseous, some specific mockery trigger crying sessions years later. We lost most accounts with any sort of ace positivity. There was no information, no support, and all this damage was done predominantly by other queer people.
All this to say that you, however you identify yourself, should be engaging with aphobic comments the same way you do any hate. We don't sugarcoat or try to be comprehensive with people who are blatantly racist, homophobic or terfs, so why give it a pass just because it's coming from a queer person? I see how this tolerance goes and it's done enough damage as it is.